be observant, but I don't have to be.

@SomeCowgirl (32270)
United States
February 7, 2013 2:14pm CST
Someone who preaches to us to be more observant, and yet they aren't. Tuesday I made taco's. There isn't much space / room to be had in the kitchen. Especially when the kids come and all of their stuff ends up on the kitchen table. I cut up tomatoes and put them on a plated, opened the bag of lettuce and set it beside that. I had the sauce right beside that. The cheese had a place on the top of the toaster oven. Now I figured that out of the six present, only three would eat any of what I made. What I wasn't prepared for was that one would make their own food, heating toast in the toaster oven. I go in there later to be informed by the person who put the food away, that the cheese had been melted because another had put toast in the oven. Well I was irritated to say the least. The same person who toasted something without checking to see if anything was atop, is the same person who preaches observation. I didn't want my cheese to be unshredded, but unshredded it was. Later when I mentioned it to another, in front of said person who did it, they didn't seem any fault in what they did. MY thinking is that they didn't even know the top of the toaster oven gets hot!! This is just another thing to file away in my "cant' do a damn thing about it" files.
4 responses
@911Ricki (13602)
• Canada
8 Feb 13
How can you miss a bowl or plate of cheese? It comes back to disrespect. I get this in my house all the time, and they just shrug and walk off like who cares. Yet, if it was vice versa the world would be over, and a tanstrum on the floor. Even my parents do this, and they use the line it's my house, I will do what I want.
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@SomeCowgirl (32270)
• United States
8 Feb 13
It was a bag of cheese, but either way it's not like it was a small bag. Exactly, they like to pull out the "this is my house" line whenever it conveniences them. My grandmother especially likes to use that line when she eats ALL or ALMOST ALL of something that I've brought home. She doesn't do that so much anymore at least, but I've also learned to hide foods that she would like.
@911Ricki (13602)
• Canada
8 Feb 13
I mean if it was a small bowl or plate, I could see it more, but a bag they arn't that small. I get that all the time, I just don't bother arguing with them. I have been helping myself to their food lately, seeing as they do it to me, so I used their bread, eggs, and seasoning this morning. I am eating all my food and not buying anything else. They are still trying to sort through my clothes and throw out what they think I don't need. I am just getting sick of it, even if you say something to them, they make it sound like it's my fault.
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@SomeCowgirl (32270)
• United States
9 Feb 13
If my family were to do that to me they would have an earful and they know it. Years and years ago I had a brush set someone got me for Christmas. My grandmother tried to take one of them and was acting all immature and childish too. She didn't get it though because I made the argument loud and clear. My grandfather hates hearing arguments and will stop them, I yelled down the hall what she was doing and she was quickly quashed. I am so tired of the "this is my house" routine one throws at me if I don't do what she says.
@celticeagle (118254)
• Boise, Idaho
7 Feb 13
No, you can't do anything about this. I might have put whatever needed to stay warm on the toaster just incase. When you have some experience with people you tend to foresee things that might happen or come up. I would file this away and not put anything on top of the toaster next time. Better pile things ontop of one another than have this happen. And people don't usually change. They don't listen either.
@SomeCowgirl (32270)
• United States
8 Feb 13
I wouldn't want to put a plate on top of a hot toaster oven just in case it scorched the bottom of it, but I may just have to move more things off the table next time. I was in a hurry whilst cooking and I didn't even think that someone wouldn't notice the cheese at all. This was the same person who puts paper towels on the counter that have been used once. Telling us we need to use them again if there is a spill. He is the only one that uses them. He says it's to save paper towels. What he doesn't realize is when it gets to be too much and too disgusting I take another paper towel that is clean and grab up a bunch of paper towels and throw them away. I waste a paper towel to get rid of the paper towels no one else uses!
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@SomeCowgirl (32270)
• United States
9 Feb 13
If he say bought the select a size paper towels or even just bought regular paper towels with instructions to tear off only part of it to use, that I could understand. It's saving them, etc. It's just very unsanitary to do it the way he does. I don't buy the paper towels though, so I can't complain too much.
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@celticeagle (118254)
• Boise, Idaho
10 Feb 13
I think they are something people think they need but they don't. And to re-use them is just silly.
• United States
7 Feb 13
If the person who did this is one of your grandparents, it is quite likely that (s)he doesn't realize that the toaster oven gets hot. Given how they have been living, neither sounds to be entirely cognizant of things. I suspect that you will be looking for care for them in the near future, because it will get to be too much for you to handle.
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@SomeCowgirl (32270)
• United States
7 Feb 13
It was a grandparent, and it wasn't so much cognizant or not. He has never been one to cook. When I was a young'n I asked him to make me fried bologna. He put it in the microwave and poached it. They are still very cognizant. A lot of it is that my grandmother became depressed, stopped cleaning, it landed on my brother. My brother is gone too, in heaven and the house became a mess. I moved out a few years ago, moved back in and I can't keep it clean. My grandmother and I are the only ones who care to see it clean. My grandmother can't do much. Another family member who lives here (not my grandfather) has this "it's already to crap, why bother" attitude. Family won't come over. I don't blame them.
@cynthiann (18619)
• Jamaica
7 Feb 13
How I wish that I could make life a little easier for you as that person is not going to change. How hard is that to face on a daily basis. I would say that the person just does not care or is not very observant. Rant all you want pretty girl, as this old lady is hear to listen to you and wishes that she could make it all better. Blessings
@SomeCowgirl (32270)
• United States
8 Feb 13
I should be used to the person. I mean, I can't say that I am not used to it, I just don't like the hypocrisy of it all. Relative or not, elder or not, the way they demand respect and say they don't care if anyone loves them, it's respect they demand, it's sad and ridiculous. The funny thing is, I want to stay. I don't mean forever, no I want to be out of here, but I need to stay, to make things right. To clean to the best that it can be clean, to organize. Not for my sake, well not just for my sake. My grandmother's sake as well. She stays in her room, we all tend to stay in our central location, because the house is just such a mess. One family member won't even worry about really cleaning unless it's the dishes, because they say what's the use. What's the use, indeed. It still needs to be done, and a clean house can't just become reality in a blink of an eye or a twinkle of a nose.