Can a MOTHER-IN-LAW become a WOMAN HITLER?

United States
February 5, 2013 8:14pm CST
It's really interesting to know that once you jumbled the letters in the word "MOTHER-IN-LAW", it can yield the word "WOMAN-HITLER" I mean, is that really possible? I live in a house where-in my mom is there, my mother-in law is with us, with my brother, my husband and our daughter. It really felt awkward at first, however, the dilemma is not about my Mother-in-law, but technically it's with my mom. Not sure if it's hormonal imbalance, but my mom has become hot-headed eversince I gave birth. She fall short of patience and get really moody most of the time. I know for a fact that my mother is about to hit Menopausal period, that is why I just ignore all her whining and complaining. Sometimes, its just irritates me when I get to receive text messages from her, saying that this and that should have been done. We give a fair share at the house that we stay-in with my mom, and yet, I always felt like every exerted efforts on our end is always, and will never be, enough. I am never used to the keeping-it-to-myself tactic. I am a very tranparent person, I say what I feel bluntly, and I don't care if I am gonna hurt someone or what not. But that was BEFORE. everything has changed now. I have to hold my horses, because I know that I am not in the position to brag, or to even get mad at any circumstance. It is difficult at first, because I had to embrace a character that is not in the list of my habits. But moving forward, I am trying to change that attitude - being frank, something to that effect. May I say, that it is indeed, very diffiicult to have a mother whom you have not get along well with. I can feel I have a deep agonizing sadness inside, and I kept on asking, "Why do I have such mother?" I have a lot of friends who would tell me about their mothers, and most of the time, I envy them. Honestly. Because they always paint the picture of the mother that I wish I had. I am trying to blend. Really I am. Trying to keep up with the mood-shifting of my mom, and honestly, I don't know if I am getting there. Well, do I have a choice? I know all these are temporary. Emotions. Moods. Status in life. Financial instability. Nevertheless, I cannot deny the fact that she is still my mom no matter what. That I have to live with. The lovely woman hitler in my life.
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@jenny1015 (13390)
• Philippines
6 Feb 13
Some moms can really be short tempered. And I guess they have always been this way since they were kids. My SIL is basically like your mom, too. He keeps in shouting everyday at her kids. It has already gotten to the point that even if she was already fuming mad, her twins wouldn't even care. It was like they have been immuned with the noise that she is creating. I would often tell my SIL that she should tame a bit. Helpers do not last long because they are afraid of her loud, high-pitched voice. And even if she has given the helpers the instructions on how to do things in the house exactly how she wanted it to be, the helpers just seem to not understand what she is saying coaz all they could hear is noise coming from his mouth! I could get irritated with her sometimes, too. But most of the time I just keep my mouth shut than start an argument with her. She is one crazy lady! But she is the only person I am with most of the time. So as the saying goes, If you can't beat them, join them.
• United States
6 Feb 13
hahaha! I can agree to that! Being all loud and panting is fine with me. I mean, words won't kill, will they? but the thing with my mom is that, she just remain SILENT. then, she will attack me with her text messages! hahahaha.. I am taking it lightly now.. Especially that she (my mom) just got a new job, and guess what, we are in one company and she was hired due to my referral :) hehehe
@jenny1015 (13390)
• Philippines
6 Feb 13
Hahaha! You just love your mom so much, that you do not want to let her out of your sight!
• United States
6 Feb 13
hahaha! honestly, we are in two different site now. she started with her training just yesterday. And yes, I must admit. I referred her, with the intention to get closer to her. But apparently, we were designated to different sites. *SIGH* (I am planning to have a regular "date" with her every pay day) :)
@chiyosan (29383)
• Philippines
6 Feb 13
Haha, seeing this discussion, i remember this series in Bio channel called Monster-in law! :D Would you believe it was really something that i am surprised to see. in laws fighting with their daughter/sons's husbands and wives. But normally people who are featured are mother in laws, and there has not been a case i saw a father in law not getting very well with their in laws. :D I guess with your mom, since she is not an in law but your mother - you should just be patient with her. older people tend not to have so much patience anymore. Just to ask, is she past menauposal stage? Maybe this is one part. i remeber 10 years back i was having problems with my mom and we would always fight as she would nag me all the time!
• United States
6 Feb 13
about the menopausal thing, that I don't have an idea. I am afraid to ask, because she might get offended. However, I remember my mom telling me, like 2 weeks ago, that she is staring to have short days in menstrual period and little amount of menstruation. .
@Hatley (164759)
• Garden Grove, California
22 Dec 15
hi @vgalardo I uess mo all wmen act the ame way in menopause as my mom never got mean or cranky nor did I,I was sometimes moody ut I got a long well with my family. I would suggest that somehow you et ur mom to have a phsical check up as ilt might be something physical that is making her act that way not just menopause jus an idea of course
• United States
9 Mar 13
My parents divorced when I was 12, so I can totally relate. I have moms and step-moms and dad's girlfriends and fiances and step-parents. I have in-laws and outlaws ha ha. My mom always claims she is like her mom who was very sweet and nice and helpful. But honestly she is more like that woman hitler, more like her dad was was mean and hateful and had Alzheimer's. He was nice a good bit, but bad as well.
• Philippines
7 Feb 13
I remember my mother, most of the time she nags, talking of none sense things and issue, from morning till dusk, seems she like a dictator, she always says, do this and do that, don't do this don't do that, something its annoying, but as time goes we just let her be, as a matter of fact we memorize the dialogue that she is talking everyday. i don't understand at first, but later on i realize maybe she care to much for us that's why she is being like that, they say mother's know best. I like your being frank attitude, because for me, i rather know things personality by the person involve, i don't like it when i hear it from other people. Just understand your mother, mother's are great persons in world.
@kingparker (9698)
• United States
7 Feb 13
Maybe nobody is perfect, and they have their moment of "tyranny" maybe. I personally dislike some of my mom's attitude, and take control how I dress, when I should take shower; or I should go out or not; or what kind of friend I should hang out with, etc..... Nonetheless, she is my mother, and sometimes, maybe she is like a "Hitler", but she wants me to be good. I try to ignore her, and keep open communication with her. I hope that I can change her somehow too.
@kourdapya (926)
• Philippines
7 Feb 13
Hi! In my opinion, yes you are right that you're mother might be going through the menopausal stage already. A few months back I read a book about the stages in a woman's life and it gave emphasis on menopausal. I must say that that book was an eye opener for me and I'm so glad that I read that book. I'm not yet at that stage because I'm still young, but reading the book reminded me of my own mother. In that book, it describes the big changes in the woman's body, attitude, and everything about it and it really opened my mind. I realized how hard it must be for the women who suffered menopausal, and they can't control it no matter how hard they try. I am thankful now that I can prepare myself once my mother go through that stage. The best you can do is try to understand her, give her the best of love and care you can give, and be very VERY patient. We have no idea because we have never been to what they're going through now. If you can afford, consult a psychologist or a doctor about your problem with your mom. Just let her feel that she is being loved and taken cared of, especially in that stage of her life where she feels no one bothered to care for her. Time will come that we will get old too, and may experience the same.Just my two cents.
@Metatronik (5909)
• Pasay, Philippines
7 Feb 13
I have experience that as well but the worst part is that she have chosen me to be hot headed. Meaning she can't get mad with my brother and my father which was unfair. If she hates other people then the blame is always on me. As much as I am trying or I want to understand but then seems that there is going to be so much unfair to my part to think that I am also a woman who I am expecting a bit that she is with me.