I Got What He Meant !

@SIMPLYD (90722)
Philippines
October 22, 2015 1:47am CST
Last night , when I arrived home from the office , the kitchen was a mess . Husband is still out , so I put everything in order . When he arrived , after greeting him , I started telling him that when he washes the dishes after I leave for office , he should also put the things at the dining room in order . I keep talking and he simply was just at the computer . I know he was listening , and after a while he told me with a bit of annoyance “you have said what is there to say so please stop now ". So I told him , “ just remember all that l have said ha “ and stopped talking already . In a little while , he is on his joker self and we're both kidding each other already . As wives , we should know when to stop talking right guys ?
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22 responses
• Indonesia
22 Oct 15
Silent mode is woman's secret weapon. We can use it when we read the sign our man don't want to listen too much ( do we talk too much actually? ). And we can use it to show that we don't like how things gone this way. When I'm silent I remember that I will hit him in time later
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
22 Oct 15
Does your last line mean that you remain silent and you keep thinking when to retaliate or take revenge?
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
23 Oct 15
@SIMPLYD - OMG! you know many ways to torture your (poor) hubby. (My sympathies are with him).
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
22 Oct 15
Yes, i know what you mean . I do that before when we were just starting as couples . I would give him a silent treatment . Even if i bumped in him by the door i wouldn't say a word . That tortures them .
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@wiLLmaH (8801)
• Singapore, Singapore
22 Oct 15
Haha! Once I am on a "silent mode" he knows that there is something wrong. I am not that girl anymore who will recite all the things. I just do and correct what is wrong and he observes. Then next time he will not do it again. Haha!
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
22 Oct 15
I am like that before . However , i realized i really have to tell him what's bothering me , because he doesn't like it too when i am silent despite the fact that he knows i am angry already !
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@wiLLmaH (8801)
• Singapore, Singapore
22 Oct 15
@SIMPLYD Different people, different approaches. :)
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• Thiruvananthapuram, India
22 Oct 15
Wow! wow! in conclusion, i didnt get anything... What a english just mind blowing @wiLLmaH Seeing some good english after a long time. My eyes are full of tears by reading.... lol! i am crying @SIMPLYD
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@allknowing (130064)
• India
22 Oct 15
One man's meat is another man's poison. So what suited you may not suit another wife
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@allknowing (130064)
• India
22 Oct 15
@SIMPLYD But men never listen. They pretend to.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
22 Oct 15
@allknowing But my husband sometimes don't really listen . So i ask him and if he can't answer , i will repeat so he listens already do i won't repeat it again .
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
22 Oct 15
Well, of course that's my way . Other wives have theirs also. To each, her own . However , one thing is sure , most wives could really be talkers or ranters .
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@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
22 Oct 15
I hope all wives read and understood all of that And unfortunately my wife is not a mylot member Conclusion: there is no way to stop her
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
22 Oct 15
So your wife is so much more of a talker than me ! I can perceive that you are just there silently laughing at her while she rants .
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@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
22 Oct 15
@SIMPLYD On most occasions I smile, but then, that infuriates her and makes things more "non ending"
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
22 Oct 15
@thesids so what do you do instead ?
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@LadyDuck (458176)
• Switzerland
22 Oct 15
@redvakaurvaki is right, silent mode is our secret weapon. I have nothing to discuss about dishes with my husband, because this is not something he takes care off.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
22 Oct 15
So what does your husband do to help you when at home ? My husband does the dishes in the morning , because i have to go to work . Good if the in-laws are there , because mother-in-law likes to wash the dishes in the morning . . But they are with my gay brother-in-law in the next province now and they do this, every other week .
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
23 Oct 15
@LadyDuck Oh, so it's the way of Italian men . I now understand .
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@LadyDuck (458176)
• Switzerland
22 Oct 15
@SIMPLYD Italian men do not help women around the house. My grandfather and father never helped their wives and I do not expect my husband to help me.
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@poehere (15126)
• French Polynesia
22 Oct 15
I think men have a deaf ear. I have complained forever about throwing trash in the can and not leaving it by the door or in a box that needs to be broken down. So finally I got tired of talking and did the same thing. He keeps a bucket by the door to throw scraps in for the chickens. So the other day I just picked up all his trash again and threw it in the two cans. So that night I took all my trash from cooking and the scraps and threw them all in his bucket. Wow did he explode. He said to me this isn't for trash it's for my chickens. I busted up laughing and told him now you get my point. The ledge here by the trash can's isn't for your trash the cans are right there. So if you don't want trash in your chicken bucket throw your trash in the cans and don't leave it here on the ledge for me to do it. Otherwise I will continue to throw my trash in your chicken bucket. Then you can learn to throw it away like I have to do for you. Guess what it worked. So far so good no trash left on the ledge right now and it is all in the cans where it belongs.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
23 Oct 15
You really made a good strategy for your husband to conform to that . Sometimes we wives should really strategise to make our husbands follow what we want .
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
23 Oct 15
@poehere You are amazing doing that to him . Now, he learned some lesson from you .
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@poehere (15126)
• French Polynesia
23 Oct 15
@SIMPLYD Yah stop complaining and starting doing like them. They get the hint really fast. Or as least mine did. He was so mad I had thrown a can of tomato sauce, a plastic from the rice, and a few some paper towels and some other things in his chicken bucked along with food. He had to dig them all out. I normally have to do this for him. I thought it was time he saw how it felt. One time he kept leaving tons of stuff all over the house. I told him next time he could find it in the trash. He laughed and kept doing it. So I threw them away. When he went looking for them he asked me. said oh I cleaned house today and threw all the stuff away that was laying around the living room to save time putting it away. I thought you wouldn't mind because you don't like putting your stuff away. I just was saving you time. I am very bad and I can take it for so .long and then I just throw it away or do like he does. I get my point across rather quickly works every time.
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@Rosekitty (19368)
• San Marcos, Texas
22 Oct 15
Happy you guys joke it out!
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
23 Oct 15
We have to , or else it will escalate to a quarrel . Hmm , nice new avatar !
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@katsmeow1213 (28717)
• United States
23 Oct 15
My husband was off from work today and it looks like he spent the whole day playing his video games. I'm sick of telling him how much I have to do around here. He knows how I feel about him playing video games all day long. If I start to complain about it again he'll just get angry with me. He has a million excuses for why he doesn't do anything around here. It just aggravates me and right now I'm really annoyed at him and don't even want to think about it.. otherwise I might start thinking of kicking his lazy butt to the curb! LOL
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
23 Oct 15
Have you talked to him in a nice way , not in a confrontational manner ? Maybe you should play "pitiful" of doing all the household works while he plays video games .
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
23 Oct 15
@poehere I am so like you ! The other night when i arrived home there was no cooked dinner . It's a good thing , i went to the mall to have my shoes repaired . I was already hungry so i ate . When he arrived i told him i ate out because anyway , he didn't cook . He just smirked . When he got hungry , i told him to eat the leftovers at the fridge and so he did . He learned his lesson . When i arrived last night , he has cooked dinner .
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@poehere (15126)
• French Polynesia
23 Oct 15
Do like I do. What ever is laying around that he didn't pick up gather it all up and throw it in the trash. I do that to my BF when it gets out of control. Then if he is home and I am with clients all day and he doesn't want to cook but instead watch TV I just get in the car and take myself out to eat alone. He had plenty of time to take something out for dinner and help me out. But if he is so interested in his TV then let his TV cook for him and I go have someone else cook for me.
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@cgalavia (1436)
• Philippines
22 Oct 15
My hubby doesn't like doing the dishes,he's on the cooking portion which I like most. On the other side,you're right we should know when will us to stop talking, if not everything will turn like a fire,.hehe,and I know no one would want to end up in a burning arguments.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
23 Oct 15
When we are the only two left in the house for a week , i cook breakfast , he washes the dishes since i will be going to work already . In the late afternoon , he cooks dinner while i wash the dishes after our dinner . This is an implied arrangement .
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
23 Oct 15
@cgalavia That's very nice of your husband to help you in the chores at home Cooking can really be taxing specially when the weather is hot .
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@cgalavia (1436)
• Philippines
23 Oct 15
@SIMPLYD That is so nice to have that agreement while us my husband always do the cooking start from morning to night if he's around in the house then I always do the dishes.The good thing here is our husband helping us to divide the chore in the house.
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@jstory07 (134465)
• Roseburg, Oregon
22 Oct 15
That was good the two of you made up. Or he knew he was in the wrong so he is joking with you now.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
23 Oct 15
Yes, he realizes he is wrong in what he did , so he makes up by just joking . And i take it as an apology , which he never ever say vocally , but always in action . Though sometimes i wish he would vocally say Sorry .
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@DWDavis (25812)
• Pikeville, North Carolina
22 Oct 15
From my experience the only way a wife knows when she's said too much is when her husband displays irritation at the fact that she is still talking long after he has stopped listening.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
23 Oct 15
Precisely . The wife should watch at his facial expression .
@simone10 (54189)
• Louisville, Kentucky
22 Oct 15
I don't think it should just be wives as it can pertain to men too. I think we should all learn when to stop unless it is something that really needs to be said.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
23 Oct 15
Yes indeed , that is true . However , in our case , my husband doesn't nag . He would just tell me in one liner . It's me who always nags .
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
29 Oct 15
@simone10 Yes, i can relate and maybe because it's one nature of women too.
@simone10 (54189)
• Louisville, Kentucky
28 Oct 15
@SIMPLYD I have a tendency to nag also. Part of it for me comes from being a mother.
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@KnehKnah (3584)
• Philippines
22 Oct 15
He does the dishes? Wowowie! I like your hubby, Ms Bicolandia! We seldom find husbands who do that. Most of my male friends do carpentry but never the dishes.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
23 Oct 15
@Tita417 wow, really ! You are so lucky to have a husband in him .
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
23 Oct 15
Yes, he has too because he is the one left at home to do them when on a time like this where it's me and him on the house left , since the in-laws goes with my gay brother-in-law to the province where he is assigned , every other week . Besides , he is used to doing them when he sees i am already tired from cleaning the house when it's only the two of us .
@Tita417 (1228)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
23 Oct 15
@knehknah so sorry to tell you, you are wrong there. my husband is good in dishwasher. He's good in everything. He thinks he can do everything so I let him.
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@Tita417 (1228)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
22 Oct 15
Yes we 're suppose to know when to stop and be quiet. I do that too and he knows when to stop too coz he's a better nagger than I ambut I always win
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
22 Oct 15
Really , he is a better nagger ! I think it's unusual that the husband is the one who is more of a nagger .
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@Tita417 (1228)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
22 Oct 15
@SIMPLYD oh yes indeed. He's the best one in town but I don't mind coz if he nags he does everything
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@GardenGerty (157551)
• United States
23 Oct 15
It goes both ways. Sometimes the husband needs to be quiet for a while.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
23 Oct 15
I think so too . But my husband is not someone who nags . He would just tell me a one liner then keep quiet .
@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
22 Oct 15
Could wives stop talking? In my view, it is not possible. Husbands are the easy targets for every wife to fire.
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
23 Oct 15
@SIMPLYD - As far as targeting the husband is concerned, all wives are same, irrespective of place?
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
23 Oct 15
@dpk262006 You got it right !
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
22 Oct 15
I think i have never heard of a wife who doesn't talk or is a loud mouth when at home . Of course , the husband is the target .
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• China
29 Oct 15
What a sense of propriety !You only touched on it briefly and stopped talking at a right time.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
29 Oct 15
That's because i know that he had heard enough already . Overdoing it would surely lead to quarrel .
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
30 Oct 15
@changjiangzhibin89 Yes, that is true . There should really be some give and take .
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• China
30 Oct 15
@SIMPLYD No wonder many people say that in every sucessful marriage there is a certain amount of give and take .
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• United States
23 Oct 15
i reckon that depends? the hubs doesn't wish this sorta conversation neither when its started by myself. but, if'n its somethin' he feels to get off'a his chest - ya can't shut him up 'n he'll rant fer hours'n end...
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
23 Oct 15
Yes , that is true . My husband is not a talker actually . But when he has a story to tell me , he can be one . And when that happens i really listen because he likes it that i listen and seemed interested .
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• Thiruvananthapuram, India
22 Oct 15
lol! i am feeling jealous on you. I too love to have a wife like you who likes and supports me on every situation. I am a bit mischief kid, so i am looking for girls like you haha Have a great day my friend.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
22 Oct 15
A wife ? I thought you are a woman , all this time . Anyway , when you meet a girl you more or less try to discover if she has the potential of being a woman with a loud mouth . If she is then , look for another one until you find an understanding one .
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• Lucknow, India
22 Oct 15
@SIMPLYD Hahaha!!! And by the way I am guy too :P :P
• Thiruvananthapuram, India
22 Oct 15
@SIMPLYD Haha lol! then what did you thought. Did you heard a girl named rahul? haha you got to be kidding me. Yes i am looking for someone who supports with my kiddings haha. I see tthat you are a support to your husbands kiddings. I wanted someone like you my friend.
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@vickyrose (2235)
• Cooma, Australia
22 Oct 15
Sometimes I feel like a nagger and have to just tell myself to stop. Your hubby is a typical man indeed.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
22 Oct 15
Really ! Yes, i know that , because my father -in law and my father is like him .
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