Nothing is Ever Straight Forward Anymore

@BelleStarr (37638)
United States
December 16, 2015 8:02am CST
As the advocate for my mother, I must fill out forms for her. At this time of year, every year, I have to prove that she has not had a windfall of money and made herself ineligible for the assistance she get to pay for the nursing home. The fact that she is 100 and has dementia doesn't effect anything. I haven't been receiving her pension statement for the last 2 years. I looked at the last one I received and noticed it had the address of the house I sold 3.5 years ago. I called up the pension admin. and asked them to please send the statement to my address. They need to talk to my mother before they can talk to me. What part of she is 100 and has dementia did they not understand? I do have the power of attorney but they need to see a copy and their legal department has to look at it which will take 7-10 days. I need to get the form I am submitting to the state in by this week. I completely understand why they wouldn't allow me to make any changes to her pension like where it is deposited, though my name is on that account,but a statement is just a piece of paper. I asked the if they had a note saying the last two statements were returned to them for non-delivery. They did not. I am so tired of having to deal with crazy privacy issues that don't protect anyone's privacy. I am tired of the state and federal government, I am just plain tired. Nothing is ever or straight forward anymore.
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@Asylum (48282)
• Manchester, England
16 Dec 15
Many such systems are developed for the protection of the recipient, but they always seem to apply them dogmatically irrespective of circumstances.
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@BelleStarr (37638)
• United States
16 Dec 15
It does seem that they should use common sense.
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@Asylum (48282)
• Manchester, England
16 Dec 15
@BelleStarr That would be very foolish because they would probably lose their job if they began being sensible.
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@moondebi (1216)
• Bangalore, India
20 Dec 15
Some government procedures are ridiculous. We, too get the burn of these kind of nonsense rules here, in India. Actually, these are some ploy to make a delay or not to pay the money at all.
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@BelleStarr (37638)
• United States
20 Dec 15
This is just crazy red tape that uses no logic at all. I guess it is the same all over the world.
• United States
16 Dec 15
All that red tape is ridiculous and it just makes us (the caregivers) even more stressed out.
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@BelleStarr (37638)
• United States
16 Dec 15
That is how I have been feeling all week, stressed out and it has nothing to do with anything but paperwork and insurance not the holiday.
@TRBRocks420 (75508)
• Banks, Oregon
16 Dec 15
I hear you. Life would be so much easier, if people were just straight forward and, honest, it's gotten to be ridiculous out there. I hope things get better.
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@BelleStarr (37638)
• United States
16 Dec 15
Dealing with any federal or state agency is always frustrating and all these privacy regulations have just made thing worse.
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@LadyDuck (152115)
• Switzerland
16 Dec 15
Well, do what we would do in Italy, call them and say here is my Mother, wait a few seconds and talk to them with a feeble and old voice. They have stupid rules, so I would not feel guilty doing this. I did with the telephone company for my Mom and it worked.
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@BelleStarr (37638)
• United States
16 Dec 15
I really considered doing that lol but I was just so upset that they were being so thick headed and unyielding.
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@Morleyhunt (19720)
• Canada
16 Dec 15
I can add amen to your discussion. My mother passed away just over two weeks ago. The morass of paperwork we must navigate to accomplish anything has me tearing my hair out.
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@BelleStarr (37638)
• United States
16 Dec 15
Yes making someone your executor is not something they will thank you for. I did all the stuff for my father and father in law too, I am tired of paper work.
@Juliaacv (29613)
• Canada
16 Dec 15
Its sad that they make us jump thru hoops like that when we are looking after someone that cannot do it themselves.
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@BelleStarr (37638)
• United States
16 Dec 15
That what I told the woman, you are messing with my mom it I am doing this to make sure she can continue to get cared for. sigh!!
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@marlina (72715)
• Canada
16 Dec 15
Bureaucracy can drive someone nuts. Can't they do things the modern way?
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@BelleStarr (37638)
• United States
16 Dec 15
Wouldn't it just be easier to be able to log in and change an address but no, this has to be complicated.
@simone10 (21664)
• Louisville, Kentucky
17 Dec 15
It's such a farce, isn't it? All of these privacy concerns and some places take it to the extreme.
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