Mylot is making me an optimist

@funtool (246)
Sargodha, Pakistan
November 13, 2015 4:40am CST
I am an introvert and pessimist by nature. Instead of conscious effort to avoid negativity I often see things negatively. I lack social interaction skills and I don't have many friends in real life. When I first heard about mylot my first reaction was negative. When I first time visited mylot my first thought was that it was bunch of money makers who make fake comments to earn money. My inner voice said: "don't you ever think about becoming a member of this network, you have no place here" " o poor soul you are not good at speaking English and they will make fun of you" "remember your horrible experience with tsu " "no westerner or American will like to make friendship with you blacky, they hate Pakistanis " " what will you get by wasting time here, PayPal does not offer services in Pakistan, you will get nothing. They will make money and you will get nothing " But then I thought that if it will not give me anything, it will also take nothing from me so I must give it a try for at least a day and believe me it was an exciting first day. No body laughed at my bad English. Comments were insightful. I have few white friends. So funtool is having fun here on mylot but I am having some trouble posting from my mobile phone.
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@owlwings (43915)
• Cambridge, England
13 Nov 15
I'm sure that many people have thought the way you did at first but the truth is that MyLot welcomes anyone who wants to make a good contribution. It is probably easier to write English than to speak it and nobody minds if your English is less than perfect, so long as you are making the effort to communicate. Many people have improved their command of the language immensely by being here.
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@boiboing (13153)
• Northampton, England
13 Nov 15
That voice in your head needs gagging. Nobody here cares where you come from, what you look like or anything like that. You can be who you want to be.
@MALUSE (69388)
• Germany
13 Nov 15
@funtool Is it possible that you wallow in your negativity? If you know that nobody likes you, you don't have to make an effort, do you?
@funtool (246)
• Sargodha, Pakistan
13 Nov 15
It is really difficult to gage this voice Boingboing. I heard meditation can quite this inner voice
@funtool (246)
• Sargodha, Pakistan
13 Nov 15
@MALUSE it is not that easy, negative thoughts create negative emotions and negative emotions produce negative thoughts. This pattern continues in a loop. It is easy to say never think negatively but it is actually very difficult to do
• Portugal
28 Nov 15
Im happy that mylot is helping you^^ what can help you even better to interact with people is sign up into an activity. for example a book club or something that you like. activities are great to make new friends.
• India
13 Nov 15
Hey good to see that this platform can motivate someone. I have been a member of mylot since 5-6 years and believe me I have seen very good people around this platform. Very gentle and very wise. This is the USP of mylot. Have fun.
@funtool (246)
• Sargodha, Pakistan
13 Nov 15
Agree concept001, it is a good community and a good learning curve for me. Specially it will help me to improve my English speaking skills
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@Jessicalynnt (50525)
• Centralia, Missouri
13 Nov 15
yeah I fight the mobile phone posting too. And ouch! That is some painful self talk. It's hard to be optimistic when you mind cuts you down! Fight back! Refuse to let your mind be one of the bad guys to yourself! It's not easy, it takes years of fighting, but you are the master of it, not it of you!
@funtool (246)
• Sargodha, Pakistan
13 Nov 15
Jessa Lyn mind was a tool to help human species survive against tough rivals but it has now become a monster and it rules our lives. It was a slave once and now it is a master and we are slaves
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• Centralia, Missouri
14 Nov 15
@funtool that is an interesting way of looking at it, but the slaves can take control back!
@T_gray (7774)
• Salina, Kansas
15 Nov 15
I have had a great time here too. I'm glad you are liking it as well :-) everyone is so welcoming and gives the greatest advice
@funtool (246)
• Sargodha, Pakistan
16 Nov 15
Ya T Gray, actually money does not matter, what actually matters is quality time and I am having real fun here.
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@zebra2222 (5269)
• United States
14 Nov 15
Good luck with this. I like to do some postings and read some posts as well.
@Rosekitty (19368)
• San Marcos, Texas
13 Nov 15
I'm glad you stuck with it even though you had such negative feelings. I didn't know pakistan has no paypal so you won't be making any money..doesn't seem fair. Welcome to myLot!!
@Missmwngi (12926)
• Nairobi, Kenya
13 Nov 15
I am glad it worked well for you. This place is like a family