Is life really unfair?
By rhizjen
@rhizjen (140)
Philippines
March 23, 2013 1:26pm CST
I recently read this quote of my friend in her facebook page saying "if you expect the world to be fair to because you are fair with them, it is like expecting a lion not to eat you, because you do not eat lion."... I always, think of that because there are people who are rude and will do anything to hurt another person for certain reason. It is quite unfair because you become nice and obedient to other people and yet they give you bad things in return the worst they will even put you to trouble. That was annoying thing especially when you are working abroad and you were just by your own and you do not have any family member to help you at all. We cannot predict the attitude of the people that we are encountering and it is quite hard if you find and have to deal with people who wants to put you into trouble and will always make a mess to prove somethings that did not to prove at all. The worst case scenario is that they will be the one who will tell to the other people that they were the victim and they were the one whose being degraded and they twist the story and it is too much for all of they have done. There are times that you try to avoid them but they keep on ruining your life and doing things to bother you. Sometimes, I just think if I really deserve their treatment or have I done something wrong for me to be treated like way. It's quite unfair because, given that I've done something but it is not right to ruin and destroy my life because of the simple things that they are sayng that I've done.
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14 responses
@kprofgames (3091)
• United States
24 Mar 13
Can see what you're saying but isn't life as fair as we make it? I mean if we really let these people bother us so then we aren't in control of ourselves, they are.
There will always be people out there that are just content to be as difficult as possible. You know, they thrive on drama and have to create it so they feel a purpose.
Just don't play into their game. Think of it as you feel sorry for them because they'd rather live their life being a noncontent with themselves and the people around them. When I think of it in that way, I can bypass the feelings of irrigation they spew out.
@elsino91 (440)
• Poland
24 Mar 13
I agree, you can't let people like that get to you. If you do, its not there fault, you can't blame them. The person you should be blaming is yourself because you let that happen. We're all in control of our own lives, we're responsible for what happens to us not the world. The world is just an environment in which different scenarios occur. But how they affect us and where we go is up to us alone.
@elsino91 (440)
• Poland
24 Mar 13
I think that anyone who thinks in terms of the world being "unfair" deserves the bad things they complain about. The world is random and those things could happen to anyone. It doesn't matter what happens to you, what matters is how you deal with it. So to all those who sit down and complain, and whine about how life should be kinder to them I ask why? What makes you so special that you deserve to have it easier when others don't. There is always going to be someone else out there who has it worse off then us. But you shouldn't be thinking about how bad you're getting it, you should be thinking about how to deal with the hardships in your life and move forward, don't expect something from the world that you're not going to get.
Well said.
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
24 Mar 13
Life is how you live with it.
If you live a decent life, expect people to look at you that way.
Of course we cannot avoid intrigues and issues - but as long as knew yourself and you never did anything wrong to others- why care for them.
I ignore people who gossips- they won't help me to grow.
I live my life the way I want, I respect the others and leave their rights to live the way they want.
@eurekafemme (5877)
• Philippines
24 Mar 13
Hello, dear.:-)
Life is fair giving as equal opportunities and chances to live our life to the fullest. However, we live in a complicated world where other people don't just see the good opportunities of life presented to them, they also thrive to the miseries of others.
I understand your predicament because I also have a sibling working abroad. And like you, no matter how hard she tries to do good thing to everyone who asked for her help, she still is a victim of ungratefulness and bad rumors.But despite of that, she still believes in doing good to others than doing them harm.
Don't be sad, just be patient and be forgiving. It is not you who will earn the bad karma at the end. Life is fair, just remember that. An no matter what other people do to pin you down or ruin your life, it is still you who will decide who you will become at the end of the day and what your life will become after all . :-)
Have a great day, my dear.:-)
@IntrovertShy (2780)
• Marikina, Philippines
26 Mar 13
Hmmmm.. that is difficult. I am agree that life is really unfair that is why it is so difficult to live here on earth. We are only human who commits mistake and another is people have different personality and character. That is another reason why each person do not understand each other. Some would become rude to us and do bad thing to us because they thought we're doing bad things to them even though we did not do anything wrong.
Only God knows and reads the heart of each person because he knows everything.
@natliegleb (5175)
• India
24 Mar 13
for sure it is unfair and the thing is he was not obedient makes it for sure and something which we must preserve and should not be ruined all the way and you should not eat lion for sure
@MoonGypsy (4606)
• United States
23 Mar 13
if you know that you are being good to people and not getting the same in return, you need to stop. your friend is right. the world is mostly harsh and people are mostly harsh. you can't go through life like a deer in the headlights waiting to get hit. if you are dealing with people that have to ruin your life just to get their point across, i say stop dealing with them. you and your self esteem doesn't need it.
@anklesmash (1412)
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23 Mar 13
That's a very bleak way of looking at life,call me naive but I'm of the opinion that what goes around comes around.For that reason I try to be nice to everyone that I come across.And I tend to find that most people I come across in life tend to treat me fairly.But I believe that most people in this world tend to be good.And even if most people aren't and being good doesn't cause people to be good to you and bad people have more success.I would still try fair and good thing as I want to do what is right and be a good person.
@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
23 Mar 13
In my opinion, life is what you make of it. If you think that it's unfair, it will be unfair. If you take a different perspective, you'll find that looking at the negative will only bring you negative because you're focusing on the negative. If you look at the positive, which is much better, you'll bring positive in your life. You won't be able to avoid people who take advantage of you, that's definite, but you can always find a way to deal with them completely, whether it's confrontation, or avoiding them, it's really up to you. Whatever ways you can think of to make your life better, you have to do them. Life is really short so you have to enjoy it. Don't focus on what's wrong with life because it'll humans gazillion years to fix 'em.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
24 Mar 13
No matter how much we want our life to be perfect, still there would be people raining on our parade. We just need to respect other people's opinions about other things. That is just the way it's supposed to be.
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
23 Mar 13
Life is not but human beings are and society (human beings again) are. Since they make the rules for being accepted (no matter if it's as a person, for a job, a loan, visa, etc).
@doroffee (4222)
• Hungary
23 Mar 13
I do think it's unfair. I mean, I know there are people who say it isn't, becxause they believe in reincarnation karma, but as I don't, all I see is really nice, loyal, careful and good-tempered people suffering and innocent children dying, while some huge jerks (who are embazzling money, who get people killed by assassins, who treat their employees awfully, who beat their own wives etc.) live in a really glamorous life, without worrying about whether they are gonna have lunch for tomorrow, living in glorious mansions...
@subhojit10 (7375)
• India
23 Mar 13
I would completely support u on this that we should never mind what people do and speak around us, it is their headache, our responsibility should be to continue doing good work so that people would remember us even after we leave this earth and would take our name with pride. life is all about ups and downs and we have to deal with this.
@yume11 (183)
• Romania
23 Mar 13
In some parts I agree with you, but in some not... Yes, it's tiring when you're all nice and pretty with someone and that person it's always acting bad with you, it this case it means that that peron has something, not you[as long as you're polite and do nice things for him/her], so you should keep a distance from that person. This doesn't mean that you'll have to be rude or reverenge to that person, I think you should continue to be polite, and treat that person in a neutral way. Maybe as the time passes by, that person will understand that he/she doesn't have to be rude with you,as long as you're so polite and nice with everyone :).
Have a nice day! ^^
