January 11, 2013 10:24am CST
I know my older brother, and older sister are very competitive. They ahve to have everything first because they are older. If for example I get something and they don't they get very jealous. For example a few years ago, I was looking at a new car, mine was on the verge of dying (it actuaally died right at the junk yard when we pulled up). I didn't want anything fancy, I had so much cash put away in savings, so I said just as long I paid it in full. I had bought my car, and not even a week later, my sister needed a new car. She had to have better, it's a year newer, has automatic windows, and car alarm, etc. Yet, she is still in debt frm paying it off, her car that she had before my uncle drove 6 years later. I have been collecting household items with my online earnings, so really it doesn't come out of my pay. My sister went downstairs the other night, and said about all these household items, with my name on the boxes. She suddenly bringing home much better items (now to me it's not really the brand name or price, as long as it works I normally buy Proctor and Silex, or Black and Decker). She brought home a few household items, and started going on about how mch better they are than my cheap crap (I really don't care just as long as it does the job). I have been looking at mobile homes, I put so much away each month. So suddenly my sister needs to look at houses, and how her and her boyfriend will get a house before me. I just walked off with who cares. Now my sisters boyfriend brother just got engaged. His girlfriend and him have been dating a few years now, and they bought a house. My sister has nothing but negative to say about them, they have lived together at least 2 years now in their own house, so obviously they are doing alright. She kept saying how why would you buy a house if you can't afford it, or they do this or that. I just wonder if this competing between siblings everyone has. I just ignore them, my olde brother is the same, he will say how I don't work (meanwhile I work more than him), and I can't survive on my own, or how I will be trailer park trash (at least I wont go paycheque to paycheque, into major debt like he is to have the best of the best as he calls it. They don't affect my income, nor my budgetting. I havent bought a place because I know I dont have enough to put down, I dont want to spend more than I make, I did a budget out and want to have enough to pay my bills, and have some savings just in case. I wont be like him moving from place to place, and having poor credit.
4 people like this
• United States
11 Jan 13
I think sibling rivalry is something we cant escape , I have experience it, also with my cousin . I think you are very hard working from what I have learned about you here . I think you will continue to work hard and get what you want .
• United States
11 Jan 13
It sounds to me that even in these competitions that they have to have, all they want is attention and that's what they are craving for. It's ridiculous how they are putting themselves in debt and buying things they don't need just to one up you and each other. Your sister says she and her bf will get a place before you do, well they'll also be moving back home with mommy and daddy before you have enough saved to go out on your own and stay out on your own. Let them keep doing this, it's not hurting you and perhaps one day they'll learn. One day when you've got a home that you own completely, all the things you need and no credit card debt or living paycheck to paycheck.
• Marikina, Philippines
11 Jan 13
Competition is difficult especially if within family members. There would be conflict and of course, misunderstanding. There would be no peace and harmony within family if there is a competition between siblings unless they made it as a positive aura, like taking it as a challenge and they don't harm anyone. I think that would be fine Anyway, its good that you save and budget your money first.