DEPENDENCY

Orangeburg, South Carolina
November 15, 2013 11:54am CST
I gag as this horrible word leaves my mouth because I HATE IT! I will not call myself an independent woman because I am still working on some things with myself in my life. But people, NEVER depend on anyone. I honestly do not have a care in the world about what some people do not have the ability to do because they do not believe they can do it. If you do not believe, then you will not do. It does not get any simpler. I never really asked anyone to help me with things because I always, eventually figured it out for myself. I usually take my time to read and play with things to get familiar with it until it is figured out. If I can figure something out for myself, I expect someone else to do the same for themselves. Do not take the easy way out of things by asking someone else CONTINUOUSLY to do it for you. I despise laziness and dependence. To be EFFORTLESS is to FAIL! It does not matter how smart or dull anyone is. I believe that anything is possible if you put your mind to it.
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Johnny Greybeard
@johnnygreybeard (181)
• United States
16 Nov 13
I do appreciate your outlook on people who constantly wait on others to do something for them. I hope I did understand this correctly. I see much of this regularly. As you probably already know-- The country we live in is not set up for anyone to be totally non- dependent. However,it's almost like a disease when I hear someone complain that they cannot accomplish whatever because of someone else. A little effort on their part would be acceptable. I'm sorry if i got your meaning wrong, and got carried away.
Uncle Jay, Finding More Value in Your Machine
@mythociate (21437)
• Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
15 Nov 13
You're not married, are you? I'm not either, so I don't know; but I'm guessing there's a sort of inter-dependency there---a sort of 'need you to need me.' While I agree that you cannot 'pin all your hopes on anyone' (leave them with Jesus, He'll give you the hope you need!), I think you DO need to depend on others. If not, you risk cutting yourself off from the joys that accompany an inter-dependent life. Gaining independence is a hard road---that's why the Bible claims that daughters are to live with parents until the men marry them, moving them from 'symbiosis with their parents' to 'symbiosis with the husband.' Employment is another 'spouse.' 'You each' (you & your employer) 'need to be needed'---the employer needs you to need their money, you need your employer to need your work.