Me and my ex boyfriend are thinking about getting back together.
@alavenderkitty (551)
United States
November 22, 2006 5:30pm CST
We have been separated for over a year and both started seeing other people. He says he wants us to try and be a couple again and we decided to go out this weekend.
Am I doind the right thing?
We also have a child together who 8 months old. He hasn't seen his father in almost 5 months.
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@ScarletAlston (2693)
• United States
23 Nov 06
oh boy...if you guys have a baby, its good for him to re-establish his relationship with the baby...but as for the two of you, I was always told in relationships, you go forward and not back...we don't know if you trully love this guy, so the decision is totally up to you..
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@alavenderkitty (551)
• United States
23 Nov 06
I still love him, but if what you said is true then there is no way we could work things out between the two of us.
@ElusiveButterfly (45939)
• United States
22 Nov 06
You need to ask yourself if this is what you truly want. If you think that there is a chance for you to make it as a couple then go ahead. Tread softly.
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@alavenderkitty (551)
• United States
23 Nov 06
I was thinking about seeing how things work out this weekend, and don't get the baby involved until I know he's for real.
@Poison_Girl (4150)
• United States
22 Nov 06
Well, I don't think anyone here can answer that for you. Nobody knows the whole story except you and I think only YOU can know for sure what's right for you.
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@alavenderkitty (551)
• United States
23 Nov 06
Yes, in the end it will be my decision. I just wanted a little help with it.
@alavenderkitty (551)
• United States
23 Nov 06
Sorry I didn't post it, but the reason is now in post 1 and 2.
@cdhata (46)
• United States
22 Nov 06
Well, the above is correct. I guess it would also depend on the reason why you separated. For the child's sake it may be a good idea to try again but just be careful this time around and try not to let the same thing happen (whatever thay may be).
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@alavenderkitty (551)
• United States
23 Nov 06
I left him because I felt our relationship was very immature. When the baby came he was still acting was one big game and the prize was only to get cash. He's telling me he changed, and I want to believe him. And like you said, try not to let the same things happen again.
@toastking (272)
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22 Nov 06
When there is a child involved it always becomes a lot more difficult to come up with a straigh forward answer. First off you have to think if its right for you, as you broke up with him for a reason so you have to take that into consideration, second off you have to make sure its right for the child in question, thirdly you have to make sure you believe its right for him, as if you don;t think its the best way to make him happy, it will ultimately all end in tears and it wont just be his.
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@alavenderkitty (551)
• United States
22 Nov 06
That's exactly what I was thinking. When we were together he was acting so imature and wouldn't get himself together. When I found out I was pregnant he still wouldn't get his act together so I left and stayed with my mom until the baby was born. I still want to be with him, and would love if we could be a family.
@pagli84 (1850)
• Netherlands
22 Nov 06
well, it depends on why you two broke up in the first place. the information you just provided isn't really enough for us to tell you if its a good idea or not. if he was abusive, then i would say that you shouldn't try again. if he cheated on you, i think you shouldn't try again.
just make sure that whatever you decide is in the best interest of your child, because he should be the most important thing in your life right now..and any decision you make affects him as well.
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@alavenderkitty (551)
• United States
23 Nov 06
Im sorry I left out information, but he never cheated or was abusive. We just argued alot and never could keep a job. We had an apartment, but I alone couldn't afford the rent and utility bills.
I also feel he may be a bad influence on our son because he still drinks and smokes weed, and hangs out with the wrong crowd.
I just wanted to give him another chance for the baby's sake, but now I'm starting to rethink my decision...
@brendalee (6082)
• United States
22 Nov 06
Only you can decide if its right or not. My main concern is why hasn't he seen the child in almost 5 months. But I guess it wouldn't hurt to give it a try. Good luck to you.
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@alavenderkitty (551)
• United States
23 Nov 06
He hasn't seen our baby because I can never really keep in touch with him. He just recently bought a cellphone, so for the past month we've been talking a little bit.
