How jealous..!

India
March 24, 2013 5:57am CST
My mother, has a neighbour, they are a young couple who many talk about them in neighbourhood. both of them are incredibly good looking and what make the story is that young man has become that much jealous that has changed and made life of hell for his wife. he has covered all windows and does not let anybody meet his wife, is not taking her anywhere and stop all friendship and family members to come and go to his residence. older one have made question to him why he does like that and why nobody see his wife? he has said I am so much afraid of losing my wife, all of my friends talk about her, outsider just look at her. and I can not stand that. I will lose my wife so no solution I keep her like that at home, nobody should see her anymore. everybody talk about that girl and what this man is doing, taking a bird and closing her in the cage.... I believe this kind of people are mad, they really need treatment. any idea?
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@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
25 Mar 13
I do think that in doing that to his wife, he is bond to lose her more. The wife also needs a bit of freedom. Is it her fault is he is really beautiful?
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
25 Mar 13
True! Honestly, I have become in a similar situation before. I guess it is really because of my husband's insecurity and probably how my husband has seen from his father while growing up. I just got tired of fighting with him. Si to keep my sanity I am forced not to tell him so much about what I think or about my friends. That way there is peace in the house.
• India
26 Mar 13
I really want that husband and wife, become the best friend of each other and they should not need anything to hide from each other but some men are really not reasonable enough and wife is getting force to keep quiet on many things as knows if we say, he might feel angry... it is not good, wish men could become more logic and reasonable in the life.
• India
25 Mar 13
no actually it is not fault of anybody if is beautiful or not? he has become mad by thinking so much that another men will take her from me.
@thanks1961 (7035)
• India
24 Mar 13
What I am telling is just the other way! I remember, my brother's one friend got married in such a way. Bu the case is just opposite to it. This guy was a handsome young boy and he got married to a 5-6 years elder to him and was black complexion and not looking so good and not even matching each other. The result was that he never taken out for a movie, never go together to church, never been together at any point of time. She goes out with her sister or mother-in-law and with others. And after 1-2 years, he gone to gulf countries for job and comes home town only after 3-4 years time. His parents fixed the marriage and their intention was to get dowry. Any way, I don't know anything about them now. Also, one of my far relative, who got married to a girl, that also mainly considering the dowry part. Here he himself was oked to this proposal. He was a good built and having 110 kg. of weight where as this poor girl looks about 40-42 kg. max. As I said earlier, he never take her out and their height also has a vast difference. It is true that she his highly qualified and best characterized girl and nice to talk also. But it is sad that he never take her to anywhere and the things are too touching when it comes to simple matters too.
• India
24 Mar 13
One more thing, if I were in his place (your mom's neighbor) I would have take her out every day to show everyone that I got such a beautiful girl and I would have proud to have such a beautiful girl, but the real life is not the same. Bad luck!
• India
25 Mar 13
Yes, I have notice this nature with many of the people around. Especially, if the women is good looking and the man is average. I think you are so beautiful and that is why your h/b is taken care about yourself. May I ask you one thing, is this the avatar of yours or someone else? If it is you, you are really looking nice and can't blame your h/b. However, if someone looks at and notice, there is nothing harm in this. Because we all will attract anything which has beauty and it is the human nature. But we need to be careful that it should not hurt anyone and it should be in a passive way. We all will be watchful on the beauty, wherever, or whatever it is. Just see a flower, a beauty of anything, we will attract on it and will try to enjoy with the possible way. So, if someone notices, what we can do is, just ignore and go ahead with our work. This is the world around and people are different in nature. Similarly, if we also find something attractived, we will look on it and enjoy it, may be a man or women or an art work or a painting, music or dance, whatever it is, if there is a beauty, we may get attracted, which I think one among the law of nature.
• India
25 Mar 13
well, some men are afraid if somebody look at their wife. I do not know my husband that much in that way, but I know that he is so jealous and does not like anybody look at me, he used to say, I do not like to take you outside because guys look at you, once I will not control and I kill somebody and go to jail... that is why whenever we go out, I am so careful and try to avoid so many things. but finally he feel that he is less in front of me and maybe that is one of the reason he try to hurt me and do kind of things that I think yes, he is also something that ladies can be interest on him.
@MoonGypsy (4606)
• United States
24 Mar 13
i say that she is in a very unhealthy relationship. then again, she is the one that has to see that. no one can make that choice for her.
• India
25 Mar 13
yes, that man has said nobody should look at my wife, except me. he has become totally mad.
@doroffee (4222)
• Hungary
24 Mar 13
Not his is creepy. He needs mental help as soon as possible. He is going to turn his wife's life a nightmare. If he really trusted her or was confident in himself, he would know that if his wife really loved him, no matter how many men would oodle her and drool over her, she would stay loxal and she would never leave him. So he ruins her life instead because of his complexes. He should be brought to an expert to help him, before he does something even worse.
@doroffee (4222)
• Hungary
24 Mar 13
I meant NOW this is creepy... (how a letter can give something a totally different meaning)
• India
25 Mar 13
yes, he become mad just on love and afraid of losing his wife but he choose very wrong way and does not know like that he is destroying love in her heart and feeling.
• India
24 Mar 13
Hi friend, sad to hear about this, you are right, really this kind of people are psychos and they need treatments. They don't have trust with their partner and give this kind of tortures to them. I feel pity for that girl
• India
25 Mar 13
I also feel so sorry for that girl. nobody has right of doing such thing to any human.
@Raine38 (12257)
• United States
24 Mar 13
That man is indeed sick in the head. But the wife needs to do something for herself so somebody can help her out of that abusive situation. It is hard to rescue someone who doesn't want to be rescued. Who knows, maybe she likes being treated that way, we will never know unless she seeks help. I just hope that while she is cooped up there, her husband doesn't physically hurt her.
• India
25 Mar 13
her husband is kind to her but the problem is he has locked her and does not accept anybody to see her wife's beauty. he become mad of being afraid of losing her. I think if he will continue like that , finally he will do something with the face of his wife, if she try to leave him.
@louievill (28851)
• Philippines
24 Mar 13
What a selfish fellow, anyway jealousy is a sign of lack of self confidence and insecurity, what he is doing is just a manifestation of what he really is inside
• India
24 Mar 13
yes, that kind of people that behave in that way are really too selfish.
• Valdosta, Georgia
24 Mar 13
I think there is more of a chance of her leaving because she will get tired of living like that! That man is being abusive to her locking her up like that. She is not an animal and should not be treated this way. He needs to trust her and be confident in the marriage they have. If they are truly in love no matter how beautiful she is they will still be together... He needs to stop being abusive to her in that way and trust his wife! Without trust there is no love... I feel so sorry for his wife and I hope she escapes.
• India
24 Mar 13
I do hope for better life for her.
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
24 Mar 13
Well I feel pity for that man. He will surely lose his wife. Not because of other men but because he locks her up, he is making her hating him. Love will be gone soon. This is not anymore about love or jealousy, it's about being obsessed and feared of something that is not reality at all. Only the woman can help herself. If she accepts this behaviour her life will be a hell. She has to tell him that if he doesn't behave normal she will leave him (and let him be locked up in a mental hospital).
• India
24 Mar 13
yes, he should go to mental hospital . that should be the place for this kind of people who behave in that way with one human.
@roshigo58 (4859)
• Pune, India
24 Mar 13
Hi, You are right. The position of that woman is like the bird in the cage. That man is very possesive of his wife and he feels insecure because she is beautiful. The beauty of the wife become like a curse. Really that man needs some mental treatment. Really he is a mad man.
• India
24 Mar 13
Thank you that you are agree in that point with me, yes, he really needs treatment.
@Angelpink (4035)
• Philippines
24 Mar 13
Hi ! This is no longer normal , too must possessiveness and obsession would lead to horrible things. She is making her already a slave because of his being paranoid. The man should be seen by an expert because some unresolved conflicts is attacking now.This is no longer good , bit risky.
• India
24 Mar 13
I am agree with you.
24 Mar 13
O.M.G. Looking he does not have faith on himself as well as his wife. This type of person really need some treatment not physically but mentally, Whats the life one day he will really understand the acutual mean of love, He can not bound her like that so much as much as restriction he would give as much as the probability would increase to lose her wife. may GOD give him some wise
• India
24 Mar 13
I also wish that he will understand how wrong he is. it is not good to be that much selfish.