'I do not look good enough'

@dpk262006 (56115)
Delhi, India
October 4, 2015 6:07am CST
Hello everyone! Each one of us wish to look good and wish to be appreciated for our looks. Are you the one who regularly check yourself on the weighing machine or keep checking mirrors to find out if you are looking good? Do you ask your friends/relatives - "Am I looking fat or slim"? It is a kind of stress which many of undergo. Do you feel this kind of stress? Our self confidence and self esteem is more important than our looks and if we are confident, we could handle any situation rather than stressing ourselves about our looks.
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@allknowing (61697)
• India
4 Oct 15
I am more concerned about how healthy I am rather than how I look.
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@dpk262006 (56115)
• Delhi, India
4 Oct 15
I salute your great positive attitude.
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@allknowing (61697)
• India
4 Oct 15
@dpk262006 Good health always ensures good looks
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@kiran8 (15362)
• Mangalore, India
4 Oct 15
@allknowing LOL, so true ...
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@anushreem (331)
• Mumbai, India
4 Oct 15
being healthy is more important than being good looking. i stick to this mantra ever day and things fall in place
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@dpk262006 (56115)
• Delhi, India
4 Oct 15
It means you are health conscious and you believe that if you are healthy you will automatically look good.
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@Lushlala (931)
• Gaborone, Botswana
4 Oct 15
@anushreem that's a very healthy attitude! Way to go :)
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• Mumbai, India
5 Oct 15
@dpk262006 yes you got it right
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@vandana7 (62410)
• India
4 Oct 15
The fact is I don't. So I don't bother. Mirror is to check if I missing out wearing something.
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@dpk262006 (56115)
• Delhi, India
4 Oct 15
Who told you or who decided that you don't look good (Sorry, if you decided yourself, then it is not allowed? Is it so that you miss out wearing something and you need to check mirror for it?
@kiran8 (15362)
• Mangalore, India
4 Oct 15
@vandana7 , it is the same with me, just to check whether I am looking neat and tidy before leaving home and while brushing etc ..
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@vandana7 (62410)
• India
4 Oct 15
@kiran8 ..I don't even look at the mirror while brushing. lol. But yes, whether I am presentable enough when I am going out.
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@fufurinha (11520)
• Portugal
4 Oct 15
It is not easy to look in the mirror and enjoy what we see.
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@Lushlala (931)
• Gaborone, Botswana
4 Oct 15
@fufurinha I agree! Sometimes it's very hard, and the other thing's that we're our own worst critics!
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@fufurinha (11520)
• Portugal
4 Oct 15
@Lushlala I don't always like what I see in the mirror. But I have to live anyway lol
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@dpk262006 (56115)
• Delhi, India
5 Oct 15
@fufurinha - Why it is so?
@LadyDuck (147472)
• Switzerland
4 Oct 15
I do not want to be fat, but this because I want to stay healthy. I do not stress about how I look, but I think that I would if I did not look good.
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@dpk262006 (56115)
• Delhi, India
4 Oct 15
You want to stay healthy, that is understandable but if by chance you find that you are not looking good, this will make you feel stressed. Is it?
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@LadyDuck (147472)
• Switzerland
4 Oct 15
@dpk262006 Not really because of the others, I would feel concerned because I would think that there is a problem.
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@Lushlala (931)
• Gaborone, Botswana
4 Oct 15
@LadyDuck....this is exactly where i'm at. I also find that clothes fit better when I'm in shape. I like your refreshing honesty :)
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@sofssu (14485)
4 Oct 15
Sometimes the stress is on the one who has to answer.. to speak then truth or not .. LOL
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@dpk262006 (56115)
• Delhi, India
4 Oct 15
If someone asks you if she is looking good, will you tell the truth?
@sofssu (14485)
4 Oct 15
@dpk262006 Thatb is easy I always say yes.. But questions like am I looking fat? or have I put on weight? makes me evade the question.
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@dpk262006 (56115)
• Delhi, India
4 Oct 15
@sofssu in nut shell you are afraid to tell the truth the person asking the question.
@Shyamalaa (539)
• Udaipur, India
4 Oct 15
It is important to me that I like the way I look and be comfortable with it. This boosts my own self-confidence. It does not mean that I seek other people's approval of the way I look.
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@Lushlala (931)
• Gaborone, Botswana
4 Oct 15
@Shyamalaa I like how you think....be comfortable with who you are, and don't apologise for it :)
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@dpk262006 (56115)
• Delhi, India
5 Oct 15
@Shyamalaa - It is good to hear that you feel comfortable with your looks and you feel confident. You don't bother to seek approval of others for your appearance.
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@swissheart (6275)
• Romania
4 Oct 15
yes I agree with you but I think is normal for us to wish to looks as good as we can. I won't denny that there are moments when I feel in-secure but I try to regain my self-confidence because there's nothing that looks better than a woman who's confident about herself
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@dpk262006 (56115)
• Delhi, India
5 Oct 15
So you feel stressed about your looks, however, you try your best to over come your stress and try to feel self confident. Please don't worry about your looks. What matters is how you actually are and if you have a feeling of self confidence in you. If you feel you need to develop your self confidence, you should take some steps in this regard.
• Romania
2 Mar 16
@dpk262006 people tend to judge you according to your looks. I found myself in the position of being checked from head to toe, analysed and discussed
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@dpk262006 (56115)
• Delhi, India
3 Mar 16
@swissheart - Let them do what they want. You should not get affected by them checking you from head to toe. You should have the confidence in you that you are good and their inspection of you is not going to make an affect on you.
@Pattitude (1299)
• Newton, North Carolina
4 Nov 15
I hardly look in the mirror, I know I look fine. I do weigh myself often, but that is because I was very ill recently and lost about 70 lbs so I do monitor it, especially since I am on a regular diet now, trying to gain a few more back.
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@dpk262006 (56115)
• Delhi, India
4 Nov 15
It is good that you have a self belief in yourself that you look good and you do not need to check mirror very often and probably you are not concerned what others say about your look. Thanks for sharing.
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@Pattitude (1299)
• Newton, North Carolina
4 Nov 15
@dpk262006 I was once married to a very abusive man, and he was emotionally abusive as well. He convinced me that I was ugly. It took many years for me to get my self-esteem back and I now realize how insecure he was. He must have been afraid another man would find me attractive.
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@dpk262006 (56115)
• Delhi, India
5 Nov 15
@Pattitude It was cruel on his part to call you ugly or make you feel ugly.. This is disgusting. Yes, you are right that he himself would have remained very insecure and used to call you ugly. Each one of us is beautiful, as we are sons/daughters of the great God and the Creator makes everyone beautiful.
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@lady1993 (16391)
• Philippines
21 Oct 15
i am kind of self conscious especially if i am out in public too but i always eat when i need to and health is more important
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@dpk262006 (56115)
• Delhi, India
21 Oct 15
Do you love your looks or not?
@lady1993 (16391)
• Philippines
22 Oct 15
@dpk262006 sometimes i have bad days
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@dpk262006 (56115)
• Delhi, India
23 Oct 15
@lady1993 - Means you don't love your looks everyday, on the other hand on some of the days, you feel that you are not looking good? (And if yes, which are those days, when you feel bad?)
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@much2say (38744)
• United States
8 Oct 15
I always look good! Beauty should come from within. If someone is just an unpleasant person (bad attitude, bad mouthed, radiating negative vibes), well it won't matter how "beautiful" this person looks on the outside (unless the other person is that shallow). That being said, I do think neatness and cleanliness can count for a lot too. Not necessarily for beauty's sake, but to show that you take care to take care of yourself.
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@dpk262006 (56115)
• Delhi, India
13 Oct 15
Yes, we have no doubt that you are beautiful and you look good. You are very right that beauty comes from inside and outside beauty if not supported by inner beauty is of no use. To remain neat and tidy is imperative unless one wants to tell the world that - he damn cares.
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@much2say (38744)
• United States
13 Oct 15
@dpk262006 I guess if anything, people should look at themselves in the mirror to see if they are a good person. A person could be extremely beautiful (or even neat and tidy for that matter), but they may not necessarily have a good heart.
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@dpk262006 (56115)
• Delhi, India
14 Oct 15
@much2say - Yes, you are very right. However, the problem is no one wants to admit that s/he is not good at heart (everyone thinks that s/he is the best).
@Jlyn10 (10576)
• Malaysia
4 Oct 15
The only time I look in the mirror is to comb my hair and I don't even have a weighing machine at home. So what do you think? Do I feel stress or not?
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@dpk262006 (56115)
• Delhi, India
4 Oct 15
I don't think that you feel stressed because of your looks. I believe that you have a high self esteem.
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@Jlyn10 (10576)
• Malaysia
5 Oct 15
@dpk262006 Haha! Well said. I'll keep my whip now since you have said such good things about me.
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@dpk262006 (56115)
• Delhi, India
6 Oct 15
@Jlyn10 - My pleasure.
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@kiran8 (15362)
• Mangalore, India
4 Oct 15
I do weigh myself almost everyday Deepak, but mirror , I don't really care about because I am born with my looks and it is bound to change with time and age ,so why bother unnecessarily ...
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@dpk262006 (56115)
• Delhi, India
4 Oct 15
It means you are weight conscious rather than worrying about your looks. Yes, it is true that with the passage of time our looks change.
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@kiran8 (15362)
• Mangalore, India
4 Oct 15
@dpk262006 Health and remaining trim is something that we will pay extra attention to....
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@dpk262006 (56115)
• Delhi, India
4 Oct 15
@kiran8 I understand your concern.
@ria1606roy (2688)
• Kolkata, India
4 Oct 15
Well said worrying about looks doesn't get us anywhere, it only increases our stress hormones, start up oxidative processes in the body, and make us look even more weary. Confidence, self-believe and positivity on the other hand, add glow to the face and body and make us look naturally healthy and good. I see myself in the mirror and I like myself more when I'm happy and positive. Our reflection in the mirror truly reflect our current state of mind and personality.
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@dpk262006 (56115)
• Delhi, India
4 Oct 15
It is great to hear that you believe that our self esteem matters more than our looks and worrying about our looks takes us no where. Standing in front of mirror and saying to oneself - I look good and I have positive energy" will help us face the life in a better way.
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• Kolkata, India
4 Oct 15
@dpk262006 very true. It is the way to live. We have only one life and it is a pity to waste it for these unreasonable causes of not looking good.
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@dpk262006 (56115)
• Delhi, India
4 Oct 15
@ria1606roy You have marvellous positive attitude which is highly commendable Yes, you are very right that we get only one life and there is no need to waste it thinking about unreasonable things.
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@cahaya1983 (10060)
• Malaysia
6 Oct 15
No, as long as I appear decent and presentable, it's good enough for me. I don't obsess over looks and beauty stuff.
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@dpk262006 (56115)
• Delhi, India
6 Oct 15
It is nice to hear that you are not obsessed about your looks, however, you try to look decent, whenever you venture out.
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@cahaya1983 (10060)
• Malaysia
7 Oct 15
@dpk262006 Yeah I think it's more important to think about improving one's character and personality rather than wasting too much time choosing clothes and make up.
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@dpk262006 (56115)
• Delhi, India
7 Oct 15
@cahaya1983 - If one has good character and charisma, his/her looks takes a back seat. Outer appearance if not supported by strong inner persona cannot leave an everlasting impression on others.
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@wiLLmaH (8226)
• Singapore, Singapore
5 Oct 15
It will be a stressful life if you will listen what other people say to you. Just live your life. At the end of the day it is how you know yourself is the most important.
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@dpk262006 (56115)
• Delhi, India
5 Oct 15
Very well said. What about you? Do you care what others say about your looks? Or do you ask them (read your friends) how do you look?
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@wiLLmaH (8226)
• Singapore, Singapore
5 Oct 15
@dpk262006 actually no. Haha. I want to dye my hair red and a lot of friends told me that it will not complement my skin tone. Well I still dyed it red up to now. Haha. Now yhey told me that it really looks good to me. :)
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@dpk262006 (56115)
• Delhi, India
6 Oct 15
@wiLLmaH - It means you like to do what your heart says and it is fine. We should do whatever we feel like, if we really wish you.
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@akp100 (13289)
• India
5 Oct 15
Yeah.. I do keep checking that machine again and again. But honestly these days graphs only goes up and up. I do workout for the same and just came back from trekking yesterday. But still it don't workout for me. I used to bother for my look from starting but somehow I keep messing with it.
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@dpk262006 (56115)
• Delhi, India
6 Oct 15
I think you should not bother about your looks. What matters is - your qualities and your attitude towards others. If you show them respect and behave with them nicely, that will fetch you more accolades than your look. People are too busy to notice how others look.
@akp100 (13289)
• India
7 Oct 15
Hmm.. I am not that bother. I do care but it is not like I do hate my current look. It is okay. But I will keep on my efforts to lose some weight. That's what my goal. But nothing serious.
@SIMPLYD (78119)
• Philippines
5 Oct 15
I tend to always check my face in the mirror if there is one that i see around . It's just to see if it's again oily so i can pat a powder in it .
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@dpk262006 (56115)
• Delhi, India
5 Oct 15
It means that you are conscious about your face and how do you look? Do you have an oily skin?
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@SIMPLYD (78119)
• Philippines
6 Oct 15
@dpk262006 I guess I am . It's oily at the side of the base of my nose .
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@Simon1223 (902)
• China
5 Oct 15
Our confidence comes from what we have. If I look pretty beautiful, I will feel so lucky because I inherit a great fortune from my parents, just like someone inherit a lot of money from his or her parents, which will make me feel confident. But if I don't look beautiful, which is more possible, I should acquire confidence from other factors. For instance, I could learn hard to accumulate knowledge, I could also work hard to accumulate fortune, or I could cultivate good temper to let others feel comfortable to work or live with me.
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@dpk262006 (56115)
• Delhi, India
5 Oct 15
You have very well summed up that if one is not beautiful s/he should compensate for his/her beauty with other factors such as confidence and by acquiring knowledge. Do you feel confident about your looks?
• China
7 Oct 15
@dpk262006 Haha, personally speaking, my appearance is quite normal. I feel confident about it. But I acquire more confident mainly through accumulating knowledges, which is more valuable than appearance.
• Pune, India
5 Oct 15
You must remember two things- a) The need to look good is a primal desire connected to mating! That's the animal part of us- Looks & strength are completely physical aspects and are therefore the two aspects women used to look for in a suitor. I say ''used'' to because it isn't so anymore. A good personality is the need of the hour. Sure physical aspects do add greatly to it but remember they can be easily compensated for ( Case in point, Salman Rushdie with Padma Laxmi and scores of other "hot" women ). b) Your self-esteem has a direct relation with how you "think" you look. Remember its all about a benchmark you set for yourself. If you think you look fat and you workout and lose a kilo, immediately you'll start feeling confident at having made a weight loss ( even if its negligent but because you made a difference in yourself will boost your confidence! ). Its all in the head so your aim should be to do things to get it outta der.
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@dpk262006 (56115)
• Delhi, India
5 Oct 15
Your advice sounds analytical and logical.
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• Pune, India
5 Oct 15
@dpk262006 Glad could be of help mate!
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