Being casual with Managers and Bosses

Singapore, Singapore
November 1, 2015 6:38pm CST
What do you do when a Manager tells you that you can be casual with him? That you can call him by his first name... that you can do and say whatever you think is right... that there is no fear and no prejudice? First thing to do is to test out whether he means what he says. 90% of the time, he doesn't. He just wants you to let your guard down so that he has the upper hand. Classic Brazilian ju-jitsu trick. Always remember. Everything will be roses when we hold on to our guns.
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@youless (91533)
• Guangzhou, China
2 Nov 15
As an employee, we will never know our employers' real thoughts. Even if my boss tells me that I can be casual with him, but actually I have to respect and regard him as my boss. This relationship will not have a change. If our relationship is equal and I can treat him in casual, can I just get mad to him as well as he is angry with me? I don't think so. Unless I don't want to keep my job.
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@hema7213 (3521)
• India
2 Nov 15
You seems very idealistic...I have seen many type of bosses....the one which I have is very professional... He does care, how I call him... He care only about work... Earlier boss was interested in maintaining distance... It always depends on leadership attributes of the boss... There is no single answer to this question..
@youless (91533)
• Guangzhou, China
3 Nov 15
@hema7213 My boss is very emotional and he will lose temper when he doesn't have a good mood. And this is very frustrating because you will never know when you will be yelled. Just hope he will have a good mood all the time.
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• Singapore, Singapore
5 Nov 15
@youless That's a very tough way to work. EVeryday will be a challenge
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@WorDazza (10106)
• Manchester, England
2 Nov 15
In the industry I work in I have never come across anyone who expects to be called Mister or Sir. That goes right up to Managing Directors. In fact I would refuse to call anyone by anything other than their first name. I don't work 'for' people, I work 'with' them regardless of where they sit in a hierarchy.
• Singapore, Singapore
5 Nov 15
I salute you. You have dignity. Unfortunately for many other people in many other countries, dignity at the workplace is not an option. They either bow to management, or have no job.
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@WorDazza (10106)
• Manchester, England
5 Nov 15
@yeezermac I can understand that. I'm fortunate enough to work in an industry where respect is earned by your ability rather than by how many people you are managing. It is usually the managers who are the worst at their jobs who are the ones who demand to be called Sir or Mister!!
@wiLLmaH (8252)
• Singapore, Singapore
2 Nov 15
When my boss will tell me those words, I will do the opposite. Haha!
• Singapore, Singapore
2 Nov 15
I've been scolded before for calling Managers "sir" and "ma'am". They insist I call them by first name. But when I did, they started showing their rank. Idiots.
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@wiLLmaH (8252)
• Singapore, Singapore
2 Nov 15
@yeezermac Haha! Hot and Cold huh! Crazy people!
@softbabe44 (5902)
• Vancouver, Washington
2 Nov 15
I think thats where i wouldn't get close enough to take part in that invitation there is something about that i wouldn't touch i would have nothing to do with that.
• Singapore, Singapore
2 Nov 15
It's a trap, that one. Elmer Fudd has got his shotgun out, and it's rabbit season. Run, rabbit, run. Don't fall for that Management trick
• Vancouver, Washington
2 Nov 15
@yeezermac Yea Elmer fudd did that and he made that public.
@Hatley (164654)
• Garden Grove, California
3 Nov 15
oh that is horrid I had a woman boss like that who was bi polar and refused to take her meds so one day she hated us all thought we were all the worst crew ever then the next day we were the best wo rkers she evedr had so we never knew when she was going to get angy and scream at us or be very sweet to us. ugh.
• Singapore, Singapore
5 Nov 15
She shouldn't be allowed to manage, with her medical condition