Does it bother you what other people think of you?

Philippines
April 14, 2013 7:20am CST
They say that to be happy we should not get bothered by other people's thoughts of us. It's true because if we act based on what others thought is right then we are not loving ourselves but we are loving them. Sometimes, I am caught in that situation wherein people's comment about me affects me so much to the point that it adds a lot to my stress. My boss said to be myself and stop pleasing people. It was never my thing to please people, he probably misinterpreted my being submissive sometimes to avoid conflict at work. Back to topic, do do you deal with people's opinion of you? Do you shrugged it off or are you like me who gets affected sometimes with others opinion?
18 responses
@yahnee (1250)
• Philippines
16 Apr 13
I think it is normal to be affected by other people's perception. It can be stressing if they are displeased with your person however, you certainly cannot please everybody. They will always find something wrong with you no matter how much you try. I can't say that you have to shrug it off since it isn't as easy as that but you need to stand your ground as long as you know you are right. There will always be people who will look at the bad side of everything you do but don't let this affect you too much. Just do your job the way it should be done and don't try to please everyone since this is next to impossible.
• Philippines
16 Apr 13
Funny, coz somebody advised that to me too. Thanks, I know its hard but am trying.
@hereandthere (31166)
• Philippines
15 Apr 13
generalizations and presumptions annoy me. like, oh, you have a big house, you must be rich. duh? a small house with basic stuff is easier to clean, fix, protect and incurs less taxes. or, why are you using that? you can afford something else. give it away. huh? if something is still working, i will not dispose it, even if it's cheap to look at. i go where i like, i do what i want, i'll buy what i like. or, assuming that you know something or understand the instructions they're giving. they will only explain when you start asking questions. why assume everyone is the same level as you or for that matter, higher than you or lower than you, just based on what they look like or sound like?
• Philippines
15 Apr 13
It does annoy me too. I thought I was the only one that way. Though sometimes I can choose to ignore them but there are times, specially when I am not in the mood, I think about it a lot.
@lampar (7597)
• United States
16 Apr 13
It does bother a bit occasionally, but not all the time. Usually it is just a temporary type of thing/feeling for me, i normally will get over with it after a day or two when i begin to indulge myself into my busy schedule again.
16 Apr 13
Sometimes but I've learned that what I think of my self is more important than what someone else think of me...:) Happy Mylotting!
@mariaperalta (19096)
• Mexico
14 Apr 13
I honestly have never ever cared what people think of me. many people are mean, so i could care a less what they think.
14 Apr 13
Hi,this type of thing used to really bother me,comments off people and general opinions could literally effect my whole life,but now I am getting a little older and wiser I realize that everybody is different,so if there opinion of me is one I don't like it is because were very different people,so it is no big deal really.
@blackrusty (3532)
• Mexico
14 Apr 13
I don't care what people say or think of me I am sure i have been called or thought of worse then i am every one has a right to there own thing so for me bring it on but you better be able to take it right back have a great day
@jagjit273 (1740)
• India
14 Apr 13
If you do something good then people will say something and if you do something bad then also people will say something. So its better to do what you like and don't bothered by what other will think or say. Live your life you way and enjoy it to full. Happy mylotting.
@dagami (1162)
• Rome, Italy
14 Apr 13
i only listen to those who are close to me, like my family, relatives, and close friends. at work i pay attention to my boss. what he thinks about my work counts to me. i know i am not perfect and i can't please everybody so i don't usually get bothered by what others think. most younger people are sensitive to what their peers think about them. i used to be when i was younger. now that i'm older and wiser, (?) i don't get bothered anymore. i believe that only those who are into politics should always keep track of their community standing. they need to do this to have votes. the rest of us can live our lives doing what we think is right and not thinking about what others would say about us. in this way, life for us will be less complicated.
@Keynote (399)
• India
14 Apr 13
it is very easy to say that what other think is not bothering me at all but to follow or act with out keeping any body in mind seems impossible or quite difficult.We people are social animal.Of course we want to do what we want but we end up doing something else.Why this thing happen repeadtedly.Because other people thoughts influence us.
@riempie9 (1026)
• South Africa
14 Apr 13
If it is the truth I will not be bothered by it; if it is not the truth,I will tell them what the real truth is. I will not let their stress affect the relationship. I can't be a people pleaser just for the sake of pleasing others. I can't change my opinions to suit them.
@jricky1 (6809)
• China
14 Apr 13
It just bother me sometime if i cares about other people's opinion on me.But to be honest,this does not affect how i live but i try to convince myself that i'm cool with this cuz nothing can bother my mind and it's me who decide what kind of life i want.Good for you.
@ayeeesha (1134)
• Philippines
14 Apr 13
Hello there! I'm actually the type of person who doesn't care about what other people will think about me. As long as I'm not doing anything wrong to them, then why should I bother. But there are still times when I get affected, especially when I know what they're saying about me is wrong or not true. There are people who love to create stories and I get hurt by that. But not to the point of stressing myself too much.
• India
14 Apr 13
Yes, at some point of time I was worried about what others (my known) think about me. I used to be very careful about not making mistakes so that they do not get a chance to say anything bad about me. Gradually, I realized that it is fine not be perfect all the time. It is not necessary to carry the baggage of perfectionism all the time especially for people who themselves are fallible. Now I am more concerned about what I think about myself, about what makes me happy without intruding in others boundary of peace. I try my best not to offend anyone, but I am not a people pleaser. I know when to raise my voice and stand for what is correct.
@roshigo58 (4871)
• Pune, India
14 Apr 13
Hi, We should not think very much about other people's comment. But man is a social animal and we have to stay in the society so we should try to be good with others. When we get insulted from someone in front of others we feel very bad. But we should work honestly and try to care about our character. Sometimes some people are jealous about us and try to spoil our image. But we should neglect them. When they are jealous they think we are better than them and they feel insecure. Truth can not be hidden. These bad people get punishment in future.
@succeednow (1636)
• Singapore
14 Apr 13
Hi aileen, I find it so true that to be happy one must not care too seriously about what people say or think of oneself. I know it's hurting to find out what others say about me especially when it's not true. I'll let it pass and not let it affect me unless of course the person is saying something very serious like criminal breach of trust or something like that. That I believe I'll need to take action to disprove of the accusation. Thankfully I have not encountered such unpleasant incidents so far. Have a great day.
@tipay26 (873)
• Philippines
14 Apr 13
Hi there aileen2008, To be totally honest with you, there are times that I get affected with what other people say about me because I am human and I have feelings. :) But if you will look at it in a different angle or perspective,you can say that no matter what you do be it good or bad., people will still judge you and talk about you.So instead of worrying about what other people might think about you why not prove to them that they are wrong with what they perceive to be you.Remember the only person that totally knows you inside and out is you yourself only.So why bother with what others think of you right?Let them do the talking no one will believe them specially if your closest friends or family members knows you really well..I get by the saying that if people talks about you behind your back or even if you have done nothing wrong,don't worry it doesn't reflect anything negative about you it only represents them .
@Deepak2J (1179)
• Bhubaneswar, India
14 Apr 13
When someone tells something bad about me, I get stressed and unhappy and sad. So, I come home and cries a little in front of god, then start watching some comedy cartoons, comedy movies, listens to my favorite songs,etc. and forget everything. If remembered again, I just laughs at myself about how wrong they are about me and wishes god to give them some idea and knowledge. Try this. It might work. thank you