Shifting to a new country after marriage
By nidhithapa
@nidhithapa (11)
United States
November 30, 2015 2:55pm CST
These two big things in my life happened together. I got married and left my country to move in with my husband. I did not not have any family and friends of my own here. Initially it was damn boring and depressing as I did not have a job and had no one to talk to except my husband. Gradually I made few friends and now 5 months down Its not that boring as it used to be, I am settling down. But I do miss my life back there in my country. Next year is upon us and I want to believe everything will become better :)
Anyone with this kind of an experience out there?
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@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
30 Nov 15
No but I can well imagine a new country with its different mores and c ulture would be a bit hard at first then also newly married you have a lot of new things to get used to. but the fact that you have already made some friends sounds like you will find it easier all the time congrats and God Bless
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@rebelann (111200)
• El Paso, Texas
1 Dec 15
Many Army wives feel as you do. Some are from a European country and some from an Asian country. Usually they shop at the base PX until they meet people from their own countries. What's really bad is when they cannot speak much English. Is there a base near you where you can meet people of different backgrounds?
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@nidhithapa (11)
• United States
1 Dec 15
language is not a problem for me here. Its just that I am not very social and I take time to mingle up but with time I am making new friends :)
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@rebelann (111200)
• El Paso, Texas
3 Dec 15
Most of the Army wives mom knew(she too was an Army wife) just wanted pals to be able to talk to and maybe start a card club with @nidhithapa Since the military tends to travel more often than civilians it was hard for mom to actually make friends she could confide in.
@youless (112123)
• Guangzhou, China
1 Dec 15
It is hard to maintain a long distance relationship. The true love needs one of them to make some sacrifice. In your case you made your sacrifice and moved to a another country in order to be with your husband. This is really not easy. Try to think more positive ways as the decision is made. You have your husband and then you can treat his friends like yours.
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@chelseaearnsmore (208)
• United States
1 Dec 15
Wow, that is a lot of change all at once, but it seems as if you are heading in the right direction for being more settled and less bored in the US! It's really great that you've made some friends. I've never moved to a new country for someone, but I did move from a different state to be with my boyfriend, so my family is about 5 hours away driving. It's not the same thing, but right now I don't have any friends of my own here yet (his friends are very nice though!) and am trying to get settled myself.
@chelseaearnsmore (208)
• United States
1 Dec 15
@nidhithapa Yay, I'm glad they are nice as well :) You'll do great wherever you are!
@nidhithapa (11)
• United States
1 Dec 15
Yes same with me. His friends are nice too so that is helping me settle down here :)
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@GardenGerty (157562)
• United States
30 Nov 15
I have moved to a new town but never a new country. I am glad you joined here as well as making new friends. You will probably like it here.
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@OreoBrownie (3755)
• Commerce, Georgia
19 Dec 15
You are most brave to do that. I've never lived or been outside the USA. I have lived in three states. A short time in Florida and many years in New York and the last 34 years I've been in Georgia. I love Georgia and have since day one. I had a job waiting on me when I got here so that helped me settle in.
