I should Have Known

United States
March 20, 2013 8:43pm CST
I had one great day of inner peace and feeling really good yesterday. I should have known something bad is going to happen because that's how it always goes for me. Why do I have this kind of karma? Every time i start to make a huge change in the way I'm thinking because I have less stress, I can start to get my own head on straight, something huge happens. What should I do about that? The news? My dad is an idiot and he and his friend are going to jail leaving me to deal with... everything... until who knows when.
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13 responses
@nyssa102 (748)
• United States
27 Mar 13
Dear echoforever, I have read your post and really feel for you. I wish I could do more, I truly hope that everything works out for you, for the better. When life crashes and it is not our doing, it can be a very difficult thing to comprehend. My best wishes to you and yours during this difficult time.
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• United States
27 Mar 13
It can be difficult. Life is unpredictable, or, in my case sometimes I think that it isn't! I start to think bad things are around the corner often. Life is odd, that is one thing that's true.
@cmania (207)
• Portugal
22 Mar 13
life didn´t want you to sit down and relax :3 she want to see you having some new bad experiences to find their solutions ? ( why i have no idea c(=] And you surely will pass tha obstacle with a elephant paw ! 8) stay cool. Did you already talked with your father about what does he think? How do he think you will deal .
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• United States
22 Mar 13
Yes I plan to talk to him when he gets home... he is being released I just found out. That is a relief so at least for awhile I shouldn't have to worry about bills and things...
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
21 Mar 13
hik echoforever Its not your fault your dad is an idiot and he and his friend will go t jail . I am sorry to hear they got themselves into that kind of trouble. I guess you are left to take care of the fallout? I wish I knew what to say to be more helpful but I do not know the particular situation for one thikng. But do not beat yourself up over their mistakes.
• United States
21 Mar 13
Thank you Hatley. I appreciate the sentiment. I do not know what happened myself fully. I just know it was something stupid because first my dad was not involved at all and then suddenly he is being hauled off to jail with four cars in my drive way. I had been mistaken in thinking he was smarter than that. Especially knowing I can't do anything about it, including, I can not even go get him myself when he is let out of jail I don't have my own car. Which means I can't go into town if I need to nor pay the bills if he is in there that long, the list goes on. It was completely ridiculous, reckless and yes I think you are right. I will not blame myself now.
@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
21 Mar 13
omg, that is the worst. when my middle son, the one in ohio, not any here, was a teen, years ago, the cops came and arrested him right at our house. it was the worst thing seeing someone you love handcuffed and thrown into a police car. come to find out some friends of his said he was with them when they did arson to a business. the guy with the store hired them to do it for insurance my son assured me he had just been with them earlier and wasnt in on the crime. yet they held him till his alibi came through and they found he wasnt there.
• United States
21 Mar 13
Yes it isn't easy witnessing them being taken away. Its one of the harder things in life. I hope he's alright in there but I guess he will need to be more smart about his actions toward authority.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
21 Mar 13
I am sure God would not give you a cross that you could not handle. Just think good things instead of focusing on the bad. It's better said than done, I know, but that is just how we should all treat our problems in life.
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• United States
21 Mar 13
Yes it is harder to do than just saying so. Especially when I was ready to yesterday, just give all I could for the good and let go of the stress. Then something big happens and its not so easy today. So all of that was kind of wasted and useless.
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@inertia4 (27961)
• United States
27 Mar 13
I cannot answer that. but I can tell you that that is exactly what happens to me. When things seem to be going good, something happens that either dampen the mood or turn it around so that my luck stays bad. I sometimes try and ignore it. But it has been keeping me in this depression.
@inertia4 (27961)
• United States
1 Apr 13
I know what you mean. It almost seems as if it is planned that way and we have no control over it. I view it as walking up a hill and getting almost all the way up when suddenly I slip and fall back to square one. It does become tiring to have to fight this uphill battle. I think maybe we need some time away from people.
• United States
1 Apr 13
I've felt the same at times. Though without the struggle of the battle we wouldn't enjoy the rewards of the accomplishments we have so strongly.
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• United States
27 Mar 13
I've found that the good times seem so short for me. Especially since there are times like this when things are turning around and something happens. It makes me wonder if it was all just leading into something bad. I try to prepare myself because I know there's usually more bad than good, for me so far in life. That may be the wrong way to go about life, but, its the only way I know how.
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@mariaperalta (19073)
• Mexico
21 Mar 13
Dear Im sorry to hear that.. I hope everything works out for you.
• United States
22 Mar 13
Thank you, Right nwo things are up in the air, not sure where I'll be or what will happen.
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• Mexico
22 Mar 13
I know dear you like me have had a rough few months. I hope things are ok for you. Im thinking about you here.
@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
22 Mar 13
Personally, I think we have all been there before and it is not a good feeling. We just need to always remember, no matter what happens in our life if we think positive, in the end good things will come. Also for me, since I am a Christian and a praying person, I am always praying and believing god for great things as well.
• United States
22 Mar 13
Yes I too am a praying woman. Recently actually distracted but I am praying again and will continue to through out this and my life. It really does change things.
@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
21 Mar 13
i know what you mean. its like that with me also but my health also seems to be like that. i will have a day or sometimes even 2 that i will be able to push myself into doing things around here and getting a lot done and feeling even better as the day goes on. then, boom!!, 3 or more days of pure hell and sickness to where its hard to even get up and walk to the bathroom then to top it off something goes bad with one or more of my kids.
• United States
21 Mar 13
I'm sorry to hear that your health is not good consistently. It can be stressful having such highs and lows like that.
@dainy1313 (2370)
• Leon, Mexico
26 Mar 13
Hello Echo I hope that you are fine. Having our father acting like a child is not easy for us. It is a challenge of braveness, duty and courage. I´m with you. We have to stand forward. Blessings Echo...dainy
• United States
27 Mar 13
Thanks for the blessings, I offer the same. I hope that my dad learned his lesson from this.
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@subhojit10 (7375)
• India
31 Mar 13
Hey i can understand your situation very well and i would like you to know that having expectations is not bad but then u should not always expect all your expectations to go your way. There r both good and bad days in our life and we should be prepared to face each days with grit courage and firmness.
@roshigo58 (4859)
• Pune, India
31 Mar 13
Hi, It is very sad that you are going through very difficult situation. Your dad is giving you very much trouble. But you should enjoy your time whenever you have inner peace and try to get mental strength to face the future problems in your life. i know it is very easy to give advice but difficult to face the difficulty.
@mariaperalta (19073)
• Mexico
8 Apr 13
I hope all is well there. I was thinking about you today. Any word on mates gate payments?
@srisahara (4508)
• Indonesia
22 Mar 13
Hi friend...I know it is hard for you to face your life. I am sorry to hear about your father. But, try to confront your face to the future. Forget all sad experience and remember happy experience. I think it will help you to go on. Don't you regret of your life journey, make the problem being challenge to get best future. Remember "You can if you think you can" keep this important words. There are many people that get their success from the sad experience in their life.
• United States
22 Mar 13
Yes its true, I've risen from the ashes of several such situations. I just was starting to fit in and get a life going online income and the like. I want a peaceful life. My family is trying to force me into the world and I really want... a quiet.. life with God.