For some reason, it is somehow traumatic to assist and give a helping hand...

Philippines
January 22, 2013 11:09am CST
Good day Fellow Mylotters, There are really times, that I find it hardly to understand why some people always threw out their blame to others. Despite of the help that you have given, you will be blamed after all. And this is disgusting. That after all those help and assistance, you will be blame at the end. Hence, because of this situation, it is somehow threatening to refer one. Thus, it is even quite traumatic to assist and give a helping hand, isn't it.
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10 responses
@jaiho2009 (39001)
• Philippines
22 Jan 13
I use to help everyone who ask for my help and assistance. I am the kind of person who almost doesn't know to say NO (almost- yes almost to the max and extension that I can) Then I have learned that, helping others sometimes give us pain and trouble. It was then I start to think- why I am doing these ,and I have learned to say No- thu sometimes it hurts me (but I need to)
• Philippines
22 Jan 13
good day jaiho2009, i guess it is really difficult to say no especially if you are a person who really wants to help but for some reason as like this, i think, we should do it. and it is hurting to hear those blaming words being threw, isn't it. anyway, maybe that is a part of the process.
@jaiho2009 (39001)
• Philippines
23 Jan 13
Exactly. That's what really happened to me. After doing everything in their favor, they comes back blaming us- as if we are the worst person they've ever met. Those incident gives me so much to think and hurts me so badly. Somehow taught me the best lesson eventually.
@edvc77 (2143)
• Philippines
23 Jan 13
Maybe they can't accept the help made to them. There is pride in it. Pride is really not good. It is not pleasing to God too. It's hard to make a comment on this. However, do not give up in doing things and helping other people.
@prashu228 (25519)
• India
23 Jan 13
Hi i think your are right may be its their pride they cant accept that they are dependent on someone and take help from them. But yes this is not really good as this hurts the people involved in it.
@prashu228 (25519)
• India
23 Jan 13
Hi yes there are some people who blame inspite of getting help from the person. I have seen some of them .We should not help such people. Why should we get blamed inspite of helping .They never get satisfied even if we help them.That's their problem so leave them with their headache.
@Mavic123456 (16352)
• Thailand
23 Jan 13
yes, there were instances when the one who is helping is to be pointed as the turn out the event. Very disappointing. sometimes, it is scary to help nowadays, because we can never know if the people who were in troubles need to be helped.
@vernaC (1493)
• Romania
23 Jan 13
Maybe we should think twice before helping others. If you know what you are doing and you're doing it right then go and help but in any case you don't have any knowledge of a certain situation that's needing help, the best way is to find someone who can do better.
@justinus (1110)
• Karawaci, Indonesia
23 Jan 13
Hello, it is my first post after several months absent. thank you when I open "topic of the day" I found your interesting post, then I look for your profile. my answer is : Yes but not every one. even it is rarely we meet peoples like this.
• Indonesia
23 Jan 13
I think so too. sometimes we help them but they just don't thanks us but actually blame us. Its so sad to think why people become like that. in the outside are there any good people? are there anyone to help if you in the end to be blamed? I think people will become afraid to help people.
• Philippines
22 Jan 13
It's right, that's why you must be careful of your surroundings. When you help, give something or anything of value you shared, expect nothing in return, for you not to be hurt in the near future. We are in a world of survival. The instinct of survival is inherent in every person. 90% to 100% every person is more concern of himself and the interest that benefits him. If you lend a helping hand do it coz he is worth for assistance as a human and not because you wanted it.
@willc98 (67)
• United States
22 Jan 13
I'm not sure what you mean, why do you find it traumatic to help people? I am shy so sometimes I don't help people when I should. But when I do I always feel good about myself and bad when I don't. When helping others I've never been blamed for anything. Do you have any specific examples of this?
@WakeUpKitty (8706)
• Netherlands
22 Jan 13
It's simple: if you blame someone else you do not have to have a closer look at yourself. Which means: you are a great person, you did not make any mistake, and you can blame someone else. Especially the one(s) who did help you out. That person offered help, that person said he/she could help you and knows how and that person is to blame if it doesn't work (no matter if you did anything to improve yourself or helped yourself or followed the advice). So if someone is blaming you, get out there. Do not help people who are not willing to work for it. You can give advice but it won't help anyone if you do the job as well.