Oh, I got a hot debate with someone!

Philippines
March 8, 2013 1:23am CST
Its my first time to be given harsh words here in mylot in one of the discussions. I'm afraid I'm a little bit sensitive about the words he said. Maybe, I was not just prepared and I didn't see it coming. But then, I hope we could be more careful about how we comment not to use words which are below the belt. We are all here to give our opinions not to hurt anybody right?
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16 responses
@pals101 (2011)
• Philippines
8 Mar 13
Can you share it with us? What is that hot debate all about? :-) You can never please everyone here, just remember to be strong and flexible enough to read and answer discussions.
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• Philippines
8 Mar 13
Its about some Christian stuff and I was slap on my face because this person judge me as being FAKE christian. Gosh, how could he tell me those things.
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• United States
9 Mar 13
Some people are so close-minded and convinced that their way is the only right way that they simply won't consider other possibilities. Try not to let it get to you too badly.
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@pals101 (2011)
• Philippines
11 Mar 13
That's too bad, well everyone always battle for what they believe which is true. Some others die for it. Just pray for him and understand this is just a natural way..
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@julyteen (13265)
• Davao, Philippines
8 Mar 13
We are here for a discussion not for a debate but if we talk about words below the belt it another thing that we should clarify it with the person who called you the words. We should consider the feelings of others before posting it here. Sorry to hear that my friend
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• Philippines
8 Mar 13
I agree. We should always know how to say words in a way that we don't hurt others feelings. I was enjoying giving my views and all of a sudden, I was slapped. What a day I have!
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@julyteen (13265)
• Davao, Philippines
8 Mar 13
Yes we should be careful be careful in all the words that we post here. We don't know the person we are talking if she/he are sensitive enough to handle their feelings
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@julyteen (13265)
• Davao, Philippines
24 Mar 13
I am not dependent on the exclamation point. People should think that he doesn't own the world so better respect others to avoid fighting.
@sishy7 (26525)
• Australia
8 Mar 13
Let me guess, it was either in religion or politics topics, right? If you choose to get involved in those topics, you should always be prepared for some 'hot debate'. Those who are regulars there are very passionate about their stands and they will deliver their point of view in words that may seem 'harsh' to others.
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• Philippines
8 Mar 13
you're right. It was about religion and he told me I am a fake Christian. I never imagined someone calling himself a Christian but say things in a very unchristian way. Maybe, he wasn't referring after me but himself as the fake christian.
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• United States
23 Mar 13
That's highly possible...lol. It's unfortunate that those who call themselves Christians behave in any way but like Christians! Only God knows our hearts - not another person.
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@Sir_bobby88 (8245)
• Singapore
8 Mar 13
Just wondering what do you mean by hot debate lol .. It sounds like you had very hot date with someone here lol
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• Philippines
8 Mar 13
hi sir_bobby. its a HOT DEBATE or are you just trying to make me smile? well, you did.
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• South Africa
23 Mar 13
I also thought that. Sounded like a night of passion xP
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@chiyosan (29388)
• Philippines
8 Mar 13
We cannot tell when there will be disconnect in people's opinions. I would say that we have different personalities, and beliefs and cultures, we are here to share them in our responses and discussions. It is uncommon that one would go down that route and actually fight with someone over a discussion that started out with a good idea or that only intention was to have a a better relationship between members by getting to know each other. Maybe there are just some people who are not very open to what they think, they are closed to their own ideas and they are just not ready to accept other's ideas or accept that others can be better in ideas or thoughts or more knowledgeable. You can just disregard those people comments that offends you and just try not to support those people who are not even able to keep their foul words in check. I would be offended myself when i have received such words that are below the belt when all i did was to defend my discussion or my point.
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• Philippines
8 Mar 13
Right. We should be aware how we say things.
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@jenny1015 (13394)
• Philippines
9 Mar 13
True! But sometimes, that happens. Just don't respond if the member starts throwing words at you. Just spare yourself from being tormented with it.
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@natliegleb (5188)
• India
9 Mar 13
That is funny just by saying so you got involved in the brawl or debate and at last how did it pan out did it end and i know you will never hurt anyone
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@mohkanari (1957)
• India
8 Mar 13
Here, I always try to keep away from hot debates and not letting myself to be emotional or hot tempered during discussions. Actually we have a lot of personal problems in life to be emotional or peaceless. We are to enjoy friendliness and pleasantness through discussions and messages here. Haven't you got my MyLot message related to Bubblews. Anything wrong with your e-mail id? It isn't accepted for sending message, when I tried. Just verify it.
@ctryhnny (3463)
• United States
8 Mar 13
I try to stay away from discussions that I know would start a heated debate with someone. I have read some responses to my discussions where I am sure a problem would start if I even gave them the satisfaction of telling my side of the story. I'm also very sensitive when people say certain things so I just steer clear of them. I have a right to my opinion and so does everyone else but I'm not on mylot to argue! We have to start being a little more 'thick skinned' and not let the written word bother us.
@TLilly12 (1230)
• United States
18 Mar 13
There are just certain subjects, I don't get into and the is religion because everybody have their views,and you are not going to change, people minds about anything ,so it best not to talk about it.
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@johndur (3050)
• Pasig, Philippines
12 Mar 13
justr ignore those people....and dont get affected with what they have said.some people are just like that.
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@AkamaruKei (5220)
• Malaysia
9 Mar 13
That ok. Sometime we give a harsh words because we to much angry when someone give a responses which is try to provoke, offend or sarcasm. I think i also sensitive. Sometime i feel i should not angry when some people want to make some joke but i they should know to do it in a right time and not offend other. For me i try my best to not hurt anyone feeling here.
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@kixsh101 (723)
• Philippines
3 Apr 13
Words do really hurt at times. Let's just be patient to whom it comes from either solicited or unsolicited. There are just people who are dealt to be like that, let's just be thankful that we are not such of kind but we must be keen enough not to be like them.
@ctryhnny (3463)
• United States
24 Mar 13
There are a lot of disicussion and people I try to stay away from because I know they could end up being problems. Some people are just plain rude and I think they forget where they are.
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• Jacksonville, Florida
24 Mar 13
When someone is rude to me here I do report it like Hatley said as well. Some people can get pretty nasty sometimes when they believe their response is the only right one! I stay away from really heated debates because I do not like getting flustered. It's just not worth it to me.
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@varier (5699)
• Indonesia
16 Apr 13
You can't discuss well if you are not ready to hurt someone. As a part of discussion, there's disagreement. And as a result of disagreement, someone might get hurt/insulted with your opinion. Just make sure you don't use curse words, I guess. And also, strong disagreement isn't really advised to be given to myLot community. No matter how good the argument is, if you strongly disagree with someone, or if your opinion is against the mainstream, you may see you rating drop dramatically..