do you try to flatter to gain a favor?

I know myself better than to feel flattered when someone tries to draw my attention by saying unexpected, sugarcoated, unmerited suggestive phrases about me. I'm not rude, I don't confront them right on but that doesn't change the fact that I know when and who to believe so I just let them say what they had to say and wait for them to ask for whatever it is they're hinting at.

I have a profound distaste for flatterers. I make them understand with a bit of humor that they will never obtain anything from me with this strategy -- like you, I am not born from yesterday --.

There are people who are find of giving compliments to other people, although they're not that many. I guess you can give them the benefit of the doubt and once they started taking advantage of you, that's when you start to look out for yourself. Most people don't realize when they're being manipulated. I, for instance, would not recognize when someone is giving me a compliment most of the time. Although, I also be too keen on it. I guess it depends on my days.

I am not the kind of person that you can't rely on when you need a help. I will always try my best to give anyone a helping hand. It makes me happy and I have that peace of mind that whoever that person is no longer worries about his/her problem. Buttering me up for a favor? Well, yes, it happens sometimes. But whether a person does that or just ask me straight away for a help, I would still give my best in helping him/her out.

I think this is okay if the flattery is not over the top and there is some truth to the flattery. You can feel for yourself if the person showering you with praises is beginning to creep you out or if it sounds more and more outrageous. For those who do this in a very classy way I thank them sincerely and still try to deal them professionally. I immediately forget whatever flattery they have bestowed upon me and let them know that while I appreciate it very much, I would help them as log as it is within my capability and "jurisdiction", no funny business, no more no less. But if the person is obviously over the moon for flatteries, I cut to the chase and directly ask what is their business with me. But to be honest I would be a bit wary helping this person but out of duty, I will.

If I found people like this, I just say thanks for their flattery. But, I am not an easy obsessed person just only by a flattery. They have their way to get favor by flattering because it is the most easy way to do without spending money. It seems that people who are insane of favor are usually do that absurd tactic. I will not do that to get favor.

But what if all the wonderful and great things they are saying are true and they just happen to be intelligent enough to recognize them and unlucky enough to need help at the same time?

I think these type of people are usually referred to as sycophant. Correct me if I am wrong. Anyway, how would I react to these type of people you ask. I would say thank you for all the complements they give me and say no for the favor. Well to be quite honest, no flatter will change my willingness to do a favor. If I was already going to do a favor, don't flatter me at all, it make the situation a little worse. Because I hate the intention. Now if I wasn't planning on doing the favor in the first place, no flattering can make me change my mind. That is just how I am.

Trying to benefit something through sweet talk is almost tantamount to fooling people. For me those who use this ploy for personal gain are persons who want to have an easy way out either because they are lazy or, they lack the capabilities to attain what they desire.