To share or not to share

@dawnald (84155)
Shingle Springs, California
January 4, 2016 11:29pm CST
You write a personal post on Facebook. Depending on your privacy settings, either only certain people can see it or everybody can. Somebody goes and shares it. You ask people to please not share your personal posts. Somebody goes on and asks what the big deal is. If you don't want it shared why post it? My thoughts: if you post an internet meme, a joke, a political post, something that you did not create yourself, but are just passing on, that's when sharing is appropriate. I don't think it's appropriate to share something personal, including photos, with just anybody without asking if it's OK first. What do you think?
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@PhredWreck (6079)
5 Jan 16
I think sharing without asking is rather rude, but I also think facebook has that share button, so it's gonna happen. Sucks, but there it is...if you want things kept private, social media is not the place to put them.
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@vandana7 (58858)
• India
5 Jan 16
As if it remains private even in private.
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5 Jan 16
@vandana7 Scar doesn't tell anyone else anything I tell him...
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@vandana7 (58858)
• India
5 Jan 16
• United States
5 Jan 16
I think Murphy's Law is alive and well. If we post anything anywhere online, we have to expect that it will show up where we did not originally post it. Therefore, only post what you would not mind showing up all over.
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@thesids (22448)
• Bhubaneswar, India
5 Jan 16
Exactly. This is the reason that I do not post anything that I want private, anywhere on Internet. Nothing is private on Internet. They all make use of it.
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• United States
5 Jan 16
@thesids This includes in emails. That one is the hardest to remember. It feels like a private discussion, but isn't.
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@dawnald (84155)
• Shingle Springs, California
6 Jan 16
That would be the realist's take on it. Agreed, if there's a share button, stuff is going to get shared, but I still wouldn't do it without asking if it's a personal post, and especially if it's somebody I don't know well.
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• Hidden Valley Lake, California
5 Jan 16
I'm really old school. If you don't want people sharing certain things then don't post it in the first place on the Internet.
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@dawnald (84155)
• Shingle Springs, California
6 Jan 16
I'm old school the other way. If you want to share somebody's stuff, ask first.
• United States
5 Jan 16
I have a cousin and aunt who will do this with anything that is personal of mine. Pictures, sometimes rants I've made. I don't bother trying to ask them not to post or share it. If I don't want it shared I make it a post that they can not see.
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@dawnald (84155)
• Shingle Springs, California
6 Jan 16
That's just to much work. :D
@celticeagle (115494)
• Boise, Idaho
5 Jan 16
I agree. Some people don't care about rules or your person choice.
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• United States
15 Jan 16
I agree that it is not alright to share personal things about someone else without asking them first. I also think that goes double when the person has not posted those things themself on social media first. For instance, I do not share pictures of my children, and I certainly do not want others doing it, but I found out that someone did just this. Then, I was basically told that I needed to grow up and join the "real world" when I said that I didn't want this to happen again, because "everybody is doing it these days".
@dawnald (84155)
• Shingle Springs, California
15 Jan 16
And that's when you delete and block the person. Ugh.
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• United States
15 Jan 16
@dawnald The problem with that is that I am not even ON Facebook. I only found out that it happened, because someone mentioned to me that the party looked like fun and my daughter looked like she was having a great time.
@dawnald (84155)
• Shingle Springs, California
15 Jan 16
@purplealabaster Aha, and these were probably not pictures you shared with her, but her own or from someone else?
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@vandana7 (58858)
• India
5 Jan 16
I think with social media, notwithstanding the privacy settings, chances of such things being shared wittingly or unwittingly are rather high. Therefore, I would be careful about what I want to say. Moreover, sometimes, today's friends are tomorrow's enemies. Even if what you say is right, most people are not going to follow right Dawny. Hugs..
@dawnald (84155)
• Shingle Springs, California
6 Jan 16
Yup, although what I didn't mention is that this was in a Facebook group, and part of the group's rules is not to share other people's stuff.
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@vandana7 (58858)
• India
6 Jan 16
@dawnald ..if it is not allowed to be shared, then facebook should prevent sharing within the software, right?
@dawnald (84155)
• Shingle Springs, California
7 Jan 16
@vandana7 I don't think Facebook is smart enough that you can set up a group that doesn't allow sharing, not sure.
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@hiru84 (962)
• Malaysia
5 Jan 16
If people don't like to say something to another why they post them on Facebook ? They must keep their personal secrets near them not Facebook.
@dawnald (84155)
• Shingle Springs, California
6 Jan 16
She didn't mind saying it to people, she just minded that somebody shared it to somebody else.
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@hiru84 (962)
• Malaysia
6 Jan 16
@dawnald Anyone never ask from owner and they share all thing. You know there are three buttons (like, comment and share) under the post. So every people in Facebook can share any news .
@dawnald (84155)
• Shingle Springs, California
6 Jan 16
@hiru84 Yes, they can, but should they?
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@thesids (22448)
• Bhubaneswar, India
5 Jan 16
I have to go with PhredWrek (sorry, I am not tagging him)... Social Media is not for personal stuff that you want to keep personal and private. I do post something that is personal, but only when I know, I can manage with it going public. For anything that I would want to remain private, it remains away from Internet. As for sharing - I normally do not share other's stuff - be it personal or professional. Only a very small number of videos or posts that have been shared thousands of times, and posted by some friends, I might share them, because I might want to view/go through them again at some later date. So, I use Fb, mostly for bookmarking reasons. Btw, I do not think, it is not that late and I can still wish you a Healthy and Happy 2016
@dawnald (84155)
• Shingle Springs, California
6 Jan 16
She didn't want to keep it private, she just didn't want it shared outside the group she posted it to.
@hereandthere (25942)
• Philippines
5 Jan 16
incidents like these always remind me of that picture that slipped out of mark zuckerberg and family gathered in the kitchen back in 2012 involving randi zuckerberg (his sister) vs callie schweitzer (vox media)
@dawnald (84155)
• Shingle Springs, California
6 Jan 16
celebrities are especially vulnerable....
@TheHorse (56645)
• Pleasant Hill, California
7 Jan 16
My strategy on a site like this is not to post anything so personal that I wouldn't mind it being shared. Once something is "on the internet" it's...on the internet.
@shshiju (9805)
• Cochin, India
6 Jan 16
But we can make restrictions in our friends , tagging or groups