Do you stay on your promise?

India
March 25, 2013 1:11am CST
I have learned in my life, that I should not give promise to anybody, but if I give, even if I lose my head, I should stay on my promise, like a MAN, that was what my army father, taught me from my childhood so that is deeply in my mind and for that I am so afraid of fiving promise to anybody but if I give then I should complete that. How about you? Do you give promises? How much you accept responsibility of your promises? Do you stay on your words?
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@iamsittie (330)
• Philippines
25 Mar 13
I do not give promises because we do not know what will happen in the future. I only give promise when I am sure that I can fulfill that. Because when someone trusted your promises, you should know how to value it. But most of us forget the true value of doing promises.
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• India
25 Mar 13
you are right, and I am agree with you. we used to forget so many things in our life. like our promises.
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@ajithlal (14568)
• India
29 Mar 13
I also think that sometimes people will forget their promises.
• India
29 Mar 13
but that is too bad to forget a promise, that is a word which has taken our responsibility. it really hurt when somebody forget it, it shows how careless the one is.
@grvdubey11 (1882)
• India
25 Mar 13
That is right, if you are promising something to someone and then revert back its very rude.Actually if we keep breaking our promises then people wont trust us,it would be like this guy is not reliable trusting him/her would be bad idea.Good that you got such lesson from your father, usually people learn these things with experience.
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• India
26 Mar 13
yes, we can not trust on the one who break promise.
@kenshin2143 (1882)
• Philippines
25 Mar 13
As much as possible, I really do keep my promise. However, there are unavoidable times that I break them though.
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• India
25 Mar 13
I try to not give promises as I know my word already has power, when I say something then I stand on my words. so those who know me never ask me for promise
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@hunibani (720)
• Philippines
25 Mar 13
Promises meant to be broken. Sometimes. Hmm, usually ALWAYS. That is why I don't expect promises coz they will disappoint you. xx
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• India
25 Mar 13
in my idea, the one who is honest in the life, does not need to say any promise.
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@thanks1961 (7049)
• India
25 Mar 13
Hi good morning, How was the week-end? There are some occasions where I could not fulfill my commitments. Yes, I regret for the same, though it was not happend purposively. Not so big in deal, but when someone else is getting troubled with our promises, it is beyond pardonable and may creat inconvenience or pains to others in whaterver manner. Also, if we can fulfill our promise, it is a kind of pleasure and for me, I will enjoy such situations by understanding that the other person feel good on such situations. Especially, it comes to love, finance, we need to be much careful becuase these two factors influence our life too much and it is a chance to understand others with their nature and attitude.
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• India
25 Mar 13
Good morning Thanks1961 thank you for your nice response. yes I am agree with you about promises, especially when it is about love and finance. I just believe in to not give promises if you can not fullfill them in the life, for those kind we should used the world, I will try my best .... but we can promises on what we are able to observe for others and we should do them if we use the word of promise. but I prefer to not promise to anybody because I know I do what I say.
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• India
25 Mar 13
Some time it may not be purposive to avoide promises. In most of the times, it may be circumstantial and some times, it can be of moral liability or obligations. But as you said, whenever we make promises, it is better to think about it probability to happen and if not, better to keep a conditional promise so that the other praty also can take precautions. In this matter, I support you that if not possible, just avoid such situations and by doing so, we will be in a safer side than attracting blames and spoiling our name also.
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• India
25 Mar 13
I think the honest one, who stay on what says, does not need to use even word of promise, because when we are honest and do whatever we say truly then promise will not have any meaning.
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• Philippines
25 Mar 13
I don't give promises easily, cause i believe on the quote " promises are made to be broken". I guess its depend on the person on how credible he is with his words, but for me its very hard for me to give promise, for i don't know what will happen to me tomorrow. But when i give my promise i'll try my best to fulfill it to matter what happened, because it is very shameful to broke a promise.
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• India
25 Mar 13
yes it is better to not make promise but if we make then it is really shameful to break it.
• Philippines
25 Mar 13
Yes, because me too i don't like someone is promising at me, and it will only be broken, i'll be so upset on that person.
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26 Mar 13
yes i do promise , but sometimes its very hard to stay on them. promise is like gaining the temporary trust of a person but we should try and keep up to that. people use it as a weapon to gain the trust but this is mis used often many times
@bellis716 (4806)
• United States
27 Mar 13
I always try my best to keep any promise I make. Parents frequently make promises to children, just to make them shut up, that they know that the cannot keep. I think this is very wrong, as it teaches the child that the cannout depend on their parent's word. Now, there are exceptions where no one, including the child, expects the promise to be kept. Example: I remember hollering at my children, "If you that again, I'll kill you." Of course, they did, and I didn't kill them.
• India
28 Mar 13
thanks for sharing. but it is not fair to talk in that way to our children. it will make a big fear in their heart and no safety in my idea.
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@bellis716 (4806)
• United States
29 Mar 13
My children knew that the threat to kill was an idle threat and usually laughed. I would not talk that way now, but I was young and learning about children. What I was getting at was things like promises to take them to the park the next day but forgetting about it and going golfing with friends instead. That, I agree, is wrong.
• India
29 Mar 13
thanks to reply. it may happen for many of us to talk in that way while we are not serious at all.. it is too good to make fun and talk nicely with our children and family. having fun in family is really great , I mean making fun with family is really joyful for all. I wish my kid grow up fast and we talk and laugh together so much... in my mother country, we use to talk and laugh so much with our family, saying jokes , singing and clapping and dance is so common in everyday of a family life. thanks for sharing and have a good day.
@dismalgrin (2470)
• United States
29 Mar 13
No, I don't promise much. I don't even say 'maybe' much anymore because so many people will try to pass a maybe off as a yes. And I'm not just talking about children here. Grown ups tried to pull that on me as well. But, I also hate for people to think of me as a meany mean head because I say no too much too.
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• India
29 Mar 13
well, I am agree with not making promises, it is really great of you to say no directly to others. that is a gift. it will use like a short cut for you to reach you faster to what you want .. and it is good to be honest so an honest one, does not need to use word of promise. have a good day.
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@ajithlal (14568)
• India
29 Mar 13
I also think that it is good to be honest in life.
• China
26 Mar 13
I tried and tried to keep my promise,but sometimes miss.I don't give promise easily.
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• India
26 Mar 13
it is good to not make promise easily.
@ajithlal (14568)
• India
26 Mar 13
I also think it is good to fulfill the promises and not to make promises every now and then.
@cupkitties (6850)
• United States
25 Mar 13
I do not make promises and try to avoid giving a straight yes or no answer if my girls ask if we are going to do something because if I said directly "Yes, we are" or "Yes, I will" , they take it as a vow. Instead I say "Maybe" because it is neither a yes or no. Promises shouldn't not be made, if we do not know for certain that we can keep them. No body knows because we have no way of knowing what turn life will take next.
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• United States
25 Mar 13
sorry. Omit "not"
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• India
26 Mar 13
I agree with you that much it is possible we should not make promises, if a person is enough honest on the words she or he says then there is no need for promise.
@vexxus (708)
• Philippines
25 Mar 13
I made a promise to a girl one day and she made a promise too, I guess it is a pact between us, that we will meet after ten years, we started the promise in the fourth quarter of year 2003, since we are in the first quarter of 2013, we barely have 6 months to go to fulfill that pact, I have never forget the promise yet, but i will surely try to fulfill it, I just don't know if she'd remember it, but i don't care. through time people change, I want to prove her that i am capable of becoming the Man of my words.
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• India
25 Mar 13
i hope that both of you full fill your promises on what you both have given to each other.
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@vexxus (708)
• Philippines
12 Dec
@extremefun4fun unfornately we decided to separate ways. But another promise is made that is not bother each other again. Since we no longer both feel that thing. Im mean spark which ignites our teenage fream. Even though we are both happy with the new life we found. Not all good promises are meant to be fullfilled i guess.
• Italy
25 Mar 13
Never give promises you cant keep. That in it self will kind of stop you from giveing promises all day. I agree with your dad though. If you have promised something,keep your word. I dont know if you have kids,but promise them a chocolate if they clean a room is not a good things to do, but even if say it after a long discussion where your kid dont want to clean his/hers room,keep your word. Your kid will take you seriously and respect you. It will know that when you have said yes or no to something,they know they can trust you. I think doing to same way for friends and family is the way to do it. They know that when you give a promise , you will keep it.
• India
25 Mar 13
thank you for sharing. I am agree with you. promises are really important and we should full fill our promise if we promise we should never turn back on our words.
• India
25 Mar 13
I am glad of what my dad taught me, and sometimes when I see those who turn back on promise, I really see it all goes on what they have learned in their life by their older one. so it is really important we teach good things and accepting responsibility to our kids for better tomorrow and having better people in this world.
• Philippines
25 Mar 13
I do give promises but I also admit that sometimes I dont know how to keep them well.
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• India
26 Mar 13
well, good to think before making promise if really we can full fill them, otherwise you can say I will try my best in that way but no promise
@elsino91 (443)
• Poland
25 Mar 13
I always keep my promises. If I know I won't be able to keep them then I don't make them in the first place. I do this because I don't like giving people false hope and I don't like to let them down after having promised something. I know I wouldn't like someone breaking their promise to me so I don't do that to others. Its as simple as that.
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• India
26 Mar 13
it is really good to not make promise but if we make we full fill that to not hurt anybody or to not take hope of somebody. thank you so much for sharing.
@jagjit273 (1740)
• India
25 Mar 13
"Promises are made to be broken" thats the simple thing people do and follow these days. So I don't make any promises these days. I just try my level best to do things for others and if I can't then its their destiny. Don't take much tension than required. Happy mylotting.
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• India
26 Mar 13
well, thanks for sharing.
25 Mar 13
I know with me if I make a promise that I do my best to keep that promise. To me it makes a difference if someone makes a promise to me and then breaks it, then that hurts. It makes you even wonder if you can trust the person who does it. Although if they do their best to keep the promise that does make a difference in a way.
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• India
26 Mar 13
I really can not trust the one who break promise, everything is going under question. respect, trust...
@doroffee (4230)
• Hungary
25 Mar 13
I have to admit that sometimes I failed to keep a promise, but not on purpose, but because I either forgot or I faced some difficulties because of which I couldn't do it. But it was really rare. I really believe in that we should keep promises, because someone else expects/waits for it, and we can't diappoint them, if we actually made a kind of a verbal contract :D.
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• India
26 Mar 13
well, it is good when we want to give promise, first to think if really we are able to full fill them. I really do not like to hurt anybody with my promise so I try to avoid making promise or, if I think it is some difficult for me to full fill it then just I will say, I will try my best in that way but not promise.
• United States
25 Mar 13
I try as much to stay on my promise once made. Most times I do not care what it will cost me provided I have given out such promise, I go out of my way to fulfill them.
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• India
26 Mar 13
first it is better to not make promise, but if we make, we should think if really we are able to full fill them. otherwise it is better to say only I will try my best in that way but not promise.
@lampar (7597)
• United States
25 Mar 13
Well, whenever i make a promise, i stay on it and full fill my promise at the end of the bargain, that is what i did for all my promises, that is what a real man did to all his promises like your father told you, seem like he taught you well and keep you from astray being a REAL man. If for some reason i believe that i can't get it done, then i don't promise anything to anyone. That is just the way i accept my responsibility on my all promises, i delivered at the end of the day as promised. Other people may have their own way to do with their promises, some may not full fill them at all, other may forget about them after being told. Each one is different in their own way to handle their own promises.
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• India
26 Mar 13
you are right, promise is making our responsibility and we should stay on our words.
@saim90 (8)
25 Mar 13
Yes, I am firm on my promises.i never make a fake promise,if I promised some thing ,I always try to kept my promise.because I thing keeping promise shows your inner strength,make others to believe on you... its good to keep your promises.
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• India
26 Mar 13
that is too good and I really appreciate those who are like you to stay on their promise.