What is “Success” Means For You

@wiLLmaH (8252)
Singapore, Singapore
October 6, 2015 1:51am CST
Yesterday, I am not that busy. And for the first time for almost 2 years I visited my LinkedIn profile page. As I went through the people that the app suggested me to connect with, I saw some of my high school classmates that climbed up the career ladder significantly. They seems very successful. I am so envious, I felt disappointed to myself and I confessed it to my husband. Husband asked me blatantly. “Are you ready to leave your job that gives you peace of mind? Are you ready to join the race again in climbing the corporate ladder? Or you just felt your ego crushed?” He is right! I think my ego was just stomped on. Well, after that conversation. I am okay. I feel relieved.
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@ison_1 (1252)
6 Oct 15
Good question- what is success. We seem to measure it on what material things we have accumulated and what status we have achieved. What if we were to measure it on how much we have helped others?
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@wiLLmaH (8252)
• Singapore, Singapore
7 Oct 15
Good point. It is better to think of the people who are saying our names in their prayers every night.
@Susan2015 (20579)
• United States
6 Oct 15
Your husband is right. And many successful people are not happy people. I think being happy is more important.
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@wiLLmaH (8252)
• Singapore, Singapore
7 Oct 15
That is the main goal. Having a happy life :)
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@Susan2015 (20579)
• United States
7 Oct 15
@wiLLmaH It should be. I've seen plenty who have " higher" job positions, and I would not want to be them as they are stressed out and not happy people. I think all of our jobs are important.
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@wiLLmaH (8252)
• Singapore, Singapore
8 Oct 15
@Susan2015 I actually traded my career race for peace of mind and time with my husband. :)
@jaboUK (53936)
• United Kingdom
6 Oct 15
Your husband sounds eminently sensible . He made you be satisfied with what you have.
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@wiLLmaH (8252)
• Singapore, Singapore
7 Oct 15
He always does. :)
@marlina (73884)
• Canada
6 Oct 15
Glad that your husband made you see things in a better way.
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@wiLLmaH (8252)
• Singapore, Singapore
7 Oct 15
I am very lucky to have him :)
@Rollo1 (16689)
• Boston, Massachusetts
6 Oct 15
Success is being the best you that you can be. It's not wrong to settle for less money or prestige if it fits better with your plans for life, but it's wrong to seek money and prestige if it means you have to give up peace of mind or your integrity. Be honest, fair, and kind. That is a successful person.
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@wiLLmaH (8252)
• Singapore, Singapore
7 Oct 15
"Be honest, fair, and kind" this is correct! :) That reflects a happy life.
@indexer (1194)
• Leicester, England
6 Oct 15
I suppose it boils down to whether you have achieved the things you set out to achieve. I am disappointed about my own career because I do not think I went as high up the ladder as I could have done. There was some bad luck included here - a company I was working for went bust, and I lost out on several job opportunities because of circumstances well beyond my control. However, you have to look at the situation you find yourself in and work out how to make the best of it. Sometimes things will work out well and sometimes they won't! I do feel envious sometimes of people who have made far less effort than I have but enjoyed far more success!
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@wiLLmaH (8252)
• Singapore, Singapore
7 Oct 15
You are correct. I should stay laser focus with my goal not other's success..
@jrlcentral (1014)
• Roxas, Philippines
6 Oct 15
Success for me is, having financial freedom -- meaning, I'll have enough money to last my lifetime and then some to leave to my kids. Not necessarily to be filthy rich. At the same time I live a happy and simple life with my family (more time to spend with them while I keep on earning), and help those in need .. maybe some kids on an orphanage. Did I mention healthy living as well? I know that this sounds like a dream and unreal, but I now know that this dream can be achieved. :)
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@wiLLmaH (8252)
• Singapore, Singapore
6 Oct 15
No it is not a dream John. Actually my husband compared my financial status with that classmate I saw in linkedin. My husband even enumerated it. "Does he have a stocks like yours? For sure ge don't. Does he have 12 rental apartments like yours? He have home under loan. Can't you afford to buy a car? You can buy a car in cash!" And so on and on and on. That is why I just shut the idea off and murmured thanks to HIM. For giving me this kind of peaceful and yet bountiful life. :) Keep on dreaming John. Keep on learning the different investment vehicle. :) there is no impossible.
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• Roxas, Philippines
6 Oct 15
@wiLLmaH Thanks. It seems we are following the same principle... perhaps, we are following the examples and teachings of the same people? :D
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@wiLLmaH (8252)
• Singapore, Singapore
7 Oct 15
@jrlcentral I am not following Bo Sanchez's advices. I do my own decision in buying and selling stocks :) But I have read his book "The Maid Invests in Stock Market". It is a good book to start with.
• United States
7 Oct 15
It is understandable to be envious Willma I would too rather be happy with work I was doing than to be stressed to make more money. Glad you were able to come to that conclusion with help of sweet hubby.
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@wiLLmaH (8252)
• Singapore, Singapore
8 Oct 15
I think we really need to be clear with our goal and mission and don't compare yourself to others to avoid this kind of frustrations.
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@bluesa (13421)
• Johannesburg, South Africa
6 Oct 15
Everyone has a different idea about what success is. To me, success is being happy and overcoming obstacles. I am glad the conversation with your husband helped.
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@wiLLmaH (8252)
• Singapore, Singapore
7 Oct 15
We have different perspective in that word. I am glad he is always there for me. :)
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• Hyderabad, India
6 Oct 15
Success for me is personal or mental satisfaction that I achieved how much I was capable of not what the society thinks of me.
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@wiLLmaH (8252)
• Singapore, Singapore
7 Oct 15
That is why I need to shake that thinking off. Instead I count my blessings.
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• Thiruvananthapuram, India
9 Oct 15
"Life is what you make of it". Never forget that
@wiLLmaH (8252)
• Singapore, Singapore
9 Oct 15
We are responsible of our life.. ;)
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• Thiruvananthapuram, India
9 Oct 15
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