That's Just Rude (Pumpkin's rant of the day)

United Kingdom
August 9, 2015 11:02am CST
So, I went out for a day with my little dude. I'd invited a friend to spend some time with us as I hadn't seen her for a while. I suggested going out for lunch and then said that we could go to a farm and make a day of it. She agreed to that. I asked her to let me know what time to pick her up. She then said she'd have to head straight off elsewhere after lunch because she was going to see her gf. Well, that would have been fine had she said that in the first place instead of agreeing to spend the time with us. It wouldn't even be so bad if she wasn't one of the friends who worried that I'd forget about my friends for the sake of my boyfriend. I did my best to keep in touch, and still do things with my friends. As it happens, we spent a few hours doing stuff anyway. It's not the first time this particular friend has done such a thing though. I was hanging out with her one day because she'd asked to meet me. Then she saw a group of her other friends and wanted to head off with them. She didn't because I pointed out that I'd come over to her town to spend time with her and it wasn't polite to then just abandon me. I wouldn't have minded her asking if I wanted to hang out with those friends but to just say she's basically going to abandon the friend who's made the effort to do stuff with her for the sake of a bunch of people who just happened to be in the same place, I think that's quite rude. Maybe I'm wrong and it's a young person thing. I know there are odd things she's said which made no sense to me and I wondered if they were young people ideas or if it was just her. Anyway, I think, if you've arranged to do something with someone then, unless there is a good reason, you don't change your mind about things at the last minute, especially when that person has made plans.
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@cynthiann (18619)
• Jamaica
9 Aug 15
It is not a young person thing - it is a rude thing. She is really not a good friend is she? Drop her for a while and see if she wants to make contact with YOU.
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• United Kingdom
9 Aug 15
To be fair, she's one of the few friends who actually will bother with me at all but she does seem to see me as a friend for when nobody else is around. She fell out with me for a bit but then she got back in touch so yes, I know she would eventually.
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@cynthiann (18619)
• Jamaica
9 Aug 15
@pumpkinjam take my advice - she is a user and is not your true friend.A true friend would not treat you so rudely and despicably. You do not need her and you can make the effort and make new friends. You have a choice to make
• United Kingdom
10 Aug 15
@cynthiann I'm no good at making friends! Well, I seem to always get random friends who either are users or who are clingy! Sometimes I think.it s easier to not because the at all but then I get lonely!
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@allknowing (66524)
• India
9 Aug 15
See. I found your rant!!! I know exactly what this is all about. I have had so many in my life that do that to us. They will come over wanting to spend a day with us and then tell us that they have appointments elsewhere. Why not tell us in advance?
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• United Kingdom
10 Aug 15
Yes, I wouldn't have been so bothered had she not left it until the last minute to tell me.
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