I Still Miss Her!~Part One

@celticeagle (159058)
Boise, Idaho
January 21, 2016 8:42pm CST
Those who were members of this site back in the early days may remember in 2009-10 when I posted a blog about the demise of a freindship after being accused of stealing from her. I've been thinking about her lately. This time of year I am rather nostalgic. I had met T. back in the mid to late 70's through a mutual girlfriend. I tend to navigate toward the more odd types. Something about escentrics that I always found interesting. Those that don't travel the popular track in life. She was a bit odd but had a great sense of humor and we had a lot in common about the way we looked at life. After a few years she moved away and we kept up through snail mail, telephone and emails. We had a lot of great memories and I enjoyed her friendship very much. Infact, she was my second to best friend. In 2009 she moved back to a little farming community nearby with her daughter who had Lime disease. I went over to stay with her for a while in the spring. We enjoyed watching marathons of I Love Lucy and The Golden Girls. We laughed and joked and shared the stress and strain of life. She was managing a movie rental place and I would go down and visit her and take her lunch. I bought a piece of equipment for her daughter's aging computer so she and her friend could communicate and play games on it. I cleaned her house while she was gone and quite often made dinner. Something happened in my life then that really sent me reeling. I freaked emotionally and really wanted to go home to my family. I packed some clothes, made my excuses to T. and went home planning to get the rest of my things later which I did. We continued to email and talked on the phone every few days. Image courtesy of Flickr.com
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11 responses
• Midland, Michigan
22 Jan 16
That would be awful to be accused of stealing after doing so much for her for so many years, but even if you hadn't done all of that, it's amazing that she (?:) would even consider the possibility after being friends with you for so long. I'm ready for more of the story, having already forgotten that this is only part one. I hope I don't miss it.
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@celticeagle (159058)
• Boise, Idaho
22 Jan 16
The other two parts are here for the reading.
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• Canada
22 Jan 16
Yes, it must hurt to be wrongly accused by someone you love.
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@celticeagle (159058)
• Boise, Idaho
22 Jan 16
@Sheilamarie78 ...It sure does. And there were so many other times I stayed with her and never a problem.
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• Canada
22 Jan 16
It's sad to lose a friend. I hope you are able to mend the rift.
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@celticeagle (159058)
• Boise, Idaho
22 Jan 16
No way to.
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@Tampa_girl7 (48958)
• United States
23 Jan 16
It is terrible to lose a friend.
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@celticeagle (159058)
• Boise, Idaho
25 Jan 16
Yes, it certainly is. I am very particular about friends. I feel there are acquaintances and there are friends. True friends are few and far between.
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@Jessicalynnt (50525)
• Centralia, Missouri
23 Jan 16
it's wild how memories will really hit us randomly
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@celticeagle (159058)
• Boise, Idaho
25 Jan 16
Yeah. It is. We had such fun together that I see women on TV enjoying one anothers company and I am saddened.
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@celticeagle (159058)
• Boise, Idaho
25 Jan 16
@Jessicalynnt ...Yeah, I have my #1 BFF and that is it. I feel the same way.
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• Centralia, Missouri
25 Jan 16
@celticeagle yep, and I dont know about you, but haven't had a friend nearly as close since...can't seem to find or be able to trust what I do find. that level of betrayal kinds breaks a person
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@sallypup (57888)
• Centralia, Washington
22 Jan 16
Early onset of dementia is all I can think of. Dementia is awful. The person is blanketed by the disease.
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@celticeagle (159058)
• Boise, Idaho
22 Jan 16
I wonder about her. She used to tell me these personal things that had happened to her. Then when I asked her about some aspect of it later she denied it every happening or telling me it. Weird. That is why I keep thinking of her and wondering. So many questions.
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@PainsOnSlate (21854)
• Canada
23 Jan 16
I ' m heading to the next chapter, fascinating so far...
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@celticeagle (159058)
• Boise, Idaho
25 Jan 16
It is a rather fascinating story isn't it? I hope she appreciates and feels good about what she has done.
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• United States
22 Jan 16
It sounds like the two of you had a great friendship and that you were quite helpful to her. Sad when a friendship ends.
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@celticeagle (159058)
• Boise, Idaho
22 Jan 16
I am too sensitive. I have too many questions. WIsh I had some answers.
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• United States
22 Jan 16
@celticeagle you may never find the answers. I turn it all over to a higher power.
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@celticeagle (159058)
• Boise, Idaho
25 Jan 16
@ElusiveButterfly ...It still baffles me and I am such a curious person that I am going to be haunted by this for years to come.
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@jstory07 (134465)
• Roseburg, Oregon
24 Jan 16
That was sad that you had to leave. Sounds like you had a good friendship.
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@celticeagle (159058)
• Boise, Idaho
25 Jan 16
I thought we did. I don't steal and to accused, and by a good friend, is both insulting and hurtful.
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@LeaPea2417 (36442)
• Toccoa, Georgia
12 Mar 16
That is sad you lost this friend. I hope you both can repair the relationship.
@Auntylou (4264)
• Oxford, England
27 Jan 16
Sounds as if you had a close supportive friendship
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@celticeagle (159058)
• Boise, Idaho
27 Jan 16
Yes, and life had let us both down at different times and we were there for each other and I thought we both respected one another and knew how we each felt. I was sadly mistaken.
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• India
14 Mar 16
sorry a bit late to response but it appears me so good love but is indeed heartbreaking when you are accused of stealing from the one you loved most,i think it might be some confusion,did you short out later
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@celticeagle (159058)
• Boise, Idaho
14 Mar 16
No! That is part of the irritation I still feel. She called me later and wanted to try to be friends again. Yet she kept making comments like I might have stolen from her. I asked her why was she even trying if she still felt I may have stolen from her? She said she missed me and our friendship. I didn't go for it. Why be friends with someone if you can't trust them. She is a loon.
@celticeagle (159058)
• Boise, Idaho
14 Mar 16
@abhinalstrikr ....I think I could have forgiven her accusing me but, I know our friendship would never be the same and why bother? If I can't respect her and know she does me and KNOWS that I would never steal from her then I don't need or want her as a friend.
• India
14 Mar 16
@celticeagle rstand i believe a true nature of man is to forgive and move away in life,not everybody but at least the one you loved most,it might be something wrong in understanding,i also feel you must be most hurt,but ask in silence is she really lovable,and if not your decision,running away will have no solution of the blame,make it clear to her
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