I HATE it when people say "always" or "never" when it's sometimes...

@dawnald (85135)
Shingle Springs, California
December 7, 2015 11:55pm CST
I swear I'm going to write that man a list. If I get an email, or a phone call, or find out something that I think Tony would want to know about, I'm going to just write it down, and then give him the list when I get home. Today while driving home, I got an email saying Cary had been moved to varsity wrestling. That wasn't on my mind when I got home, so I told him I needed to take Cary out for a shirt and jacket for his band concert. Then... The ex called to talk about medical insurance. While we were on the phone, I mentioned the email about varsity. Soon as I get off the phone, Tony says that next time I should tell him before I tell the ex. I say sorry, didn't do it on purpose. He says "you always do that". Well I don't ALWAYS. I Sometimes. If you're going to make a point that something annoys you, don't say always when it isn't always. It isn't true, and it isn't on purpose like I'm excluding you,, so why do it?
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Lenore Plassman
@sallypup (58185)
• Centralia, Washington
8 Dec 15
My hubby and I decided quite some time ago to quit saying "You always" do that or this or whatever. We also stopped with the blame game. Now to get my 94 year old Mom to grow up and join the party wagon!
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AmberLynn
@ScribbledAdNauseum (104632)
• United States
8 Dec 15
I feel as if "always" can be a relationship changer.
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katsmeow1213
@katsmeow1213 (28717)
• United States
8 Dec 15
Yep, I ALWAYS do that :) But it's not fun when you're angry and trying to yell at someone to say "You sometimes do that!"
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TheRealDawn
@dawnald (85135)
• Shingle Springs, California
8 Dec 15
hahaha true...
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vanny
@vandana7 (98999)
• India
20 Dec 15
Actually always is up in the list of words and sometimes is way below in the dictionary. So that may be one reason people just pick the word and stuff it and it turns out to be the wrong word.
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Heather Echola
@GardenGerty (157691)
• United States
23 Dec 15
Absolutes like "always" and "never" are not valid, and if they were, why would he still be with you, since you persist in excluding him on purpose? It is his way of saying his is ticked off but it does not promote discussion of the situation, it only aggravates you.
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TheRealDawn
@dawnald (85135)
• Shingle Springs, California
23 Dec 15
Yup, basically
vanny
@vandana7 (98999)
• India
20 Dec 15
Tony is still feeling insecure about R. That is what I read from this.
TheRealDawn
@dawnald (85135)
• Shingle Springs, California
21 Dec 15
Probably some truth in that.
M.-L.
@MALUSE (69409)
• Germany
8 Dec 15
Silly habits die hard.
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vanny
@vandana7 (98999)
• India
20 Dec 15
I can understand that in Tony's case.
The Horse
@TheHorse (206745)
• Walnut Creek, California
22 Dec 15
Almost any time someone uses "always," they've set themselves up to lose an argument.
TheRealDawn
@dawnald (85135)
• Shingle Springs, California
22 Dec 15
In my mind, that usually means they're angry, and I let them go on, and then calm down, and then I deal with it. But then I'm not good at dealing with anger.
AmberLynn
@ScribbledAdNauseum (104632)
• United States
8 Dec 15
Sometimes once is "always" enough. I understand your point on this as it can be hurtful towards you for him to insinuate you do something all the time, but I think his feelings were hurt that you told the ex about varsity first and he just reacted without thinking.
TheRealDawn
@dawnald (85135)
• Shingle Springs, California
8 Dec 15
Escaped to Narnia, seriously? (can I come too?)