The Last Waltz
October 30, 2015 7:04pm CST
For some reason, The Man put the movie The Last Waltz on television this evening. Strange, because it was one of my movies - that is, it is one of the movies I have loved and watched so many times through the years and I introduced him to it. It's a 1978 film directed by Martin Scorcese that documents the final concert tour of the group The Band. The group had several hits and albums of their own and were often the backup band for Bob Dylan. There are some great guest performances by Joni Mitchell, Muddy Waters, Dr John, Emmylou Harris, Neil Young and of course, Bob Dylan. And although I have seen it many times, today my enjoyment of the music was tinged with a bit of sadness. It's the same when I watch so many of my favorite old movies and television shows. I am not the only one who is older, all of these guys are so much older. And there isn't as much joy in watching anymore. When The Boy was younger and watched more television with me, I always watched a lot of older television shows in reruns. And inevitably, he would turn to me and ask "Is everyone in this show dead?" I tried to find someone in the show who was still alive. Sometimes it was just one person. "Little Ricky is still alive, but Lucy and Ricky died years ago", I would tell him. I wonder if it is these beloved characters from my past that I miss so much, or if it is my childhood that I am mourning. Days of innocent laughter at the antics of the characters on my favorite sitcom, days of loudly singing along with the musical groups of years past and yet, as time passes, it gets harder and harder to relive those feelings, to recreate the fun. Time and the passing of youth makes even the comedy seem somewhat solemn. I am left with a "Gawd, I am old" sort of disconnect with the world around me. Who understands my references? So few. Who will understand them in ten years, in twenty? Do I dare to hope for thirty more? Will I be the crazy old lady insisting that someone turn the television channel to I Love Lucy while the young nursing home attendants wonder what I am talking about? The Boy will remember Lucy, and he will know that everyone on the show is dead, except Little Ricky. But that could change, he's getting up there too. I don't like seeing people forgotten, and one day I will be among the forgotten. Our days in the sun are so few and no one knows what comes in the night ahead.
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• El Paso, Texas
31 Oct 15
inevitably we all get to that part in our lives when we realize that although we know all about that show or song or movie those 30 years our junior will be left speechless, mostly because they have no clue who we're talking about. Ummm, just gotta ask, do you remember Laugh-In or the Smothers Brothers?
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• Alicante, Spain
31 Oct 15
Sad n funny.... I know some of the programmes you mentioned..but I was talking to my niece the other day while visiting my brother, and we mentioned a couple of things...that were not very old really and she did not know what we were talking about..... my brother and I looked at each other... and smiled ... the generation gap has started already ..lol's
• Boston, Massachusetts
31 Oct 15
It is amazing how quickly it all turns around. I feel lucky that my father was older and that I was exposed to his generation's music and interests even as I grew up in my own generation. I didn't reject it all, as the young seem to do these days.
31 Oct 15
For those who have faith -- and I think I remember your saying you're one of them -- we know we are never forgotten. Everyone goes through those sad moments of realizing we are getting older and familiar things to us are not familiar to those who are younger. Still, the most important things are, like love and laughter and finding the simple joys.
31 Oct 15
I have checked, I have never seen the movie "The Last Waltz", but I see so many old movies where all the actors who played are gone. Now that I am old, I remember when we watched old movies and Mom time by time, seeing an actor, said, "another one, who is not anymore with us". This made me crazy.