The Tables in My Life
@just4him (306722)
Green Bay, Wisconsin
November 26, 2015 6:59pm CST
I've been thinking about past holiday's and all the tables in my life. I'm sure I'm not alone when I say I started at the children's table. You know the table set up separate from the adult table. Then I moved up to the big table with the rest of the adults. Today there was another table. It was a table with missing people - There was always six plus at our table, the plus being the holidays with other relatives - grandparents and cousins.
Today the table was missing my mother and brother. Mom passed a month ago and my brother a year ago. It was different. This is the kind of table I'll be sitting at in the future, and with Dad's health also frail, there could be another person missing at a holiday table next year.
What were/are your tables like? Thanks for reading.
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@Jessicalynnt (50525)
• Centralia, Missouri
27 Nov 15
last time I went, was still at the kids table, and all us kids were in our 20s!
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@Jessicalynnt (50525)
• Centralia, Missouri
28 Nov 15
@just4him dad has two brothers, their wives, plus great grandma, grandpa, his wife. and a couple others I think.
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@just4him (306722)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
28 Nov 15
@Jessicalynnt Yeah, I'd say that's a lot of adults. 
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@Marilynda1225 (79920)
• United States
27 Nov 15
@valmnz I know in our family that those who are missing have left fond memories so the holidays are bittersweet. They might not physically be sitting at the table but they are there in spirit
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@allknowing (130070)
• India
27 Nov 15
I love this post. I can start with the table at my mother's. We were so many siblings. Only father sat with us but mother ate last and that too in the kitchen. We had study tables too separate for boys and girls.
Then when I got married we went in for a small rectangle table - money was the constraint. It was made of wood with a thick heat resistant plastic top then came the round wrought iron one with a glass top.
Today we have a large table with an oval glass stop which cost us quite a penny. I cannot count the number that have eaten at this table.
The computer table is specially designed with a pull out for the keyboard.
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@just4him (306722)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
28 Nov 15
That only happened for me when it was a small family meal, but mostly there were too many of us so there were two tables at holidays.
@Rollo1 (16679)
• Boston, Massachusetts
27 Nov 15
This year I sat at a table with a bunch of strangers. Tonight I will be with siblings. In the past, I was always surrounded by family, and there was always more family than we had room for. Those years of being overcrowded were the best years.
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@just4him (306722)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
28 Nov 15
Yes they were. We always had so much fun on those holidays when we were crowded.
@ScribbledAdNauseum (104632)
• United States
27 Nov 15
We were never made to sit apart at the dinner table as children. In fact, we usually didn't all fit at the table regardless. The younger kids ate with the parents, grandparents
and aunts/uncles. The older kids amongst themselves mostly, but sometimes scattered amongst the rest of us. We have not had a proper holiday meal in years. This occurred after my brother
passed away several years ago now, then my mom and uncle followed suit several years later with their own deaths being nearly a year apart.
My reasoning is work + anxiety with too many people around. We aren't an estranged family by any means, but we are definitely strange in our traditions now.
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@just4him (306722)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
28 Nov 15
It sounds like you had a very interesting time together at all your holidays.
@BelleStarr (61047)
• United States
27 Nov 15
My mother is in the nursing home and has been missing from the table for the last 3 years. Other than that, we were still a big group.
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@BelleStarr (61047)
• United States
28 Nov 15
@just4him With my 3 kids, 10 grandkids and 2 great grands and significant others and my nephew we can fill a room. All my granddaughters have boyfriends too.
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@just4him (306722)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
28 Nov 15
@BelleStarr Sounds like things can get exciting around the holidays.
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@softbabe44 (5816)
• Vancouver, Washington
27 Nov 15
Yea we did the same the kids had the smaller table the adults had the much bigger table.
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@sallypup (58048)
• Centralia, Washington
27 Nov 15
@justforhim I'm sorry for your losses. Its usually just me and hubby at our festive tables. This year my Mom is with us. I'm sure it will be our final time of Mom being with us. She plans to go back with a sister in the Spring. I come from a large family but also am the youngest. I don't remember much about the various tables. One crazy farm year does stand out, though.
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@birjudanak (14319)
• India
27 Nov 15
so sorry for your mom and brother,you managed it all table very well and because of holiday lots of people come,generally we are her first table for children after them men and the women.but when we are alone we are at same table.
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@birjudanak (14319)
• India
28 Nov 15
@just4him ya its large family because mu dad has 2 brothers and six sisters and all are became grand parents so its to big.
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@ridingbet (66857)
• Philippines
27 Nov 15
our dining table is already considered vintage. we had this since I was a small culd yet. it is made of steel, and the table itself is now changed to a heavier and sturdier wood. My late father occupied the "cabisera" of our rectangle table, while my mother occupied the seat an my father's right side.
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@slund2041 (3315)
• United States
28 Nov 15
I am so sorry for your lost. I know it must be difficult to lose your mother and brother. My mother has been really sick this past year, and I was so terrify of losing her. She was having a lot of unexplained seizures.
@41CombedaleRoad (5952)
• Greece
27 Nov 15
Missing people is a sad topic, not one that is going to cheer you up for Thanksgiving. There are only two at our table now but it is some consolation to me that four are at my son's and three at my daughter's. It is a pity that those tables are so many miles apart.
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@just4him (306722)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
28 Nov 15
That is a consolation. I hope you get to see your children and grandchildren often.
@Marilynda1225 (79920)
• United States
27 Nov 15
I think it's the natural progression of life and as our tables get smaller as the years pass it seems life comes again full cycle and the table gets big again.
@Harley1988 (102)
• Philadelphia, Mississippi
27 Nov 15
A variety of tables throughout my life. It seems we do buffet more now. It is sad to lose those you cherish and especially hard during the holiday! I too have many missing from our festivities and will also loose more in the future. I cherish the time I have with those alive and the memories of those passed.
