I don't care if he cheats

I did not expect such a positive reply. Because I thought people would wonder if I love him at all because I just don't feel any jealousy anymore. Thank you frai! Yes, I trust him. I hope he will live up to my expectations and not disappoint me. I am not having high expectations though, I make sure to not attach myself to people too much since I want to be independent. I think everyone should be like that so they don't blame people all the time. This must be true love then, haha!

I couldn't agree more! It is challenging to deal with the changes of the life of a young adult.

Relationships at our age can be quite complicated. We can't be too selfish, we have to give each other room for growth and room o improve ourselves cause there is just so much change going on. Its a real test on how strong our relationships are and how they will stand the test of time.

I am starting to become bitter? How so? We have no problems in our relationship now... except maybe that we both are busy and we don't get together as often as we used to. School is a priority for us at the moment.

Exactly! I used to be a jealous girlfriend and I found myself constantly crying over nonsense. I got tired of feeling that way, and so I just put that trust in him. When we got married, I have gotten to know some of his friends whom he hangs out with most of the time. And I told one of his friends that if he knew something about my husband having some "flings" or "one night stands", I'd rather not know about them.

Not knowing may do good to your peace of mind. As for me, I'm too curious so I would like to anything unusual going on with him and other people even if it hurts me. I think I can take it. Do you still get jealous if you found him being suspiciously close to another woman?

That is probably it, jenny! haaha, it's possible that I am just fed up with getting jealous and frustrated. it makes me stupid and unsexy, so I want to get rid of the feeling. LOL! But that is just a few of the things that made me secure with myself haha! It seems more enjoyable that way. Behaving like a paranoid girlfriend is not relaxing. It can make us grow wrinkles. EEEp!

Wow, thank you angel! I was thinking maybe there was something strange going on with me because I just changed. From insecure girl to rock solid secure partner. It's too bad that I don't get to spend as much time as I want with him now because he is busy with school.

So it's a long distance relationship then? Then you can try and visit her more often, go on dates more often. Always try to find time to spend with one another and don't be jealous.

Then you need to manage your money. ^_^

Thanks for this tip, but i am just a student yet, doing my study and have not any jobs so no money is too.... ;-(

Thank you steve and welcome to mylot! That is how I think. Whenever there is a girl involved with him I simply shrug it off. What's the point of being jealous? It's a negative feeling that can possible create wrinkles. I supposed that being a social human being, it is natural for him to encounter a lot of girls everyday. Even when he talks about them flirting with him, I just laugh because if he wanted to be with him, he would simply have gone to them and not bothered telling me about it. So, boys, it is not entirely bad to be entirely honest with your girlfriends. And that is the point, I want him to stay with me because I had him on a leash, I want him to come and follow me anywhere out of his own will.

I don't care if he cheats, but I still care for him in more important aspects. I care about his future and health. That's for sure. I want him to succeed and continue to support him in his dreams and goals. So I can say, my love has reached another level. It's no longer the insane kind where I get jealous over silly things.

But if you dont care if he cheats maybe you dont love him

Haha, maybe. Maybe I am just tired of feeling jealous that's why I am numb to the feeling now. I do get jealous a little, but it disappears almost instantly. I like to think I have matured and I am more secure of myself, that is why I don't feel jealousy as much. That's true. If a person cheats on their partner, then they are fooling themselves more, because they loss someone important, someone who they might never get back.

We care enough that they don't do something that would harm them, but we get to the point that we don't let it affect us if they attempt to cheat on us. There is always that possibility. We can never fool ourselves that our partners are never capable of that.

Then... Prayers is the answer... just pray for it everyday... and just keep the faith in God in yourself and in him. Maybe you can do something like leaving a sweet short note on his book or leaving him ice cream on his house as a surprise ... saying you are still there and love him and trust him and waiting... heheheheh.... HOpe you too will build a super cute and sweet relationship and I pray you go to the right process by always putting God in the center of your relationship! Aja! and never give up when things was not that cool... every relationship must be tested... God bless you!

Yes, I actually thought that I was losing my love for him. But i don't think so. Maybe it's because I made myself numb because he isn't with me most of the time. It hurts that I can't see him often, so I preoccupy myself a lot. I don't call him because I might disturb him in his studies. he is studying like crazy and when I call him he is usually tired, so I thought it's better I don't call him than calling him and be disappointed that he doesn't have that much energy and focus to talk. Oh yes, my crazy potato-loving prince. That's who he is. Hmm, he seemed very committed. He wants to marry 5 years from now. I am not expecting very much but I am working hard on having a better future for myself, my family and for him also. For some reason, I just became more secure with myself. He is not cheating on me, though if he is, then I am not aware of it yet LOL. Like I always say, I have no proof. So why should I fret over something that might not even exist?

I am praying. And thank you. Well... I did make some truffle bombs for him last week(bombs because they are big) to show how much I appreciate. I rarely do something that sweet... literally. Thank you so much for encouraging me! No worries!

yeah, trust each other is the best way to keep relationship stay long and forever. I also think that woman around man is usual thing, as long as he is trustworthy

Thank you red! A man who is loyal is worthy trusting. It's simple really. If he cheats on me once, then it's all over. No second chances. That's how I deal with things like that. So far, he has not cheated and even if there are women around him, I don't see them as threats.

Of course that occurred to me That is the very first thing that came to mind to explain why he is talking about them. It used to make me mad because he likes getting my attention. I tend to ignore him so he makes me want to think he is wanted by other girls. I am aware of that possibility, but I don't think those girls stand a chance... not while I'm alive anyway. If they try to steal him, I'd challenge them to do and try their best. I'd just laugh at a corner observing them or shrug if my boyfriend falls for it. Both are good, in that if they steal him and succeeded, at least I would know the true him and get rid of him for good (if he really is a cheater) or be happy to see those girls make a fool of themselves over him. Thank you, arpa! Jealousy is a horrible feeling and I'd hate to feel it. It makes me feel so pathetic, that's enough reason to stop being such a jealous freak.

It is natural to feel jealous but being jealous all the time makes us a freak. That's what I noticed too. If the usual cause of the fight is jealousy, then might as well get rid of that feeling and mature. Then the relationship would be better. Again, where's the sense in fretting over something that possibly doesn't even exist. (ex: third party)

Thank you black! Cheating is never a good thing. I don't see why people even pretend to commit when they can't help but cheat on their partners. Those people should be clear. If they want to have many partners, they just have to say it and involve only with people like themselves.

been there done that I am trying to get all my stuff back now that my ex just walked away with

What did your ex take from you?

Thank you chiyosan! That is also possible. Was there any sign of your ex ever cheating on you that you noticed but just didn't make a big deal out of? I am not always with my boyfriend, so I can't watch over his actions. I don't want to be around him 24/7 either just to make sure of that. I have my own life to deal with and he's got his. I do trust him but I acknowledge the possibility that he could also cheat on me. I told him if he wanted to cheat, he could have done so easily. If he did cheat, I have not caught him yet. And even if he did, I don't have anything to lose. I am my own person and if I lose him, I would still be myself. That is what's important. If he couldn't handle the flirty girls, then that would be the time I step up. Most of the time, I just want him to deal with it on his own. He is a man, after all. He should know how to protect himself.

And grey hairs. ANd none of those are worth it. They have merit or they don't.

Right! Ruining ourselves is pointless!

Thank you celtic! Jealousy can lead to more trouble, more fights and hypertension.

Print one extra card as and when you decide!

Are you not going to invite me as and when?

Extra card?

It kind of gives the cheaters the power if you beg them. They should be chastised, I believe. They should know their errors and know how horrible people they are. They only need to support the kids, their partners should not demand or expect any romance from them because they are scum.

Cheaters are weak. But since they are husbands or partners who you have to share responsibility with, then we still need them at some extent, but not as a romantic partner. One mistake can ruin everything. That's why loyalty is crucial in a relationship.

You are absolutely right, every strong heard person knows that love is strong and cheating only break it resulting in wreaking.

Thank you, spicy! I think every girl friend out there should be more secure with themselves. Insecurity is very unattractive. I had a jealous ex before, he was so insecure, at first I found it flattering but later on it felt like I was in chains so I had to dump him. Later on he cheated even when I have not officially announced that we are breaking up. Because of that, I never wanted to be with that ex of mine anymore. He can't be trusted. I think random girls and flirty ones won't be a threat unless we see them as a threat or unless our boyfriend returns their affection as well. If our partners like that girl and is interested in her romantically, then I think they should be dumped before they can cheat on us.