Don't judge the appearance
By kingparker
@kingparker (9673)
United States
January 20, 2013 12:08pm CST
A friend of my another friend, I just get acquainted with him, he was very cool person, but he doesn't have a wife, nor a girlfriend. Maybe he wasn't the handsomest person here, some might whisper, he is ugly in appearance in comparison to others. Actually, that was the first impression when I saw him, but I get to talk to him more and more, I don't see him ugly at all. Actually, he is fun and a nice guy. While there is a girl I knew, people said she is pretty, tall and fashionable. While she is an absolutely gold digger. Look down at people who dress tacky, and think she is superior than others. In the opposite, I hate to have conversation with her. She bragged about how wealthy she is, and she go shop brand name stores only. Although she has many boyfriends, none of them really want to marry her, if you knew what I meant. So, from here, we should not judge the appearance of a person. Some might look pretty outside, but they were pure ugly inside.
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@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
21 Jan 13
Oh i understand what you mean in here. We have often come accross different people, with different appearances and the moment we get to know them, that is when we will know if we like them, if they are the kind with good personality. :D And that is true, we have seen far too many good looking girls who aren't married, but have had a lot of relationships because they are attractive indeed. God bless and see you around and happy mylotting!
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@clocks123 (1225)
• United States
20 Jan 13
i agree with you. don't judge a book by its cover. character is more important than appearances. it is so important to get to know someone really well before we start judging them by their looks.
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@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
21 Jan 13
That is very true. We should mot rely on the physical appearance as our measurement of whom to be friends with. The physical appearance doesn't always mean that the person has also a good heart.
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@Mavic123456 (21898)
• Thailand
21 Jan 13
don't judge the book by its cover... "Life was like a box of chocolates. You never know what you're gonna get." Yes, be keen and be observant of people. A frog could be a prince... just a kiss and he will turn out well.
@iluvusabado (2560)
• Philippines
20 Jan 13
looks will fade in time. but the character and the personality, it will take you long in the relationship. i admit i can also be judgmental with someone's looks but i just keep it to myself because i don't want anybody to get hurt with my personal impressions.
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@trisha27 (3494)
• United States
29 Jan 13
You are right that we shouldn't judge people based on their appearance on the outside. And too many times now people do that. They only would rather converse with people who are pretty and steer clear of those who are not pretty. You are correct there are a lot of ugly people that are out there and they are really beautiful on the inside while those that are really beautiful on the outside are really ugly on the inside and either that ugliness will shine through to the outside or that beautiful on the inside will shine through on the outside.
@Iriene88 (5343)
• Malaysia
21 Jan 13
As the saying goes " Don't judge the book by the cover".
I do come across people like the one you mentioned. It
takes time for us to know the person. In actual fact, many
people prefer a good personality than the appearance. If a
person have great personality, kind and inner beauty with
good appearance too, it is indeed a bonus!
I personally think if a person have a good heart and
personality, the outer appearance can be improved by grooming.
I personally think if a person have a good heart and
personality, the outer appearance can be improved by grooming.
@echoforever (5180)
• United States
21 Jan 13
Getting to know someone can be a fun journey sometimes! You will learn about them maybe years to come if you give the chance. 
@asliah (11137)
• Philippines
16 Feb 13
hi,
its really true that it happen in reality because a lot of people usually look in appearance and not in side of a person,people are more judgmental now a days even me sometimes,but they said that those who have more pretty and good looking are those who hide something.
@luisaR (452)
• Philippines
21 Jan 13
precisely...it is stereotype to be judgmental and make ur first impression rightaway.
I don't believe that the first impression often lasts. ;-)
@911Ricki (13588)
• Canada
26 Jan 13
I agree completely, I know many who do this especially with boyfriends or girlfriends. They also consider what others think of them. Most people like this I refuse to associate with. I've had things said to me about my scars I have, and health problems. I just ignore them, and go on my way. Most people who say things, or even give looks are most likely insecure, and jealous of others, so they have to make themselves feel better.
@echoforever (5180)
• United States
21 Jan 13
Appearances in anything, are not solid to base upon. "Don't judge a book by its cover" for example. A lemon looks sweet by appearance but it is sour.
People are even more complex. I do my best not to judge any one solely on appearance. I am sure others do that to me too. It is a hurtful thing to do that. Also it takes away from the interaction of learning who the person is inside, if we only look at the appearance and nothing more.
@Shavkat (137215)
• Philippines
21 Jan 13
I take all the time to observe someone for the first meeting. I don't say anythings against them on regards to their physical attributes. The main focus is the attitude.
@mariaperalta (19073)
• Mexico
21 Jan 13
well said... If only good looking men and woman got married. There would be many people married out there. Its all about inside one, not outside. great post there.. :)
@smiling_ja (261)
• Philippines
21 Jan 13
This goes to say nobody's perfect and looks can be deceiving. Everyone has its good and not so good attributes, we're mere human beings we make a lot of assumptions without basis but that's part of life. We commit mistakes part of our learning process and admittedly, the first we notice above people is the physical aspect of the person, sometimes we do not take second glances when the appearance is not to our liking. It's only when we give ourselves and others the chance to get to know better do we realize we were taken by misconception of the superficial side of it.
@vernaC (1491)
• Romania
21 Jan 13
It's kinda funny to read about the girl, so typical like a story character; beautiful woman acting so bad, specially the bragging part
. You are right some pretty face are sometimes opposite inside, but what's worse is when a person is both ugly inside and out and I know some.
. You are right some pretty face are sometimes opposite inside, but what's worse is when a person is both ugly inside and out and I know some. 
@CarraC (69)
• Canada
21 Jan 13
Very true. Wealth is not everyone. In relationship a guy wants to know that he can provide for his lady. Till he can do that, he thinks that his role as a man is not being met. I look at job interviews. Some people have a judging scheme and your dressing is being judged. I don't see why this is necessary. You come and show your ability to work, not your ability to dress. Professional doesn't have to expensive or classy! So when it comes down to it, clothes just like other material stuff don't have to play such a big role in someone's everyday life. There's a place and time for everything. We should know where to draw the line when it comes to judging someone.
@prabu6683 (113)
• India
21 Jan 13
It is very correct. Dont judge anyone based on the appearance. For example, some carrot plants are there, small carrot plant having a big root inside. This is how the life works. Especially people who looks very simple may be they have lot of good things. People who looks beauty but their thoughts are very bad. Never under estimate anyone.
@tusharnarula10 (1)
• India
21 Jan 13
That's absolutely right....most of the people in this world don not reflect their inner characters in their personality or dressing style.I have seen many people at very high posts in a firm who wear simple suits but when you talk to them you come to know how great,intelligent and wise are they.So one should be judged only by his physical appearance,we have a greatest example of the founder of Apple Late Mr Steve Jobs the men never wore suits in his office but was a great innovator and created ipod for the world.
