first date... was it an unforgettable experience?
By dagami
@dagami (1158)
Rome, Italy
April 13, 2013 3:34pm CST
i have a lady friend who is in her mid thirties, single, with a very high paying job, pleasing personality, etc... her family and friends have been egging her to get married. she wants to have a family, yes of course! if she can find the right man. one of her colleagues said that she knew of a man who was also single and stable. however she couldn't introduce the two of them right away since the man worked overseas on a cruise ship and so if it would alright with her, she would give the email address to the man so they could start their friendship on the internet. and so the "getting to know each other" and friendship began. my friend liked him. they had so many things in common and chatting with him was never boring. she eventually looked forward to meeting him.
finally the man was up for a vacation and they met. after a few awkward minutes, they relaxed and started talking with ease. he then invited her to dinner that night.
guess what??? my friend got turned off that he didn't know how to handle the knife and fork properly. of all reasons...
well, they didn't click. my friend is still single. and i think she'll remain this way for the rest of her life.
what about you? do you have an unforgettable experience on your first date? are table manners that important that you would renounce getting to know a person better because of this?
well, they didn't click. my friend is still single. and i think she'll remain this way for the rest of her life.
what about you? do you have an unforgettable experience on your first date? are table manners that important that you would renounce getting to know a person better because of this?3 people like this
12 responses
@cupkitties (7421)
• United States
13 Apr 13
Oh yeah. It was nforgettable all right 
He invites me out to eat and conventionality he has forgotten his wallet and I end up paying. I was making earning less than min wage that time too. Then he dared to ask me out again 
He invites me out to eat and conventionality he has forgotten his wallet and I end up paying. I was making earning less than min wage that time too. Then he dared to ask me out again 2 people like this
@cupkitties (7421)
• United States
13 Apr 13
That's true.I just didn't want to put up a fuss or give off the impression of being a gold digger. Well, that was my logic then. A very flawed one at that.
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@katie0 (5203)
• Japan
14 Apr 13
Oh no what a lost opportunity. Tell your friend she needs to loosen up, when we don't know how to handle something we either learn or go for it and have a good laugh of our own selves, I think she needs to loosen up a bit. And maybe she shouldn't find someone because people are being annoying about it but just because she wants to have a relationship or not.
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@goldeneagle (6745)
• United States
14 Apr 13
I don't remember what we did on my first date, probably because she was very beautiful and had such pretty eyes. I don't think my eyes left hers the entire night...I would like to go out with her again someday
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@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
16 Apr 13
My husband had bad table manners when we met and his parents has never taught him the things that learned when I was 5 years old. I was surpriced when I discovered that, but it didn't change my feelings for him, not at all. He asked me to show him the correct ways to eat and I have showed him that. My husband and I met eachother on the internet and we exchanged emails for a while before we decided to meet for the first time. I was very nervous before our meeting, but the meeting went really well and we talked for a long time. Today neither of us remember the topics that we talked about, but we both thought that we had a good time together. Later we became a couple and next month we have been married for 4 years.
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@quieley (316)
• Philippines
14 Apr 13
For me, first date is an unforgettable experience, and also the person because of the first thrill of romance it brought. We may not remember some of our previous relationship but we will always remember the first date and the first love.
I had my first date with someone I truly loved. It was our first conversation actually and I accepted him immediately without hesitation. I can't remember getting turned off to him. Maybe because he's my first love. Well, we broke up after 10 days. I experienced persecutions from people around us.
I think when your friend truly like the guy maybe that wouldn't happen.
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@ayeeesha (1127)
• Philippines
13 Apr 13
Table manners are really important and I'm very particular with that as well. But if table manners is the primary basis for refusing to get to know the guy better, hmmm, not really. I wouldn't want to continue going out with a guy if he has a really bad personality and it already shows on the first date.
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@lelin1123 (15595)
• Puerto Rico
13 Apr 13
This is so funny but I have only had two first dates in my life. My first date with a man was when I was 20 years old and we were together for 11 years. Then my second first day was with a man that I'm still with today. In fact, we will be celebrating 25 years together on the 29th of this month. Each first date were unforgettable because they were wonderful dates with no regrets.
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advance greetings for your anniversary. wow, 25 years!!! i hope my husband will be able to put up with me for that long. 
@rog0322 (2829)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
14 Apr 13
Hi,
Having a real relationship is the ability to see more than the eyes can see in a person, it is like looking beyond the trivial things that make the quirks and idiosyncrasies in every one. The way he handled the fork and knife or spoon, the way he talk or walk or the style of the clothes or hair, this all shall vanish as one sees through the eyes of love, of someone gifted with that magic feeling of being alive when the eyes beheld the object of desire. You maybe right to say she'll remain single "for the rest of her life" if she shall not get the right attitude and the feeling for a potential lifetime partner. One reason, it should take a very long time for this getting to know period in order to develop friendship,rapport and camaraderie, things that make up a good relationship, things that go beyond the ordinary and physical attributes of a person and the things that can become a good foundation of love.
If we look at the history of long lasting relationships, we see rough and tumble, tupsy-turvy encounters, on the streets, at work and just about anywhere, the more chaotic are the circumstances, the stronger is the bond. Not the candlelit dinners, not the moonlit promenades nor our "ideal" settings can make up to it. A relationship based on these criteria are bound to fail and don't last in the long run.
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@dagami (1158)
• Rome, Italy
14 Apr 13
yes, we should look beyond these insignificant little things if we love a person. however, the first encounter counts since this is the start of the relationship. lots of people don't repeat their dates after they get turned off during the first. it's sad that sometimes we don't give people a chance to prove their real worth. we don't take time to discover the person within.
It would be of course to feel uncomfortable when your first date,so try to calm down and show your natural part and that person would like real you.After that you probably feel ease.So good luck and cheers for your date,good for you.
@mariaperalta (19073)
• Mexico
13 Apr 13
My first with my ex, was at a las vegas night club. i went home and told my dad. i had met this great guy. One year later I married him. One year almost later I had a great son. 11 years later I divorced him So glad I still have the great son here.
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@dagami (1158)
• Rome, Italy
13 Apr 13
he must have really impressed you on your first date if you told your dad about him at once. i never told my parents about my BF unless i was thinking it was getting serious. i'm glad that you have your son with you. our children are god's gift to us. they make life worth living in spite of all the hardships that we encounter raising them.
@Pancakarana (94)
• Indonesia
15 Apr 13
your experience is so sweet. Many people can't forgot their first date. and so i am.
My first date is so unforgettable. My girlfriend ask me to dinner and it is so awesome. I cannot sleep because remember that.
@spicymary (558)
• Romania
13 Apr 13
I don't think it's about table manners, but about those small things you really hate and that they relly turn you off. I guess everybody have some, and it doesn't matter how small they are, if you look at them rationally. I certainly have :)
Also I don't think that this was the only problem in the case you've mentioned. It just happens that people who feel connected online, when they are face to face feel no spark. If he would be the perfect man for her, table manners wouldn't be a problem for sure. But because she didn't felt the right thing, which is complicated to describe, she could told about this little issue, making from it a problem.
I know it happens. Maybe it's not an accurate description of what you told...
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@dagami (1158)
• Rome, Italy
13 Apr 13
small and insignificant things can sometimes irritate us without any reason. my husband has a habit of squeezing the toothpaste in the middle and i always get mad about it. 
we don't fight about this but...
maybe the he didn't impress her in person as much as he did on the internet. researches have shown that physical attraction is a chemical thing, maybe he didn't "smell" right for her that is why she let go.
we don't fight about this but...
maybe the he didn't impress her in person as much as he did on the internet. researches have shown that physical attraction is a chemical thing, maybe he didn't "smell" right for her that is why she let go.