exchanging private messages with other mylotters...

@dagami (1162)
Rome, Italy
April 22, 2013 5:41pm CST
i have friends here in my lot. they are friends because they sent a request to me and i approved them. other than getting notifications when they start or respond to a discussion, i have no communication with them. i do not know who they are and where they're from unless i get curious on something in their posts and i look at their profiles. do you think it can be possible to have friends here? most of us do not provide personal information. we exchange and discuss ideas and this is a good way of knowing a person's character. many of us can feel a certain affinity with another through his/her posts. we find that some people share our ideas. we can see that some my lotters are potential friends, if we take time to exchange PMs. have you ever done this? exchanged private messages with other mylotters for other reasons than to sending referral links? have you become friends (in the real meaning of the word) with anyone here? are you willing to become one?
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@varier (5699)
• Indonesia
23 Apr 13
Have I became friends with anyone here? I don't think so. Are you willing to become one? It doesn't matter As long as they're still here, responding and interacting with me around discussion area, it's already enough for me. I don't expect something more.
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@dagami (1162)
• Rome, Italy
23 Apr 13
i just wish that there were more active members here. we're more than 251K but only a small percentage are actively participating. we would have more discussions and more responses if everyone visits at least once a week.
@varier (5699)
• Indonesia
24 Apr 13
Yeah, I would love if there are more discussions to be participated in. More heads will be better. But I have a feeling that if everyone actively give positive contribution, our earnings will be decreased..
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@Porcospino (22364)
• Denmark
23 Apr 13
I don't write or receive a lot of private messages, but sometimes I exchange messages with a friend. Some time ago when I had some problems in my family and shared them in a discussion I received a couple of supportive messages from my friends, and I didn't expect that, but I really appreciate their concern for me. Some of my friends and I have become friends outside Mylot. We exchange emails and or messages on Facebook. So far I have never met aany of my friends from Mylot, but some of them have invited me to visit them in their countries and I hope that I will be able to do that in the future
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@dagami (1162)
• Rome, Italy
23 Apr 13
indeed it would be nice if you can meet some of your friends here. you will have lots to talk about.
@grvdubey11 (1881)
• India
22 Apr 13
I have a senior member from MYLOT in my Facebook profile whom i added as i respect him a lot.There are many other members as well whom i will send pm most probably in coming days.However i am not sure that if i send any pm to women/girls then how will they feel about it.The friends(girls) i have i real life tell me that they normally dont get a good impression if some guy tries to make friendship with them on Facebook /other social networking sites just like that.Probably the women/girls here too think that way,may be they will get offended like why this guy wants to know my name and other personal details.I joined MYLOT long ago but i didnt get time to be active here(although i was active for some time in Cricket section) because whatever leisure time i used to get for surfing i spent it on other discussion forums along with FB, Twitter and ESPNCRICINFO. Anyways now when i am active here ,i think its a cool place with lot of nice and friendly people.About exchange of ideas and knowing person's character, I respect people here and hence i have shared few incidents from my personal life too including some of my bad habits like i used to be a bully and all that.I did that just to make sure that i don't want to fake at all, whatever impression people are getting about me good/bad its up to them.Coming back to point of making friends here,we make friends when we travel in flights ,trains buses or when we are at some party/theater/malls/marriage ceremonies,so why not here on Mylot.
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@dagami (1162)
• Rome, Italy
23 Apr 13
you're right, we find friends in all kinds of places and this includes mylot. i don't think it would be a problem making friends with girls here. there's no reason for them to get offended if you are nice to them.
• Lenox, Georgia
22 Apr 13
I do have friends here, some I private message with and others I talk to through email and a few I even talk to on Facebook. =) I feel really close with plenty of people here. I think we learn a lot about people here through their words. And then we do exchange messages and such to get to know each other more.
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@dagami (1162)
• Rome, Italy
23 Apr 13
yes, it's true that we get a glimpse of the person's character with they way they reply to the discussions. i've been impressed by lots of people here too.
• United States
22 Apr 13
I have private messages all the time now that I know how to send them. it actually helped me not make a few posts about stuff I was able to ask people who could help me out. you will have that as well. I am here now going on 7 years.
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@dagami (1162)
• Rome, Italy
23 Apr 13
seven years... wow!!! i've only been here for less than two months. i love it, though. i enjoy exchanging ideas with the people here.
• Philippines
23 Apr 13
One of the reasons I joined myLot is because of this feature. I'm looking forward to having friends here. Honestly, sometimes it's better to have a friend online than having someone who knows you for real but befriends you for your physical appearance or uses you for their own benefit. Don't judge a book by it's cover, as they say. I'm really glad that there are websites like myLot where we can freely express our opinions while helping each other.
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@dagami (1162)
• Rome, Italy
23 Apr 13
we get to know the character of the people here by their posts. in the few weeks that i've been here, i've learned a lot. i also refresh my english. it's been a long time since i've written my thoughts in english.
• Philippines
23 Apr 13
Yeah, how a person write and post say a lot. It also helps me improve my English. Although, it can't be helped that there are still typos sometimes. I have an online friend from Puerto Rico, we haven't seen each other, but we do know how each other looks like. We have been friends for over 5 years now. It's cool. Someday, I want to meet my online friends.
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• Philippines
23 Apr 13
*writes and posts. Oh dear, I forgot to check my grammar. I'm sorry. :)
@AkamaruKei (5218)
• Malaysia
23 Apr 13
I always exchange my private message with only 1 person here. She very nice person. But look like she not very active in this few days. Maybe she have some problem.
@dagami (1162)
• Rome, Italy
23 Apr 13
maybe she's busy with something offline that's why she hasn't been able to answer your messages. don't worry, she'll get to you soon as soon as she sees your PMs.
• Malaysia
26 Apr 13
Yeah I hope she come back. For me this place not only for discussion but also to socialize with other people. I feel a little bit comfortable when I share my problem here. I don't want it explode if I just keep it.
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@jenny1015 (13388)
• Philippines
23 Apr 13
I have a few whom I send Private messages with. But never did I entice them to join a site I belong to under my link. I have fun exchanging messages with them and hopefully, the friendship would flourish.
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@dagami (1162)
• Rome, Italy
23 Apr 13
friendship always starts with a few words. as time goes by, you'll be able to get to know each other's character better through the messages and you'll eventually end up good confidants on the net.
@jenny1015 (13388)
• Philippines
24 Apr 13
Exactly! They may not be physically with us, but still there could be people who can be real friends even through just the net.
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@Hatley (164354)
• Garden Grove, California
23 Apr 13
hik dagami I have been here over six years so have made a lot of friends d have had lots of private messages from many here. Theyhave become real friends to me and worried when I was sick anf when I fell and hurt myself. I h ave also listened to their problems and offered a hand , a shoulder to cry on and any advice that might help.I am always willing to be a real fri end.,
@dagami (1162)
• Rome, Italy
23 Apr 13
i'm glad that you've found people who are really concerned about you here. since you've been here for a long time, you must know their characters from their posts. i've been here for less than two months and i really like it.
@cynthiann (18619)
• Jamaica
23 Apr 13
Yesterday I was pm'ing people like crazy as Dawn was in trouble but you were already there. It really got bad and we all jumped in and then mylot deleted his posts. we guys who are friends stick together
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@cynthiann (18619)
• Jamaica
23 Apr 13
Oh yes, I use it a lot to make contact with my friends. And yes, after being here nearly six years I have some very good friends. friends who stood by me during my two heart suregeries last year when I was dying. They stuck by me and I stick by them. Some friends I have phoned and spoken to as well. If you hang around then you will make very good friends too over the years to come
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@dagami (1162)
• Rome, Italy
23 Apr 13
i hope to be here for long since i enjoy this. i have offline jobs but i always make it a point to come online when i arrive home. i'm sorry to hear about your heart surgeries but i'm glad you're over this ordeal.
@ARIES1973 (9537)
• Legaspi, Philippines
23 Apr 13
I was able to gain friends here and some of my friends are also member of others sites that I have. And yes we often exchange messages on just about anything. It's a good feeling to know that somebody is there for you especially during those moments that you really feel down. Have a great day!
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@dagami (1162)
• Rome, Italy
23 Apr 13
i guess you must have been here long so you've been able to make friends. if by some twist of fate, you meet them in person, i'm sure you'll have a great time.
• Singapore
23 Apr 13
I would think it is possible to make friends but since you do not meet them in person and can only know them from their messages, just be careful like how you will with online friends and do not reveal too much personal details or info.
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@dagami (1162)
• Rome, Italy
23 Apr 13
i've had online friends from yahoo before. as the years passed, a few of them have remained. they know a lot of personal details about me since i've come to trust them. we've even talked on the phone. an online friend of mine who lives in HK has even invited my son and i to visit. his wife also comes from my country and she knows about our friendship. i really plan to see him, if and when i go to HK. they seem to be a nice couple.
@jadoixa (1171)
• Philippines
23 Apr 13
as for me, i haven't had any real or close friends here on mylot. most of the people on my list just send me request and i approve them and a few i have send request to them myself just based on how i see them post discussions or a reply to my topics. i haven't really taken time to send a private message to my friends, i don't have much time for that right now, i have few friends here who have send me messages on referring me to something online..if there is anyone who would be willing to exchange private messages and i can see their good, why not? but mostly there are few people nowadays online who are real or someone to be trusted even as friends..and some don't last that long..
@dagami (1162)
• Rome, Italy
23 Apr 13
you're right that most online friendships don't last long. i had plenty of friends from yahoo before, but only three or four have remained after several years. well, this also happens even when we meet friends personally. as the years pass, we weed out the ones who are not real friends. we lose contact with them.
@AkamaruKei (5218)
• Malaysia
23 Apr 13
I always exchange my private message with only 1 person here. She very nice person. But look like she not very active in this few days. Maybe she have some problem.
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