JEALOUS = LOVE ???

@anggelia (146)
Indonesia
January 22, 2016 10:36am CST
Have you ever been jealous to your partner? Sometimes I am confused, if jealousy is something good or bad in a relationship? Many people say that jealousy is arises because of love. Is that true? In my opinion, jealous is a very tired feeling for the subject and the object too. The famous sentence says that " love doesn't jealous". I think if we love someone,so we must trust that person and If we have already trusted by our partner, we must appreciate it. It means trust to each other, so there is no jealousy anymore.
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@boiboing (13153)
• Northampton, England
22 Jan 16
Jealousy is not a part of love. It's a part of a desire to control another person.
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@valkerion (1827)
• United Kingdom
22 Jan 16
Amen!
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• Philippines
23 Jan 16
agree with this one @boiboing
@anggelia (146)
• Indonesia
23 Jan 16
@Boingboing..I agree. The jealousy come because of our selfishness..
@srisahara (4508)
• Indonesia
23 Jan 16
I think it is true that jealousy is arises because of love. Personally, I do not agree with the sentence says that "love doesn't jealous." I trust my partner, but when he try to break my trust, I am definitely jealous. Don't you feel jealous when your partner try to lie you when you are not at her/his side?
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@anggelia (146)
• Indonesia
23 Jan 16
@Srisahara..Of course I'll be upset and jealous if I 'm lied, but we must really check it first, true or not. But if we love someone, we won't hurt my loved persons feeling and what we want to do, we must appreciate my loved persons feeling. Anyway I really appreciate your opinion.:)
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@srisahara (4508)
• Indonesia
23 Jan 16
@anggelia I think jealous is not a way to hurt feeling of our loved person. It just to show that we love her/him. Okay, it is a personally matter. It depends on how we view it. Thank you...
@srisahara (4508)
• Indonesia
23 Jan 16
@anggelia I think jealous is not a way to hurt feeling of our loved person. It just to show that we love her/him. Okay, it is a personally matter. It depends on how we view it. Thank you...
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@scheng1 (24650)
• Singapore
23 Jan 16
Jealousy has more to do with possession than love. We can have things that belong to us, but not humans. Everyone is a free person, and we can choose to love or not to love anyone at any one time.
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@anggelia (146)
• Indonesia
23 Jan 16
@scheng1..That's correct but if I could to add that if you've already choose someone to love, even if already in serious relationship, you must commit to appreciate your loved persons feeling.
@BigMoney25 (1286)
• Philippines
23 Jan 16
We sometimes get jealous simply because we care about our partner. But as always, anything that is too much is bad. Sometimes too much jealousy may mean something else, it may mean that the person too jealous is trying to control the partner too much and that can be a bad thing. But it is normal to be jealous when you love someone, but too much of it is something else. @anggelia
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@anggelia (146)
• Indonesia
23 Jan 16
@BigMoney...Good comment and I just think that jealousy is the seasoning in a relationship. If appropriate dose, will be a delicious but if too much will be a problem..:D
• Thiruvananthapuram, India
23 Jan 16
I dont think it is a part of love. jealousness i sa psychological thing which has no connecton with love!
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@anggelia (146)
• Indonesia
23 Jan 16
@rahul pillai. I think so :)
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• Philippines
23 Jan 16
I think that jealousy is prevalent in any relationship even though you have strong trust with each other. It is an emotion to show that we care about the other person. Wouldn't you feel jealous if your partner spends more time with his/her friend of the opposite gender? I would be jealous in circumstances like that even though I trust her. The important thing is how we accept and handle jealousy. Other people will get mad at their partners, other people won't do anything and just keep the pain for themselves, etc. It is our action toward handling jealousy is what can make being jealous good or bad in a relationship. Kudos~!
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@anggelia (146)
• Indonesia
23 Jan 16
@GopherDanny..I like your comment so much. That's right and I agree. The conclusion is appreciate your partners feeling and understand to each other.
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@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
22 Jan 16
if you respect and trust yo ur mate why should you be jealous after all we all ha ve fri ends even if we ar emarried b ut tey are just f riends and that is all. i
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@anggelia (146)
• Indonesia
23 Jan 16
@Hatley..I think people have thier own world too like friends which make them happy, even if they're married. But everythings must be undercontrol so there is no jealousy
@MALUSE (69413)
• Germany
22 Jan 16
I agree, but unfortunately many people see things differently.
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@anggelia (146)
• Indonesia
23 Jan 16
@MALUSE, that's right, many people consider that jealousy because of love.