After school detention in elementary school

@shaggin (36924)
United States
September 17, 2015 10:14am CST
I was talking to someone today whose son has had recess detention every day this week at school and now has after school detention. The little boy is in 4th grade. I don't know the specifics of why he is getting detention but I remember being young and getting detention myself. I got detention pretty much every day of 5th and 6th grade. I did it most the time on purpose because I didn't like recess. I was never so bad as to get after school detention. It was something I saw other kids have and I was terrified of it happening to me. I feel that in the elementary school they shouldn't be allowed to give kids after school detention. I feel its wrong for them to keep your kids away from you at school longer hours as punishment.
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• Midland, Michigan
17 Sep 15
Our school wouldn't even do recess detention. It was frustrating because as he got older he was defiant in class and they really didn't do anything to rectify
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@shaggin (36924)
• United States
18 Sep 15
Wow that seems really strange to me. I have never heard of schools not doing detention at all. I do feel bad kids having their recess taken away as it is good for exercise and breaks up a monotonous day for them but I think they need to have consequences for their bad behavior. What did your school do if a child was bad if they didn't take away recess? I can't even imagine how hard it would be to control students in those schools if I was a teacher there. I would hate it.
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• Midland, Michigan
18 Sep 15
@shaggin I didn't think there was much control over the kids. And they didn't even make sure the kids were bringing work home so when books were forgotten even if I could go back often the classrooms were locked and we were in trouble. It was not a good situation.
@shaggin (36924)
• United States
18 Sep 15
@foxii2000 wow that school must be out of control! My son forgot to bring his homework folder home last night and my 11 year old daughter thought I should ground him. I did not agree with her at all I think it was an honest mistake. He might have to make the homework up tonight or during recess I am not sure which until he gets home from school today.
• South Africa
24 Sep 15
Losing recess didn't even upset me it made me angry. I want fresh air and i have ADD for gods sake let me out. And detention is utter rubbish and only works if used properly and by that i mean get the kids to do something like clean the school or sand down the desks or whatever. Something that's actually constructive. Keeping kids after school also messes up parents plans and i would be furious if i was late for work or only could be there at that certain time and now they tell me sorry my kids in detention ? If they can't behave they need a beating not detention.
@shaggin (36924)
• United States
25 Sep 15
Oh gosh well I agree with most of that except the end. I don't think a beating will help. I got beat a lot and it didn't improve my behavior one bit it only made me hate my parents. I don't beat my kids and they do very well usually at school. I hate even slapping my kids and have found that it is not an effective punishment at all. When I have done it to my son he just turns around and goes crazy and pummels me back. I think it just teaches him more aggression. Different cultures and different families feel different so thank you for your input even though we have different opinions on physical punishment.
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• South Africa
25 Sep 15
@shaggin There's a difference between discipline and abuse. I don't actually mean beat a child it's just a figure of speech although there are some kids who really do need a beating. If a child touches a fire they will be burnt. So if they act like brats they feel a swift smack on the rear end, and then its over. After the child receives their smack it's over and done. Then you must ask the child if they understand why they got a smack and tell them they must not do what they did and explain why. When i got a hiding a knew why i got one. I knew i deserved it. It only reaches aggressive if its done through rage without explanation. In the real world you don't get a smack you to jail. I know that's extreme thinking but it's true. Also after the child gets a smack then it's over. No nagging no going on. Emotional stuff hurts way more then any hiding. A smack, a talking to and done. Hug your child afterwards as well. You have to give your child aftercare. Don't leave them, after they thought about what they have done then return to them and talk about it. NEVER ever smack a child more then once. It is not needed. Just one WAAAPOWWW and done.
@callarse1 (4793)
• United States
18 Sep 15
It seems crazy to have it so young. I had recess detention to at a time and it was terrible. I liked my recess.
@shaggin (36924)
• United States
18 Sep 15
I liked it when I was young but then as I got to 5th and 6th grade I started to dislike it. There were so many cliques and I just wandered around a lot being bored. I think our recess was an hour back then. It is only a half hour now. I know my daughter is bored with recess now and she is in 6th grade. She reads a book during recess. I think I mostly got detention the most on purpose during the winter when it was cold and I didn't want to go out in it.
@Rollo1 (16689)
• Boston, Massachusetts
17 Sep 15
Most elementary schools don't do after school detention because parents are not home - they are working, and the kids don't have alternate transportation. They usually go to after school programs.
@shaggin (36924)
• United States
17 Sep 15
I really don't know what this guy will do because he works until 6 and usually goes to the sitters from the bus after school. I doubt the sitter is going to drive to the school to pick the boy up after his detention. I remember when I was in high school people would have to miss their jobs after school if t hey stayed for after school detention so they would skip it and sit in ISS the next day. I think after school detention would be better in high school then elementary school.
• United States
18 Sep 15
Oh I do not agree with that at all Shaggin. Elementary kids should not be kept after.