Feeling Confused
By Carrie Peng
@carriepeng (16)
Shenzhen, China
November 16, 2015 3:29am CST
Hi,my dear myLot friends.
I am feeling confused and complicated lately.It's about relationship.
We met on the Internet and talked to each other almost everday.
Of course,as a normal friend.Untill he told me he has feelings for me.I was hesitated at then and didn't take it seriously.
Beacause my last relationship was just ended and I was in a world of great sorrow.I feel hopeless for love.Also I was so afraid of ruin this relationship.
As time goes by,I feel feeling for him.He said he want to come to my place and meet me.But I refused and afraid.Though I like him,like him very much.
He said sweet words to me.Treat me as girfriend.But never ask me to be his girfriend.
I was cool and thought we need more time to get to know each other and waiting for the right time.I don't want to be so rush.So why not slow down and take it easy?
But recently I am not patience any more.
And I know I was too proud.Never told him how I feel.
Now we didn't talk to each other for three days.Nothing unpleasent happend before.
He is quite busy and often staying overnight in the office to get work done.
Three days ago when he is feeling blue,I chose to ignored and did nothing.Becaus I really don't know what I could do and how to comfort him.
Am I doing anything wrong?
What should I do now?
Or he has no feeling for me anymore? this relationship is going to ending?
OR I am thinking too much?
Or should I talk to him first?
Love sometimes is so simple and sometimes so complicated.
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4 responses
@GopherDanny (814)
• Philippines
16 Nov 15
Well, seeing that you met in the internet, I think you should really slow things down. You cannot really know a person just by chatting with them although you can feel that you are loved, missed, or something. But personal touch is really important, if you have not seen this person yet, you should reserve all judgments regarding him. It's easy to lie to people on the internet, but it is much harder to lie personally. So meet him first, then try to know him better personally before committing yourself with him. Make the right logical decision and don't be pushed around by your impulse. Kudos~! 
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@MALUSE (69413)
• Germany
16 Nov 15
The advice @GopherDanny has given you is the best you can get. Only a personal meeting can tell you something about the real person. It's possible that you really like each other and it's also possible that you don't.
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@carriepeng (16)
• Shenzhen, China
16 Nov 15
Yeah,I know,Thanks for your advice.I am feeling much clear now and it's very helpful.Thank you guys.
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@celticeagle (159221)
• Boise, Idaho
17 Nov 15
Don't isolate yourself so that this person is the person you are in contact with most of the time. Reach out to other people. Do not totally put all of your being into a relationship with this person. Don't believe everything they tell you. They could be lying to you. They could be someone else than what they say. They could even be somewhere else. Don't believe anything they tell you 100%. Until you are standing face-to-face with this person do not send them money, do not believe them totally. Enjoy your time with them but be guarded and do not give them information like you address and personal info about yourself. Take it slow.
@celticeagle (159221)
• Boise, Idaho
17 Nov 15
@carriepeng .....Am glad to hear that you know what you are doing. Many do this and think they do. Taking it slow is key.
@carriepeng (16)
• Shenzhen, China
17 Nov 15
Yes,Sometimes I have isolate myself.And very appreciated for your advices and concerns.Maybe it seems I am innocent but don't worry about me.I know what I am doing and know how to protect myself.I will take it slow and see if it worth or not.Thank you.
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@carriepeng (16)
• Shenzhen, China
16 Nov 15
hahaha...young innocent girls.....of course I will not put 100%....Thank you for your advice.I know what I am doing.
@carriepeng (16)
• Shenzhen, China
17 Nov 15
yeah....I know.But you know sometimes just want to keep silent and doing nothing.Maybe it's don't worth.
