My friend is making up stories about her personal life, what should I do?

Canada
March 19, 2013 7:38pm CST
My friend has been telling me a lot of lies about her personal life, about her boyfriend, work, house, parents, and so many other things. I don't really know why she's doing this, but I hear a totally different story about her from other people. What should I do?
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23 responses
@tech40 (9726)
• Philippines
20 Mar 13
My advice is, Let her do whatever she wants! Just take note of this, people will just learn from their own mistakes, Cos experience is the best teacher, let her know what is the consequence of what she done
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@jugsjugs (13045)
20 Mar 13
I would confront her and ask why you are being told things differently by other people, as some thing is not right. Perhaps also that she has to tell people some thing different, as other wise they would go and tell other people and that would cause her more problems in the long run.
@mariaperalta (19094)
• Mexico
20 Mar 13
tell her, you dont care or what to hear her lies. very simple......
• South Africa
20 Mar 13
Hehe yes that what it boils down to
20 Mar 13
I think you need to look at all the facts and make sure you have the right information before confronting her. You also need to take into consideration is she trying to hide something? Making up excuses etc? Or in some circumstances some people act different around other people than they would you for example. So who knows maybe she has had a hard time from these people, but infact these people portray another image to other people they meet, so infact you don't see it! You could Confront her gently and tell her your worried about her and you want to try and help her overcome what ever it is troubling her. Or... Maybe it is as simple as she just wants to be your friends and is trying to hard to impress you? All things need consideration before confronting her. Good luck!
• Canada
20 Mar 13
I agree here with house, because you really want to make sure first in fact she is lying and not to accuse her wrongly as this could damage any friendship you may have.
@TheHorse (71233)
• Pleasant Hill, California
5 Oct 15
I'd avoid her like the plague.
• India
23 Mar 13
well, ask her , talk to her straight forward and find out why she does like that. if she is a friend then should not behave and talk in that way. depends on how important that one is for you, talk to her and make her understand , give her chance or stop being with her. it depends on you and how close she is for you.
@WakeUpKitty (8706)
• Netherlands
22 Mar 13
I wonder if there is anything you can do except for making clear you know these are all lies. More interesting to me would be why your friend is lying non stop? Because of a lack of self esteem? Because of the idea/believe you won't be friends if it turns out her life is way more boring as yours? Are you two able at all to have a good discussion or conversation. Since if not I wonder why you two are friends at all. BTW there are also people who do tell lies and do believe it's all true. They don't see or recognize it as a lie, it exists for real to them. It's an illness. I don't know if this is the case with your friend?
@Dias14 (178)
• Indonesia
22 Mar 13
I think if you find that you do not basically trust to the a or the b. But you shall find evidence or speakers can be trusted to prove that which is right. Could have your friend lying because he was ashamed to you, or they could be that tells different feel sirik to your friends. Are difficult, but i think ask men more know is the best.
@Raine38 (9196)
• United States
20 Mar 13
I don't think she's being a good friend if she wouldn't be honest with you. What she tells other people is her business, but if she would tell stuff with you the least she could do is be honest with it. The next time she tells stuff about you, you may confirm from her whats really the real deal, you heard one thing from others and another from her. Just in case you get to be around those people, it wouldn't seem like you don't really know your own friend. And worse, they can also see that she's telling different stuff to people.
@stanley777 (7177)
• Philippines
20 Mar 13
Do you mean you have not known her that well. Is she a new friend to you? Maybe it's the truth or maybe not based from what you have heard from other people who might have knew her. Or maybe she had reasons why she does that. Anyway, it's not polite to snoop about her personal life since she is your friend. I just hope you know the truth because it's bad to pretend a life that is not true, especially from a friend.
@srisahara (4147)
• Indonesia
20 Mar 13
Hi friend...I know, it is hard for you. If her lie make you feel discomfort you can ask her directly why she is doing this, but if you afraid to make her hurt, you can let her make story and continue her lie, but don't you care her story anymore. I think time will answer who is she...Everything is up to you friend what the best way to solve this problem, I hope you find the best...
@Iriene88 (5352)
• Malaysia
20 Mar 13
If you want to treasure her friendship, perhaps you may want to ask her about the truth. So that you can understand the true her and help her to overcome this problem. But if not, just do not bother. She might have her valid reason to it. Perhaps some people just like to tell lies. They live with lies so often that they believe it is the truth.
@neelia27 (896)
• Philippines
20 Mar 13
you can talk to her why she is doing a lot of lies about her personal life.. we really cant judge her until we know what is going on with her mind.. maybe she is insecure of her life or just living in a world of fantasy just be calmed and confront her so you will know what is your next step..
@Mintlin (323)
• China
20 Mar 13
Are stories she made up about her personal life are all good ? such as how wonderful life she has,how rich she is,how decent her job is ,something like this ? if the answer is yes,i can understand,nowadays,so many people do like this,they like to show off everything,money,house,children etc. and for this reason,they sometimes make up stories,those beautiful stories are actually totally different from the real life they have.
@ashpm87 (17)
• South Korea
20 Mar 13
If she is your close friend, then you got to ask her what she is doing. You have to set her right. That's what friends are for. If she doesn't listen to you, then its up to her on how to go about it. You atleast tried to help her out. But when you tell her what she has been upto, tell her in a nice way. Do not over react. You might not now the real reason behind those stories. Good luck.
@TLilly12 (1230)
• United States
20 Mar 13
If it bothers you, what your friend is doing confront her. tell her how you fell about the things she is saying,and if she don't care about, how you feel about the things she is saying, tell here you can't be, around a liar.
• Philippines
20 Mar 13
You should talk to her cause when things get worst she might lose he boyfriend friend she have
@Porcospino (18396)
• Denmark
20 Mar 13
First of all I think that it important to find if she is lying or not. I mean can you trust the information about her that you got from other people or could the things that you hear about from other people be based on rumours, gossip etc. It is also possible that she is telling you the truth and didn't tell the truth to the other people because she is afraid of telling the truth to them and she trusts you enough to tell you the truth. If you are sure that she is lying I would confront her and tell her that there is a difference between the things that she tells you and the things other people have told you about her. I wouldn't accuse of her lying, I would just tell her that I was confused and I didn't know what to believe since the things that she told me and the things that other people told me about her didn't match.
@jenny1015 (13389)
• Philippines
20 Mar 13
Your friend must be too shy to tell you her real situation that is why she has to make up stories. But I do think that if she considers you to be a real friend, she should not worry on what you might think about her life. Talk to her and tell her the truth about what you know and tell her that knowing the truth would not make you stay away from her.
• South Africa
20 Mar 13
Tell her strait up to stop talking nonesense and start keeping it real. Lies just catch up to you and you soon start believing your own lie. Also you have to keep up with the lies.