Pumpkin's rant of the day: What Did You Expect?

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I know I've already ranted today but I've got another one in my head left over from yesterday. It's kind of a 'part 2' of one about my ex. So, I've said that he's useless and doesn't bother with his son. I think I've mentioned that he's more concerned about having beer money than about paying bills. And I have probably mentioned that he only has his son once a week, doesn't give him a meal unless I provide it, and has, in the past month, not had his son when he was supposed to because he had no electric and no money to put it in. Well, anyway, I had a message from him saying that he does want to have his son but then the stuff about not having electric and sitting in the dark, etc. In fact, his exact message, when I asked if he was going to have his son, was "Don't think so unless I can get some money for electric from somewhere want to have him but it's not fair for him to come and sit in the dark." Well, forgive me if I'm repeating things I've said, but there's no reason at all why he can't make sure he has money for electric. Basically, he spends all of his wages within a week because he is incapable of budgeting. Or, more accurately, is incapable of prioritising and thinking that if he didn't go to the pub every night that he'd be able to have his son. Anyway, when my son's there, all he does is watch tv or play on his Kindle while his dad ignores him. I think that bit was just repeating what I'd already said but that's just to set the story again. Well, Mini's dad texted again a couple of times. Once to say that he knew I couldn't lend him any money and he wasn't talking to his mum. I asked why he wasn't talking to her and his reply was that he didn't know and she kept putting the phone down on him. He went on to tell me that 'all' he wanted was for her to do some washing for him (as he'd no electric) because he'd got no clean clothes for work. Now whether he specified that to try and make me feel sorry for him, I don't know. It is the kind of thing he does. Well, I didn't reply to that message (I do keep in touch with his mum so that she can see her grandchild when his dad can't be bothered to take him). My only thoughts were that it's not really surprising if his mum doesn't want to talk to him when she only ever hears from him when he wants something. I know he regularly borrows money from her. This is a depressed, disabled lady living on her own on a very low budget and struggling with her own bills, and he's a single man working full time who pays nothing towards his child and chooses to put drinking before bills. I know other people who do similar things. Some so-called friends who ask favours and then think you've fallen out with them or you're not a real friend because, for once, you've said no to them. OK, I think that's about it. Obviously I can elaborate in the discussion and answer questions if that's appropriate.