unfriending a friend on fb

Philippines
March 22, 2013 11:41pm CST
I have been wanting to unfriend an FB friend in my profile but having lots of thoughts doing this. This friend has not been replying to my messages and don't even see online for quite a time. But I could see some activities. that only means that this friend already did something so I cannot see anything out of the profile. Just a bit worried that if I do that unfriend thing, there would be some misconcepcions about it or I am also thinking may be this friend is just waiting for me to do it first...what do you think??
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16 responses
@Raine38 (9115)
• United States
23 Mar 13
I think you are overanalyzing this. It is just Facebook. Do you think if you unfriended her it will change how she treats you? It is obvious that she is not in a mood to chat if she is offline most of the time. And you can do nothing about it but wait until she is ready to talk. If she will not tell you her issues, then that's her choice.
@MoonGypsy (4613)
• United States
23 Mar 13
i agree. it's just facebook and you can't go around expecting people to talking to you on it all the time. people actually have lives outside of the computer and probably don't have time to waist and talk on facebook.
• Philippines
24 Mar 13
thats a good point. Overanalyzing is the right word, I should give it a thought, i guess.
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
25 Mar 13
I personally have never unfriended someone on facebook because of the fact that it just seems harsh to me. Of course, I'm also the kind of person that really doesn't have any kind of altercations with other people. That said, there have been times that other people have unfriended me on facebook and some of the reasons are stupid and petty in my own opinion (for example, one person unfriended me and sent me a message about it because she didn't like one of the other people that I was friends with). However, in the situation that you are talking about here, I think that you need to do what feels right for you to do.
• India
25 Mar 13
I likes your feeling.
@MoonGypsy (4613)
• United States
23 Mar 13
it depends. what are your requirements for friendship on facebook? do you constantly have to be in contact with all you facebook friends on a daily basis? if so, then maybe you should delete that person. after all, they are not meeting up to your requirements.
• Philippines
24 Mar 13
I like your response...of course thats one of the requirements. And I would soon delete that person
@pahak627 (4198)
• Philippines
23 Mar 13
I guess you just leave it as it is. I have several friends on fb whom I don't have contact with. I even see some who are online and when I greet them they won't reply but I just left them as they are in my friends' list. I had a mistake before. One fb friend who is also a personal friend told my husband that she always saw me online early in the morning. My husband told me about it. I was upset, I immediately unfriended her. Whenever I met her, I feel guilty but I just ignored the feeling. We greet each other just as we used to do. I just don't know what to do as to whether I'll add her again as friend and what if she will not accept it?
@chiyosan (30036)
• Philippines
23 Mar 13
If this friend of yours is no longer responding to your messages, most likely she does not even count how many friends she has so unfriending him and removing from your friends list she would barely notice that... i think. f you feel you do not want this person to be on your list, then its your call, no need to worry about it.. if she asks to be your friend then, at least you got her attention. =)
• Philippines
31 Mar 13
He would definitely notice it no matter how many his friends are! Just still cannot decide on this...let nature take its own course.
@jenny1015 (13389)
• Philippines
23 Mar 13
How close is this friend to you? I mean, how long have you been friends? If this friend is someone you've known for years, then maybe you ought to give him a chance.
• Philippines
24 Mar 13
I have known him since 2nd grade...
@lil_toni (206)
23 Mar 13
If you really can't do it then just leave it or ignore about it if he/she doesn't communicate with you anymore. Don't mind it, don't waste your time. Maybe one day, you'll never know, he/she will msg you.
• Philippines
24 Mar 13
No matter how i deny it, i know he will! :)
• Philippines
23 Mar 13
Just what you think, just leave it as it is it will not do harm in you. You act or not it will be the same. Leave it and let silence heals the wound.
• Philippines
23 Mar 13
Another friend gave the same advise to me and it won't hurt to heed that. Thanks for your kind response.
• India
23 Mar 13
Hi friend, If you know that person you can accept him/her. And if he/she is a new person the let you know the details of that person. If he/she doesn't reply to your messages then you can unfriend him/her.Or else you left him him/she if he/she starts message then you give reply.If i am in such a situation then i am going to unfriend him/her because it will be wastage of time.
• Philippines
23 Mar 13
That friend has been a friend for quite a long time. It just odd that I did notice those sudden changes..
@bloggeroo (2171)
• Philippines
28 Mar 13
If you just treat your Facebook account as just an account, you won't be having this problem. However, if your FB account is a way to communicate with your close friends, you have a problem. In my opinion, the FB account cannot be used effectively as a primary communication tool. We should just accept that we can't really control what's happening there. I suggest to just take a casual attitude about this and let it go.
• India
25 Mar 13
I like few and good friend who always likes my post and respond my every post and masseges. If someones fails to do that I never think twice to unfriend them.
@doroffee (4230)
• Hungary
23 Mar 13
On Facebook, whgen you unfriend someone, it's not going to be like they get message about it or it's gonna be visible on your wall... which can mean that that friend of yours blocked or unfriended you in the first place. Well, just unfriend her, if she is still in your friend list. It can't hurt.
@alberello (4755)
• Italy
23 Mar 13
Well, I also on Facebook, I have many friends, many of whom personally met years ago, who often send messages to them, but I get no response. However I do not want to blacklist anyone! I think that if they do not give me the answer, the basis of all there is a reason. That reasoning may also depend on my approach was wrong about the manner in which I asked a question. Then all my friends, unlike me, they work and have families, so they often have other things to think about!
• United States
23 Mar 13
If your friend isn't communicating there's no way to tell what they're thinking. They may be busy or going through some tough times and just don't feel like sharing. I don't post much on FB, but I respond to others posts and enjoy reading about friends and family. I say leave them in your friend list so they can read about what you're up to. If and when they post something you can respond to it.
@julyteen (13259)
• Davao, Philippines
23 Mar 13
It means he/she don't want to be disturbed from you. Give him/her a time to think. What is your value to him/her. Sometimes, we need to give way and give time to our friends. Maybe they have problem and don't want anybody to disturbed or wanted to keep it secrets from their friends.
@SIMPLYD (80362)
• Philippines
23 Mar 13
Just let you friend be in your list but do not unfriend her. Doing that may bring some hurt. It would be best that you just let it be. Maybe it would be better if you also skip her posts if you see one. Give her a dose of her own medicine.