Stefanie, Answer Your (Bleep) Phone!!!!
@crewgirl (191)
United States
October 23, 2015 9:09pm CST
I'm writing this discussion right now because I just got an angry notification from a dear friend telling me to respond to their message that they left days ago. I read their message and just wasn't in a good mood to answer it. I've been avoiding everyone lately. My friends think I have dropped off the face of the Earth. They get upset that I'm avoiding them and they take it personally like I don't care about them enough to contact them. I suffer from clinical depression and a lot of people don't seem to understand the illness. Have you (or somebody you know) experienced depression? What seems to help when you're feeling sad or moody?
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@rahulvsmokiee (3110)
• Thiruvananthapuram, India
24 Oct 15
Oh my friend. I must say that it is your problem. never ever mix it with relations like friendship. you are meant to answer his message. Even i have some stage of depression. But when a friend call me, i dont hesitate to take it. I think a friend is much important than your goods or bads. i hope you get what i meant.
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@crewgirl (191)
• United States
24 Oct 15
I absolutely get what you meant. I'm trying to make my relationships a priority in my life and I'm trying not to avoid people as much because I am a lot happier when I communicate with people most of the time. It's just that part of me doesn't want to be comforted for a lot of reasons. Thanks for responding.
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@Samanthavv (1380)
• United States
24 Oct 15
I really don't have an answer for you. Nothing seems to help mine. But really, if they would get so upset just at you didnt respond to a message, they may not be worth keeping around,
@Samanthavv (1380)
• United States
24 Oct 15
@crewgirl no. I have had one since I was five until I was 21 and they never did me any good. There's no point. I think for or some people it can be helpful but there are people like me that it's useless.
@crewgirl (191)
• United States
24 Oct 15
@Samanthavv I'm sorry. I hope you find something that helps eventually. There is still hope!
@crewgirl (191)
• United States
24 Oct 15
Do you have a therapist? I struggled for years without a therapist and when I finally decided to get one, she helped me immensely.
@ellie26 (4139)
• Malaysia
24 Oct 15
I have suffered mild depression many years ago. I struggled to keep a happy face each time I was feeling down. But now, I am getting less depression attack. The way I handle depression is I acknowledged the feelings, float with it and then release. Sometimes I call a friend just to talk which is a great therapy for me.
@crewgirl (191)
• United States
24 Oct 15
Hi, Ellie! I'm really glad that you have your depression under control and have less attacks. That's really great. In therapy, I was told to picture my feelings as an ocean, flowing in and out, leaving my body. I looked at the guy like he was crazy, but it really helps me to tolerate those negative feelings more if I picture them flowing in and out. In the moment, it helps me to realize that negative feelings do not last forever. Thanks for responding!
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@ellie26 (4139)
• Malaysia
24 Oct 15
@crewgirl Wow...I should try that too. It great to know that the therapy is helping you to realize negative feelings do not last forever. Its a fun world outside, so go out there and have a blast sometimes, and of course hang out with your buddies!
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@kevin1877uk (36988)
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24 Oct 15
Have or do you friends know about your depression and how it can affect you? I'm sure they would understand, although I know people don't understand depression and how you feel. I too, I do get depressed and it's not nice. I can be ok one minute they slowly start to sink.
@kevin1877uk (36988)
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24 Oct 15
@crewgirl Oh dear that's a hard one with it being hard to find another one in your area.
@crewgirl (191)
• United States
24 Oct 15
Some of my closest friends know, so they give me a break when I avoid them. Honestly, they're really good friends and I'm so lucky to have them because I know I'm a pain in the butt. I went to my psychiatrist the other day (I still need to use spell check on that word lol) and I was telling her how depressed I was at home, but I was doing it in a chipper voice, so she was like, "Really? You don't seem all that depressed to me..." I told her that that is what I try to project to others (I try to act happy) but when I'm alone, it's a very different story. Thanks for responding!
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@crewgirl (191)
• United States
24 Oct 15
@kevin1877uk I've been thinking about it. Some days I walk out of her office and I'm totally disgruntled with her. Other days, I'm like, "She's not so bad." She's actually pretty helpful and it really is hard to find a psychiatrist who treats my series of mental illnesses in my area.
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@Pattitude (1287)
• Newton, North Carolina
25 Oct 15
I lost my adult son from a motorcycle accident 10 yrs ago. I am still affected but I am functioning in life much better than I used to.
But it does tick me off to no end when my sister does not answer her phone or text msgs, especially after her son told me that she hits ignore most times when her phone rings.
But then again, I have been guilty of it, too, especially 2 wks ago. I had an emotional upset due to the adult children of one of my sisters (they are so dysfunctional), and I just didn't care what happened to me and I did not answer any of my calls or texts. I just wanted everyone to leave me alone.
I am doing good now, and am back to normal. I decided to not let my nieces own me and will no longer let them control me like that, again. It was at that moment I realized how insignificant they really are.
