I Get Irritated Soon

India
April 16, 2013 1:04am CST
Hi Friends, Had a great time yesterday discussing things here. :) This has been a concern in my life. I get irritated very soon. If someone behaves bad with me or hurts me, i tend to become rude to them. But it's for a short duration. I believe the pain all these years has transformed me. It's good for me. And sometimes people don't even understand things when i explain it to them again and again. Today i got irritated and angry over my friend. I always get irritated by her. As if she doesn't understand even when i explain it again and again. Argh!
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7 responses
@kalav56 (11503)
• India
16 Apr 13
If you are quickly irritable, then people won't find it too pleasant interacting with you; no one will be interested in your explaining things again and again. On the other hand, if you are not at fault and your friend is provoking you,you can make your point in a very firm no-nonsense voice instead of going over something again and again. One firm 'enough' will be much better than a big lecture after allowing her to provoke you.
• India
16 Apr 13
It depends on the other person's understanding too. If you teach a kid that B comes after A 100 times and if that kid again writes C after A, it's agreed because he is just a kid. But that's not the case with grown ups.
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@kalav56 (11503)
• India
16 Apr 13
It also depends on the issue.If it is 'subject' related then it is different; you have to teach a person.If it is a subjective issue then you are the best judge of the situation.
• India
16 Apr 13
Yes i agree with that. But teaching the same thing or saying the same thing again and again i don't like it.
• India
16 Apr 13
frnds r frnds yar.. every1 is uniq and different.. sum r irritatin, foolish and so on but i gues gettin bugged wit dem is nt a gud tin v shud accept dem as dey r n ya gt used to hw dey r :P
• India
17 Apr 13
Yes i agree with you. Don't use short forms.
@airasheila (5460)
• Philippines
16 Apr 13
a pleasant day to you, honestly speaking, i do also get irritated so quick. more especially if things are really annoying. but same as you are, this irritation does not take too long. hence i am always trying to think to be calm and patient. as for me, life is too short to be wasted, so why not enjoy the moment rather than to be angry with non-sense things.
• India
16 Apr 13
wow. cool. Thanks. i got a good insight here. I will try to ignore it then.
@Deepak2J (1180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
16 Apr 13
try to control your anger. It only will create problem and bad decision. Be calm and made her understand about what you are telling. Irritation only worsen the situation.
• India
16 Apr 13
I am calm friend. Here i am not talking about any big thing, just small things that one should know by himself/herself. Such things are not to be taught.
@dagami (1163)
• Rome, Italy
16 Apr 13
emotions are part and parcel a being human being. some are considered negative, others positive. as we grow older, we slowly learn to control or hide our emotions, especially the negative ones. however, sometimes we are pushed to the limits and we erupt. i think that you're expecting too much from your friends and the people around you. not all persons can understand everything during the first explanation. we have different capacities and others may not be as quick as you are so you tend to get impatient with them. however, if someone behaves badly or hurts you intentionally, then i believe that you have a right to defend yourself.
• India
16 Apr 13
I think i should have included all those little things that i am forced to explain to her in my discussion. Maybe then people would have understood how frustrated i get.
@elsino91 (443)
• Poland
16 Apr 13
I find this helps me: when I get irritated by someone I just take a deep breath, take a step away from the person and for one minute not think about something else. If the problem is her understanding something then after this you should be a little calmer so that you can try to explain whatever it is to her differently.
• India
16 Apr 13
She is a grown up now and not a child that i keep on explaining little things. It irritates me.
• United States
16 Apr 13
she will be there for you the best she knows how she may not get it now but some day she might. so,try to be easy with her and not get so pissed with her. she really might need you to explain it in another way.
• India
16 Apr 13
I don't see another way to explain such simple things to her. I am tired of this.