Oh, I got a hot debate with someone!
March 8, 2013 1:23am CST
Its my first time to be given harsh words here in mylot in one of the discussions. I'm afraid I'm a little bit sensitive about the words he said. Maybe, I was not just prepared and I didn't see it coming. But then, I hope we could be more careful about how we comment not to use words which are below the belt. We are all here to give our opinions not to hurt anybody right?
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• Davao, Philippines
8 Mar 13
We are here for a discussion not for a debate but if we talk about words below the belt it another thing that we should clarify it with the person who called you the words. We should consider the feelings of others before posting it here. Sorry to hear that my friend
8 Mar 13
Let me guess, it was either in religion or politics topics, right? If you choose to get involved in those topics, you should always be prepared for some 'hot debate'. Those who are regulars there are very passionate about their stands and they will deliver their point of view in words that may seem 'harsh' to others.
8 Mar 13
you're right. It was about religion and he told me I am a fake Christian. I never imagined someone calling himself a Christian but say things in a very unchristian way. Maybe, he wasn't referring after me but himself as the fake christian.
8 Mar 13
We cannot tell when there will be disconnect in people's opinions. I would say that we have different personalities, and beliefs and cultures, we are here to share them in our responses and discussions. It is uncommon that one would go down that route and actually fight with someone over a discussion that started out with a good idea or that only intention was to have a a better relationship between members by getting to know each other. Maybe there are just some people who are not very open to what they think, they are closed to their own ideas and they are just not ready to accept other's ideas or accept that others can be better in ideas or thoughts or more knowledgeable. You can just disregard those people comments that offends you and just try not to support those people who are not even able to keep their foul words in check. I would be offended myself when i have received such words that are below the belt when all i did was to defend my discussion or my point.
8 Mar 13
Here, I always try to keep away from hot debates and not letting myself to be emotional or hot tempered during discussions. Actually we have a lot of personal problems in life to be emotional or peaceless. We are to enjoy friendliness and pleasantness through discussions and messages here. Haven't you got my MyLot message related to Bubblews. Anything wrong with your e-mail id? It isn't accepted for sending message, when I tried. Just verify it.
• United States
8 Mar 13
I try to stay away from discussions that I know would start a heated debate with someone. I have read some responses to my discussions where I am sure a problem would start if I even gave them the satisfaction of telling my side of the story. I'm also very sensitive when people say certain things so I just steer clear of them. I have a right to my opinion and so does everyone else but I'm not on mylot to argue! We have to start being a little more 'thick skinned' and not let the written word bother us.
9 Mar 13
That ok. Sometime we give a harsh words because we to much angry when someone give a responses which is try to provoke, offend or sarcasm. I think i also sensitive. Sometime i feel i should not angry when some people want to make some joke but i they should know to do it in a right time and not offend other. For me i try my best to not hurt anyone feeling here.
3 Apr 13
Words do really hurt at times. Let's just be patient to whom it comes from either solicited or unsolicited. There are just people who are dealt to be like that, let's just be thankful that we are not such of kind but we must be keen enough not to be like them.
• Jacksonville, Florida
24 Mar 13
When someone is rude to me here I do report it like Hatley said as well. Some people can get pretty nasty sometimes when they believe their response is the only right one! I stay away from really heated debates because I do not like getting flustered. It's just not worth it to me.
16 Apr 13
You can't discuss well if you are not ready to hurt someone. As a part of discussion, there's disagreement. And as a result of disagreement, someone might get hurt/insulted with your opinion. Just make sure you don't use curse words, I guess. And also, strong disagreement isn't really advised to be given to myLot community. No matter how good the argument is, if you strongly disagree with someone, or if your opinion is against the mainstream, you may see you rating drop dramatically..