related to my previous post

Philippines
January 19, 2013 11:23pm CST
I'm now confused, I feel really sad we've been together for 11 months now. And next month is our 1st Year anniversary but here I am thinking of breaking up with him. I can't stand him anymore. Now I can say that i am no longer happy.. I've been trying to understand him for months now, trying to salvage our relationship, but I don't think I can do it if I Do it alone.. he should have efforts too right? I always have great plans for us... BuT I never Heard a word from hIm... never heard hIm saying his plans for US? When i think Of breaking up with him it breaks my heart too coz I know that I am the onlY one he has but he is not taking care of me... or maybe I have too much and too many expectations from him? But I understand that he can't give everything to me, I understand that he has shortcomings, And I am working on my shortcomings, but he isn't doing his part and now I goT tired.:-( SHould I break up with Him?
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4 responses
@andy77e (5165)
• United States
20 Jan 13
Are you married? If yes, then no, you should work on your married. If you are not married, then yes. You should not be attached to anyone you are not married to anyway. Have you been sleeping with him, without being married?
• Philippines
20 Jan 13
we are living together but no kids..
• Philippines
20 Jan 13
Now I understand...You got me there.. I think what you said is really true. I always think of going home to my parents have time for myself... and let him think... and find time for my self. I feel sad but I need to have courage to do things for my self.:-(
• Philippines
21 Jan 13
Thank you for helping me out understand my situation.You are helping me a lot. I really appreciate it.
@Aja103654 (5658)
• Philippines
24 Jan 13
You two have to communicate. He has the right to know about your feelings. And be sure to know his feelings too. Be honest with each other. It's not too late to salvage the relationship. But even after doing this and things don't change and you remain unhappy, then there's no point staying in that relationship.
• Dhaka, Bangladesh
23 Jan 13
Hi, for any happy conjugal life, mutual trust, sacrifice, sharing of idea etc all are very important. So, you should think and discuss the matters with your friends and relatives before taking final decision. Have a very nice day.
@sid556 (31005)
• United States
22 Jan 13
yep..it sounds it. You can't change him. Only he can change himself. You have been together 11 months and for months you have been unhappy. You are thinking more about what he thinks of you than what YOU think of him. He may change for you and he will praise you for showing him the error of his ways and I guarantee that when he goes back to being himself, he will blame you for his relapse.