Fighting Temptations (Fellas?)

Avoiding temptation is mostly what I do. Haha, it's not that hard for me since there are not that many guys who could tempt me anyway. However, for guys, I can understand it is harder because there are many great looking women and then there's raging testosterone levels to deal with. A man who has excellent control is much more attractive. Those who use excuses for being tempted are just lame jerks who are powerless and less of a man than the latter.

A man (or woman) who cannot keep his word is unworthy of any relationship - whether it's friendship, business or romantic. Resisting temptation is simply part of being decent and honest. Of course, the vast majority of men will taint that thought with a million excuses, especially those who consider themselves "playas" or a real catch, but when push comes to shove there is never, ever an excuse for being unfaithful and anyone who cheats is just a gutless a-hole. If you're seriously tempted, you have to ask yourself why. If it's enough to break the existing relationship, then you should take care of that first. Once it's over, you can consider the new relationship. If it's not enough to replace what you have, then it's just your little head leading the big one. And no, I've never cheated. (Note: "you" used instead of "one", not as in you, yourself, particularly!)

I have two suggestions. First, meet a couple somewhere, who has something really awesome going on. Meet a man who has a great family, great wife, and great life. Not a perfect life. If you meet someone with a perfect life, run away. Those people are faking. When you meet this couple who really has a good thing, remember that this man faced all the same temptation, and got pasted it, and it was worth it. The best way to beat temptation, is to see the good result, and tell yourself over and over "This is worth it." What makes you "awesome", is that you have standards, and morals, even when other people do not. Anyone can keep it together in a few weeks, or even a few years. That's par for the course. You want to beat the par, and do something not every man can do? Keep it together for a life time, and remember it's worth it. That's something awesome. Second tip: Determine before hand, what you are going to do in a given situation. No human being can always make perfect wise choices in the moment. This is why military people train so much. They doesn't arrive in the battle, and carefully consider their options. They already have their responses trained into them. When this happens, do that. When that happens, do this. Snap judgments and choices in the moment, that keep them and their fellow soldiers alive. You need to have this figured out to, before you ever reach the situation. Like driving down the road at 100 MPH, you gotta know what you are going to do, before you come up on something. You won't have time to think through the situation, when some hot steamy girl slithers up on you. If you don't have those decisions made before you hit that road bump, you are going to end up flying off the road of life, and ruining everything you have gotten thus far. You need to think it through now, while you are safe in the arms of your wife, or future wife. Make the choices now, while you can consider the cost and risk of what might happen, without being overwhelmed by the moment. Then when temptation comes, you have an answer settled in your mind to start with. No, I want a good family, I want a good life, I want a happy marriage, and I'm going to work at it, not with every random hotty that walks by, but with *MY* hot wife, and no one else.... because it's worth it. That's the best I can give you. I hope it helps, and good luck. This battle will be the most difficult of your life.

Always have the picture of that special person in your mind. And think of all the good times you shared, how she has appreciated you and how much she has shown her love for you.

There is always the temptation to stray, especially when all those sexy young girls are walking around in skimpy tops and skirts that hardly cover anything. But if you love the lady you're with, then looking is all that you should do and your love for your lady should be enough to keep you faithfull to her. But it's very hard sometimes.

I always go out with my partner so i wont be tempted to look for others. Spending time together makes you like her more. If that happens ofcourse you wont be finding others.