Finally moved on - 100% forgiven and forgotten
By Wendy789
@Drosophila (16573)
Ireland
January 20, 2016 7:21am CST
Facebook tells me that my ex just got engaged!
I looked at the pictures of the happy couple I feel quite pleased.
They look good together.
I left him some 4 years ago after I found out he was having lots of fun elsewhere.
I was furious for a very very long time.
Now I feel genuinely pleased for him. He has finally grown up!
I hope our paths never crosses again. I have finally 100% forgiven and forgotten our past.
Such a great feeling!
Do you still talk to your ex?
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46 responses
@Drosophila (16573)
• Ireland
21 Jan 16
Aww that's good to hear! Thanks thanks! I don't think I'll forget him, he was my first "real" love and I guess in some capacity I'll always love him.
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@AbbyGreenhill (45496)
• United States
20 Jan 16
I didn't talk to my x when I was married to him LOL....no...no need to.
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@Drosophila (16573)
• Ireland
20 Jan 16
lol.. don't tell me you talk to him AFTER you were no longer married xD
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@AbbyGreenhill (45496)
• United States
20 Jan 16
@Drosophila Only once, about 19 years ago....that was enough.
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@Drosophila (16573)
• Ireland
21 Jan 16
That's true indeed! He's able to at least commit to her, I hope he'll be more responsible with her. He seemed to have grown up a bit in terms of attitude to life, but yes you're right, I could be wrong.
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@purplealabaster (22094)
• United States
20 Jan 16
Yes, I still talk with my ex. In fact, we are actually really good friends and help each other out all the time.
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
21 Jan 16
@purplealabaster - If you still talk to your ex then he is your present not 'ex'.
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@purplealabaster (22094)
• United States
21 Jan 16
@Drosophila Not really. I mean, there is a period of adjustment where you have to be extra careful of the other person's feelings, but that fades with time. Once that is over, it is just like any other relationship pretty much. I still love him and he still loves me, but we are not IN LOVE with each other.
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@Drosophila (16573)
• Ireland
21 Jan 16
That's great! I'm not friends with any of my exes. So am curious, was it difficult switching from romantic interactions to just friendly get togethers
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@TiarasOceanView (70035)
• United States
20 Jan 16
The only X I may consider speaking with would be my very first.
He also is married with lovely children for many years now.
We are not in contact but I consider he did not harm me (much) as the other assortment of Xs did. I am happy you have moved on.
I have moved on from all of them, happy and at peace now.
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@TiarasOceanView (70035)
• United States
21 Jan 16
@Drosophila It is good for your Wendy to do so..and you are great to do it. No point really in sulking around right? Too much fun living to be done. I hope you stay at peace.
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@Drosophila (16573)
• Ireland
21 Jan 16
@TiarasOceanView Thanks thanks! ya I did wonder at one point if I could forgive the guy ever.
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@Drosophila (16573)
• Ireland
21 Jan 16
Oh ya isn't it the most wonderful feeling ever! Letting go is great :)
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@jaboUK (64361)
• United Kingdom
21 Jan 16
@Drosophila No -no ex - I've kept the one I've got for 50 years
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@Drosophila (16573)
• Ireland
21 Jan 16
@jaboUK Wow! It's good to hear that in our "fast-paced" consumerism culture, something are build to last
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@Drosophila (16573)
• Ireland
21 Jan 16
Wow no ex! Result, I have two so not too bad
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
21 Jan 16
Seemingly, you are still obsessed with your ex else you would not have written a post about him. Let bygone be bygone. It is better to bury the past and move ahead. Remembering about past things could make you sad.
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
22 Jan 16
@Drosophila - Do you mean to say that you had wonderful time with your ex and you still cherish those moments?
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@Drosophila (16573)
• Ireland
21 Jan 16
Lol. that was it, it does not make me sad. That was the point of the post. Don't talk about it doesn't mean forgiven or forgotten.
When you truly have done so, then you can talk about it with no negative feelings.
And we shouldn't forget the all our past, because it's what made us who we are. So good to remember it to avoid future mistakes. I prefer to forget only the bad history and remember the good times.
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@Drosophila (16573)
• Ireland
22 Jan 16
@dpk262006 not exactly, I have good memories of that time altogether... Not specifically about him, but just that period of life, think my brain did the filtering
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@pgiblett (6524)
• Canada
21 Jan 16
@Drosophila I didn't leave the country because of them I left 20 years later. I just wanted to ensure it was in there as a reason.
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@Drosophila (16573)
• Ireland
21 Jan 16
@pgiblett awww, there was I thinking you were chased out of the country by the love sick women xD
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@Drosophila (16573)
• Ireland
21 Jan 16
I left my country to get away from my ex too :D
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@Drosophila (16573)
• Ireland
21 Jan 16
Thanks thanks!! I hope he has, he was able to be responsible and show commitment to a girl that's already a big step. :)
But yes you're right, after all these years I no longer harbour any negative feelings towards him. It felt great.
@Drosophila (16573)
• Ireland
22 Jan 16
Thanks thanks! Because we were friends on Facebook before we broke up. It feels odd now to "unfriend" him. My Facebook is full of "friends" I have no intentions of getting in involved with further, as I don't ever post anything personal there.
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@Drosophila (16573)
• Ireland
25 Jan 16
@just4him yep, Facebook for me is just something I add people to and forget. I don't spend time on it or anything.
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@just4him (306426)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
24 Jan 16
@Drosophila That's good then.
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@Mike197602 (15487)
• United Kingdom
20 Jan 16
No, I don't talk to any of my exes but I'd say if I saw any of them I would as I'm not on unfriendly terms with any of them
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you are not unfriendly it is known
@MrEwriter (20)
• United States
21 Jan 16
I read this and genuinely felt good for you. I ironically just wrote about relationships and when its time to leave and here I am now because my feed put you on top on the trending.
I am glad I found it, it's nice to see people actually be adults and feel happy for someone else, even if they hurt them for a long time. Good luck, Wendy, but something tells me you won't need it where you are going. :)
@dodo19 (47082)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
21 Jan 16
@Drosophila there are times when we all feel like that. Sometimes we need time.
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@Drosophila (16573)
• Ireland
21 Jan 16
thanks thanks! ya me too, although at one point, it felt like I never would
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@kevin1877uk (36988)
•
21 Jan 16
I still get on ok ex-wife but never would go back, mistake in the first place. We talk but mainly it's for the kids other wise I wouldn't think so.
My last partner we may email once a week but it's seeing how we are and anything more. It would be nice if things changed however I can't see that happening. I think the door is closed there, I'm move on and have a new outlook into the future.
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@Drosophila (16573)
• Ireland
21 Jan 16
That is good to hear, ya moving on is very important.
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@srisahara (4508)
• Indonesia
21 Jan 16
Some months ago he has called me after we met in facebook. We never met about 13 years. Until now, he still single, he said that he difficult to find a girl that make him love again.
Now, He never call me again and I never call him, too. Everything was changed. I do not want to remind what happen in the past. I prefer look at the future. I think everything is over.
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@srisahara (4508)
• Indonesia
23 Jan 16
@Drosophila Yes, agree with you...Have a great day!
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@Drosophila (16573)
• Ireland
21 Jan 16
Aww that's such a touching story..you're right, our lives lie with present and future. Not in the past. RIP ghosts of the exes :D
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@Drosophila (16573)
• Ireland
21 Jan 16
Happy you have met the person you enjoy being with. So many people out there, yet so few people we could spend all the time with. So good to hear you've found one.
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@WorDazza (15833)
• Manchester, England
21 Jan 16
I have a theory about men who 'have lots of fun elsewhere', to coin a phrase!!!
They've done it once, they'll most likely do it again! You're probably best off out of it!! Glad to see it's not causing you any pain these days.
I'm not in contact with any ex girlfriends. Mainly due to the fact they are from Newcastle and London and I've lived in Manchester for the past 25 years. I'm pretty sure things would be civil with all of them though!
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@Drosophila (16573)
• Ireland
21 Jan 16
Oh ya! he was always a "fun-loving", and charismatic guy, he likes women and have lots of women friends. He's Mrs has her work cut out for her alright. Ya am sure after 25 years.. they sure wouldn't bear a grudge. :D
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@Drosophila (16573)
• Ireland
22 Jan 16
@WorDazza HAHAHA ofc! ya I get you male-female friendships do happen. One of my bestie is a guy, and he's more like a brother to me than anything else.
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@WorDazza (15833)
• Manchester, England
22 Jan 16
@Drosophila Not that they'd have anything to bear a grudge over!!! This is me your talking about. I'm perfect don't ya know??
I have had lots of women friends over the years and one of my closest friends is a woman (who rather ironically now lives in Sweden!!!). My wife really likes her and me and her husband are good friends too! Doesn't have to lead to anything else!!
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@Drosophila (16573)
• Ireland
21 Jan 16
Agreed. I don't think about my past constantly, I don't want to completely forget it either, as long as it does not interfere with the future plans. Everything and everyone has their place in my heart. :)
In fact, I prefer to forget all about the badness and just take the good stuff with me. :D
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@akkiin (6)
• New Delhi, India
22 Jan 16
@Drosophila completely agree with you just keep the good vibes and forget the negativity for your better future ...
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