My dad is having surgery Thursday and I a worried

@TriciaW (2441)
United States
March 13, 2013 6:09am CST
My dad is 81 but you would never know it until these past few months. He was always on the go playing golf and traveling but now he has had to slow down due to his really bad back pain. The last time he had back surgery we thought we had lost him due to pain meds and loss of blood he became lost into another time and place. It was really scary thinking then that we would not have our dad back. This time his surgeon told him that he wouldn't do the surgery because he didn't know if he would make it through it. My dad's comment to that was well I guess I go sit in a rocking chair and wait to die. He decided to keep looking for someone to do the surgery. At first we were all a bit concerned about that but as we thought of the quality of life he would lead we realized that for his own happiness we had to agree to what he wanted to do. I wouldn't want my dad to not be able to enjoy life as he always has. Well he found someone to do it and we are all telling him it will be fine when deep down we are all scared we will lose our dad during this. I am on pins and needles waiting for it to just be over with and know he is ok. I just can't take my mind off of it. I am so very worried.
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@takie023 (14)
13 Mar 13
Aging is one of the few things we all have to deal with as human beings. I hope the surgery will go well and everything is fine for your dad. Remember, worry will not add any good thing into the situation. Find peace within yourself by praying and be very positive.
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13 Mar 13
it's very sad news to hear.but i want to tell you that he will be recover from everything very soon my dear friend. please be patient and do what you have to.i know that god will be always with you.
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@Raine38 (9116)
• United States
13 Mar 13
I understand how you feel. And I know your dad makes you proud for standing up for what he wants in life. I hope and pray that your dad gets out of the surgery are and sound. He seems like a fun person to be around, our world could use more people like him.
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@r0ck_r0ck (1953)
• India
13 Mar 13
I am so sorry about your Dad, hope he makes it out the surgery room okay. Well, with all the medical and surgical advancement nowadays i am sure he will be fine. Be strong and remember he needs you by his no matter what. Everything will turn out to be fine. Good luck and god bless.
• India
13 Mar 13
Hi Tricia. Well you and your family might be going through very tough time in order to make a call on this decision. But I think it is time your dad has made enough sacrifices for all of you. What I think is that you should go ahead and ask your dad and make the call for himself. And assure him that you all will be alright, no matter what decision he takes. Anyways have a nice day ... SuperShames
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@kprofgames (3089)
• United States
13 Mar 13
There aren't a lot of words here to curb your fears. Can understand your worries because of his age and you are right sometimes a person of advanced years doesn't come out of surgery well. But you're father is right. He wants a better quality of life and if this surgery helps him in his back pain then it would do just that. He sounds like an adventurous kind of person that doesn't like to sit still and watch the world go by. For that I'm smiling because there are times when a person reaches a certain age and thinks, well, this is it...fun time is over. Sending prayers to you and your family. I sincerely wish that he comes out of this procedure well and fit again.
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@as2006 (5041)
• Israel
15 Mar 13
I wish your father good feeling,good health and a long and healthy life.
@Raine38 (9116)
• United States
13 Mar 13
I understand how you feel. And I know your dad makes you proud for standing up for what he wants in life. I hope and pray that your dad gets out of the surgery are and sound. He seems like a fun person to be around, our world could use more people like him.
@blackrusty (3530)
• Mexico
13 Mar 13
I all we can do it pray from him and hope that he comes out of it safe and sound