How far will we got to spy on our mate/husband/wife..

I would be curious about some things about my partner. We don't hide any secrets from each other. He would simply tell me anything, no matter how uncomfortable it may be to know at first. But I got used to it and I prefer the truth than being kept in the dark. Spying on our partner is not cool at all. I would do it though if my suspicions are strong and I want to confirm some things. I wouldn't want to live a life of denial. That's just pathetic.

If I suspect something it's usually ends up being right. I usually try and say you tell me now, and that's it. But I wont go sneaking around, I always say at the beginning of a relationship I tell them how it is with me. My one ex I told him you, cheat or even crosses your mind I'm gone. I don't lower my standards and self esteem for a man. He had an ex wife (common law or whatever), they haad a child together. I had absolutely no issues that they talked (they had a kid together), but he would talk for hours with her while I was sitting there to see him. I mean 10 minute sure, but 3 - 6 hours, while I sat there watching tv, staring at the wall. I told him once, and he just shurgged it off, my bags were packed and I was gone. He admitted later that he was trying to get back with his wife, and still wanted his wife (I assumed this), why else talking to her for 6 hours and walking off so I couldn't hear.

Probably not very far, it is too time consuming and troublesome, just let it go and forget about spying, if she continue cheating, it is time to ask for a separation or file for divorce, it is better end the pain sooner than later.

Bjc66bjc Not far for me. I feel like this if they are going to cheat they will find some way to do it.. I'm to old to be running stooping down and to slow to take pictures quickly.. I was in a realationship and I did the watching thing but where did it get me nowhere because he did what he wanted to do. So i learn from that. No more peaking looking for things for me.. My Grandmother told me that if you give a FOOL enough rope he will hang his self. So I'm in control of the ROPE... LOL

I have never felt the need of spying my husband he never cheated or did anything wrong with him. But if someday i lost the trust in him i would better end this relationship.

I wouldn't spy on my mate. I trust him If he cheats the truth will come out. You can't hide an affair forever I think that when you get to a point when you don't trust each other the relationship is over. Trust is the foundation of my relationship.

I refuse to spy on anyone and especially someone that I am supposedly in love with. If I feel a need to spy then either we need to seriously talk or I need to seriously leave.

I would not be in my marriage if I did not trust my husband. If I thought something was going on, if I had any doubt I would not be with him. I don't think spying or living in denial is a good idea...

I think everything's wrong if you feel the need to spy on your spouse, as the solid basis of a relationship is trust. If you feel that he/she is sneaking, or you don't feel the same for them, or something seems off, there's problem. And I believe that the real fixing method for this is talking sincerely. I would never spy on my boyfriend in any ways. I don't understand those people who think spying on the other, testing them through the Internet with fake accounts or looking for texts in the other's cell phonr is acceptable. Other than it's a sign of mistrust, it's just rude, and you cross the borders of privacy.

I think if it gets to that point, its over. As trust has a big thing to do with all relationships.