Ever notice how ungrateful they are?
By bonnie
@bunnybon7 (50973)
Holiday, Florida
December 22, 2015 2:51pm CST
Your kids these days I mean. If you have them. I had 5. One I did so much for and was told by him 2 years ago, he would like to kill me. So, I don't speak to him any more
One acts like she cares sometimes but is kind of ignoring me most times. Including now. One is getting a divorce in Ohio and I guess he is just to wrapped up with things. And as you know, one here is practically selling the house from under me 
after promising me he would always be there till I die. One in Florida is so attached to her bf that she is that far away now, but calls me a lot concerned.
My friend is spending christmas with an elderly lady ,90 yrs. because the adult kids are going on a cruise. she doesn't like it but she needs the money.
When I was growing up, my mom and her siblings always made sure grandma had a nice one because they said she might not be here the next one. I worked for a lady once that said she was glad for no kids, cause she had lots of money to spend on what she wanted
still her niece and I made sure she had a good one.
I know we can't be their whole life but do they not know that we spent most of ours worrying over and working for them? we changed their diapers, clothes, made sure they had food, and considered them in every move we made.walked the floor with them and waited on them when they were sick. This is what we get for that. as we age we think about this and I have people say we shouldn't expect pay back. but I am sorry, I expect some more care from 5 kids!! 
One acts like she cares sometimes but is kind of ignoring me most times. Including now. One is getting a divorce in Ohio and I guess he is just to wrapped up with things. And as you know, one here is practically selling the house from under me after promising me he would always be there till I die. One in Florida is so attached to her bf that she is that far away now, but calls me a lot concerned.
My friend is spending christmas with an elderly lady ,90 yrs. because the adult kids are going on a cruise. she doesn't like it but she needs the money.
When I was growing up, my mom and her siblings always made sure grandma had a nice one because they said she might not be here the next one. I worked for a lady once that said she was glad for no kids, cause she had lots of money to spend on what she wanted still her niece and I made sure she had a good one.
I know we can't be their whole life but do they not know that we spent most of ours worrying over and working for them? we changed their diapers, clothes, made sure they had food, and considered them in every move we made.walked the floor with them and waited on them when they were sick. This is what we get for that. as we age we think about this and I have people say we shouldn't expect pay back. but I am sorry, I expect some more care from 5 kids!! 22 people like this
29 responses
@LovingMyBabies (85127)
• Valdosta, Georgia
22 Dec 15
I'm sorry that your children treat you like that. I could never be that way towards my mother. She knows how much I love her and even though I don't live near her I call her at least twice a week to make sure she is doing okay. I know my children will hurt me in the future and I am not looking forward to that part of motherhood but I know most children do hurt their parents at some point-intentional or not.
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
27 Dec 15
one thing i can say, if you ever get a lot of money when they are grown, don't give any to them unless it is emergency. i spent all my inharited money on them
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
1 Jan 16
@paigea yes I often live from paycheck to check each month even now when I am needing to save. and my hubby left me with an inheritance that I should have saved but did not. I gave to them so much it is no longer there
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@paigea (35774)
• Canada
1 Jan 16
@bunnybon7 I am so sorry that they have let you spend your money on them and are not caring about you now.
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@celticeagle (159710)
• Boise, Idaho
22 Dec 15
I am so sorry that your kids treat you so badly. I think sometimes we do so much for our kids we don't make them independent and so when they get out on their own they still expect our help. When we don't do for them anymore, or not what they want, then they get mad. All we can do is put up appropriate boundaries and make them deal with their own situations in many cases. It's hard sometimes not to want to be their friends and not a parent but we have to stand our ground and be the adult and make them be adults too. Life ain't easy and parenting isn't either.
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@celticeagle (159710)
• Boise, Idaho
27 Dec 15
@bunnybon7 ...Especially when the kids have psychological issues.
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
27 Dec 15
yep. parenting just makes it all harder and wears some of us down so bad we can't function
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@GardenGerty (157722)
• United States
23 Dec 15
My sister has two. . . both work so many hours it is ridiculous. One has a 'girlfriend' who hates my sister, so her daughter has to wait until said girlfriend is at work to visit. The other got mad at me for helping her move to her own senior apartment. . . after having her sister with me for a year, quitting work to take care of her, etc. but that daughter cannot even have her to visit. . . "no room". My daughter, son in law and grandkids were great helping me out last week. My son and his wife, especially his wife, would help me out if I asked. You need to pick out a place that is good and happy for you and they can just come to you.
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
25 Dec 15
@GardenGerty yes I realize that. if I can ever get back to being some where like that.
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@DeborahDiane (40070)
• Laguna Woods, California
24 Dec 15
I agree. She needs to find a place where she is comfortable and happy and move there.
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@youless (112146)
• Guangzhou, China
23 Dec 15
I am so sorry to hear that. As a mother who has a 11 years old child, I can understand your feelings. Although we don't expect more, but sometimes a kiss from your child can be so meaningful. When we grow old, of course we hope that our kids can sometimes take care of us because we may not work at that time. We have to depend on our savings. Perhaps your children will change when they are mature. Right now I have a good relationship with my child and I always say we are best friends. I hope we will have less generation gap and hopefully our relationship will be so good when time goes by.
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@youless (112146)
• Guangzhou, China
2 Jan 16
@bunnybon7 I can understand your feelings. Perhaps they will understand you too when they become parents?
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
3 Jan 16
@youless all but one are already parents. but that does not change anything with my oldest daughter.
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
2 Jan 16
I don't really expect their complete care. but they have zapped my savings, so I expect a bit of help with things I could hire someone to do if they had not broke me
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
27 Dec 15
@boiboing you certainly did. wish i had not went along with all the girls i knew back then
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@boiboing (13153)
• Northampton, England
27 Dec 15
@bunnybon7 It's like a giant conspiracy by the miserable parents who try to lure all their friends into the same 'club'. Of course, not all - some kids are not rotating-headed monsters.
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
27 Dec 15
@boiboing true. i have one i am most times glad i had
@fishtiger58 (29823)
• Momence, Illinois
23 Dec 15
My oldest son still lives here with me and my husband and we don't mind at all he brings us joy and never gives us problems, he is 24. My youngest is 23 and away at school but he calls often. I'm so sorry about all the problems you are having.
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
1 Jan 16
sounds like 2 out of 2. that's great
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@winterose (39887)
• Canada
2 Jan 16
I hear just about every parent I know say that. The kids know where to find you when they need something from you.
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
3 Jan 16
yep. couldn't have said it better myself. they sure do
@katsmeow1213 (28717)
• United States
23 Dec 15
Hmm, I wonder why they act in such a way?
I have no relationship with my mother, but she brought that on herself by being too selfish and only caring about what is in it for her. I'm sure she thinks I'm horrible for wanting nothing to do with her, because she's too selfish to see what she did to drive her children away from her.
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
27 Dec 15
my mother was the same. it is the reason i have been so loving to my own kids. to bad a couple of them turned out just like her and is not caring about anyone but themselves.
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@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
23 Dec 15
This is sad but so very true - especially in the times of today. Life and times have changed when we were kids and now when the kids have their kids. Sadly, they call it generation gap and there is nothing much can be done about it. The discussion does bring to me a memory of a good song - "Every Generation blames the one before" - Mike and Mechanics.
It is often too late when the grown up kids realize their mistakes. I hope yours do before it is that late.
On the other side, I know that you have been a caring mom just because you have had gone through more hardships and the pains you taken to bring up your kids. Goodness will prevail - that is my belief. Maybe a matter of time.
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
28 Dec 15
well i sure hope its before i die. lol
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@BACONSTRIPSXXX (14351)
• West Haven, Connecticut
27 Dec 15
Im sorry to hear that and the depreciation must hurt, I have three children under the age of 5 and I would be devastated if in the future they treated me such a way... try to stay positive
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
27 Dec 15
thanks friend . not easy i tell you. lol
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@poehere (15126)
• French Polynesia
22 Dec 15
I can see you point in all of this. it is hard when your children are not around. I only have 1 daughter and even if she isn't here with me she is always calling and we have such great times talking on the phone. I do miss her a lot and could go and see her more often. But there is so much happening right now I just can't get away. I wish I could.
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
1 Jan 16
sounds like the relationship I have with my youngest daughter. most times she cares more then the others
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@poehere (15126)
• French Polynesia
2 Jan 16
@bunnybon7 it will work out. The holidays are always the hardest to get through alone.
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@DeborahDiane (40070)
• Laguna Woods, California
24 Dec 15
I'm sorry you are going through this with your children. It is one reason I like living in a retirement community. People who don't even have children always have people they can do things with.
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
1 Jan 16
I wish I could find one to move right in but I have to be on a waiting list here.
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@fedupjane (191)
• United States
23 Dec 15
Holidays are always hard for a lot of people. Everyone is wrapped up in their own little world, whatever it entails.
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
1 Jan 16
yes and forgetting the people that made that holiday special so many years.
@noblewriter (55)
• India
23 Dec 15
I am sorry to learn about how your children had started ignoring you. I can imagine how horrible you will be feeling when your children are least concerned about you. The only piece of advise I would like to offer is to be self sufficient and first attain financial freedom. When our expectations fail they give us pain and less the expectations more happy you will be. It is time not to ponder on the past, but to plan and build a secure future.
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
1 Jan 16
I am always trying that but since I was widowed, lost my job, became disabled, and lost my house, that is a lot even for a young person to fix
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
28 Dec 15
perhaps if i had been lucky enough to have a great hubby the first time. but alas i didn't. you are so lucky. thanks friend for the thoughts
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@simone10 (54189)
• Louisville, Kentucky
24 Dec 15
I couldn't agree with you more. My son is a youth minister and he is so wrapped up in the kids and their problems that he doesn't have time for his family or me anymore. We used to talk on the phone once a week but now, I can't remember the last time we talked on the phone. I did see him a few days ago but he never had that phone out of his hands. My daughter is another story completely.
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
1 Jan 16
sorry my comment is so late. as I told you, I am so busy with a hundred things right now
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@simone10 (54189)
• Louisville, Kentucky
6 Jan 16
@bunnybon7 I hope you are feeling better.
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
1 Jan 16
you are probably right, jenny. I often think I spoiled them as many others did theirs.
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
1 Jan 16
how sweet. so true and that is what it is all about. isn't it. you are a good person valerie
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