People who keep on asking

You are a kind person however there are people who knowing who you are may take advantage of this trait. One of the lessons I learned in life is, it is not bad to say no if you think the person who demands help from you could actually help himself if he really wants to. And oftentimes these persons who used to depend on you so much would be the one who seem to be more aggrieved once you turn back on them. Sometimes we get the wrong notion on what real help is, and at times we need to show some selfishness to teach that person how to stand on his own two feet.

yes, just to tell them subtly to go away and pleaseeeeee get out of my way. lol but yest that is prone to abuse... and people will know when to bug me that is when I am in a hurry and busy.

Oh my, i am like reading my own description here. i mean you are not alone! I am the same as you in many ways you have described yourself. I am always finding it hard to say no to others as well.. so when they ask of me, i feel guilty not trying to help them.

You are very kind and generous person, but sadly people may use you to get what they want. It's no problem to give help, favor, or things to people that you generally love or care about. But if the people that you kind towards to begin to take advantage of you, it's the time to say no. Just say no towards them and don't worry if they'll hate or don't like you, if they are then they don't deserve your attention.

Hello! You are so kind for what you are doing. Giving is something that most people fail to do, but giving it is also a gift to other people wherein these care other's sake more than themselves. On the other hand, I personally think that giving anything everytime when someone asks you something is not good. This is not good for you and for that person because there is the word so-called 'spoiling'. Sometimes people take advantage of that "giving" weakness of other people and keeps on asking knowing that that person does not know how to say 'no'. I think everyone should be aware of this in order not to spoil others. Thank you for sharing this idea!

I am a pushover too. Like you can call me up at 3am to give you a ride to the airport and Id do it. Its not really a bad thing unless you think it is. Its all in the mind. Just don't do things that are not in your power. And if you're not willing to do something, don't be afraid to tell them, cause if they really are your friends, they'd respect you if not then you don't need them in your life. You can make room for new people who are better and who can make you a better person too. :)

Trouble is when you give in you are putting them first instead of yourself, and because they see you as giving in and giving them what they want they will continue to ask you, knowing that you won't say no. Saying no is one of the hardest things to do believe it or not, but you have to start doing it, it does get easy believe me. If they don't like it when you say no it's tough, it's not your problem, it's theirs. I know what it's like, I have been in your situation, I have even been in abusive relationships, but I started to say NO, and start putting my needs first.

Hi why are you not firm on your decision? people don't leave you easily if they are used to your helping and taking favor from you. People wont leave you easily that's for sure as they are used to your favors. Its you who have to decide now and if you are not firm on your decision then this keeps going.

You need to ask yourself why you continue to let people use you and abuse your good nature and your friendship. Usually people who let others treat them this way have low self esteem and feel they are worthless, so they should make everyone around them happy to the point of feeling abused. Then, feeling that way they generally believe they deserve it because they are worthless anyway. To give them what they want "to stop them from further disturbing" you is the excuse you give yourself because you know they will not stop disturbing you. They will be back for something else. If you really wanted them to stop disturbing you, you wouldn't give in anymore. Once you stop giving in to them they'll stop disturbing you after a while. But it doesn't sound like this is what you really want. Your people pleasing behavior is called Doormat Syndrome. Here are two sites with helpful information to overcome this habit www.tellinitlikeitis.net/2010/01/people-pleasers-and-doormats-care-what-people-think-about-them.html and http://timetoloveyourself.com/The_Doormat_Syndrome.html

If people think you are an easy touch they will keep on asking. If you can afford to help people then you must also help yourself by continuing to be strict. Persistent people may not be needy, just putting their needs first. It is hard to say no but you are experienced now and know who deserves your help and who doesn't. Don't give in to bullying beggars, in the long run it does not help you or others who appreciate your kindness.