I want it and I want it Right Now.

Texas Capital
Centralia, Missouri
February 2, 2016 10:34am CST
I feel like a toddler sometimes. I want hubby to find a job, and us to get settled again here, or move or whatever, and I want it done right now. I don't want to wait. I don't want the uncertainty. I don't want to not know. I want a nice tidy resolution waiting for me on my desk in an hour..... Yeah, life doesn't work like that. Doesn't change how much I want this all settled. I know, eventually I will look back and it will be a slight bump on a long road of life, but right now this bump feels like an ever growing mountain, one that has no roads, no solutions, no shelter. All I can do is distract myself with minutia, writing, reading, watching TV (it's free for us, as is net, so we don't have to give those things up atm). What about you? What are your coping techniques?
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@sofssu (14844)
2 Feb 16
I guess you are doing well. I generally believe that the best is yet to come and quit worrying. It kinda attracts the best .
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• Centralia, Missouri
2 Feb 16
I am having issues not worrying. Like if he doesnt get the unemployment or find a job, and we lose the house, then what
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@sofssu (14844)
3 Feb 16
@Jessicalynnt Life still goes on .. we find different ways of dealing with life as it presents itself. Worrying doesn't change anything about the future. Maybe it will not be as bad as you imagine it to be. Cheers.
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@dianadee (1784)
• South Africa
3 Feb 16
@Jessicalynnt It is easy to give some great advice when one has food on the table,electricity and other bills have been paid. We have also had some ups and some lows and the thing that kept us from getting into that destructive negativity was faith that we would bob up above the water again. Prayer has been a great comfort too! Try and encourage one another to remain positive.
• United States
2 Feb 16
Being retired we have no worries like what you are going thru. I just sent you a PM.
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• Centralia, Missouri
2 Feb 16
I almost wish we owned a camper or something, if we lost the house there are plenty of camper parks to live in cheap.
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@sugartoes (43232)
• Greencastle, Indiana
2 Feb 16
@Jessicalynnt NOPE that's what we thought too it's not CHEAP been there done that too we lived in 2 of them & they BOTH were BAD ideas & 500 a month to live in. it went from crazy to bad to WORSE
@marlina (79655)
• Canada
2 Feb 16
We are retired so we don't have to worry about finding another job. I am keeping my fingers crossed for you and your husband that there is a solution right around the corner.
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• Centralia, Missouri
2 Feb 16
thanks! we have a house to pay for and such, I was trying to get the buffer up and pay things off so we could survive something like this, but that would have taken another couple of years
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@sugartoes (43232)
• Greencastle, Indiana
2 Feb 16
@marlina if you have a solution for her I want one too I done went GREY headed trying to get a solution on trying to fix our life problems. I left a reply above but I can write a topic on our life as it is now problems
@LadyDuck (182458)
• Switzerland
2 Feb 16
I can understand that you would like to see all your problems settled and immediately. I keep my fingers crossed for your husband.
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• Centralia, Missouri
2 Feb 16
I know it is not reasonable to expect that,but I still want it.
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@jstory07 (71221)
• Roseburg, Oregon
2 Feb 16
I hope your husband will find a job really soon.
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• Centralia, Missouri
2 Feb 16
I do too, so far, still no more interviews, none in almost a month now, but I know he is applying like crazy
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@Marcyaz (35591)
• United States
2 Feb 16
Unfortunately you can't always have what you want when you want it but I have always thought happen for a reason. Such as your husband may find a job that was much better than what he had before and if you move it may be to a better place.
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• Centralia, Missouri
2 Feb 16
I really hope that is the case.
@Morleyhunt (21445)
• Canada
2 Feb 16
I look for solutions. Employment isn't an issue, finding time to do what needs doing is problematic.
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• Centralia, Missouri
2 Feb 16
right now applying isn't an issue, even getting an interview seems to be
@boiboing (12881)
• Northampton, England
2 Feb 16
Let me guess "Grant me patience......NOW!"
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• Centralia, Missouri
2 Feb 16
maybe? lol
@celticeagle (120480)
• Boise, Idaho
2 Feb 16
Yep. Keep busy and don't let negative thoughts seep into everyday things. Good luck. I hope you don't have long to wait.
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• Centralia, Missouri
2 Feb 16
a month almost now, sigh, ah well, I will just keep on throwing it into writing and when I cant concentrate, watch tv or play a game
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@celticeagle (120480)
• Boise, Idaho
3 Feb 16
@Jessicalynnt ...Job search is like a job. Has to be done at least 8 hours a day to really make it successful.
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• Centralia, Missouri
3 Feb 16
@celticeagle not enough stuff around here, I run out of places to look in a couple of hours in a day sadly
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@GardenGerty (104119)
• United States
2 Feb 16
Sleep and the computer are my distractions, but sometimes I get impatient and yell.
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• Centralia, Missouri
2 Feb 16
I wonder if I yell at his email, if interview offers might appear, lol!
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@GardenGerty (104119)
• United States
3 Feb 16
@Jessicalynnt What is his field, I forgot? Has he considered changing? Generally what kind of income does he need? If you continue to write about it, someone may have a light bulb go off.
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• Centralia, Missouri
3 Feb 16
@GardenGerty EMS, and to meet where he was before 13+ an hour. in HS he did website work, but that was so long ago, I dont know if he could get a job in it or not
@alberello75 (19313)
• Genova, Italy
2 Feb 16
Dear friend @Jessicalynnt Even my situation, it is not good! I find myself mentally disabled (75%), without work and without opportunity! What then my future? Perhaps as a homeless? It is hoping for something better ... P. S.: You, sometimes, have by chance the depression?
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• Centralia, Missouri
2 Feb 16
yes I do, most of the time I manage fine, but sometimes I can't to well.
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@alberello75 (19313)
• Genova, Italy
3 Feb 16
@Jessicalynnt I am very sorry, because depression is terrible!
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• Centralia, Missouri
3 Feb 16
@alberello75 It is, and frustrating, because you cant just want to feel better and it work
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@patgalca (14649)
• Orangeville, Ontario
2 Feb 16
Trying to sell stuff... and shutting the home phone down. My daughter is working and doesn't do anything around the house. I think she should be contributing financially - at least pay for her cell phone. But she has her student loans to pay for and is trying to pay off her VISA. Hopefully she'll start giving us money soon... or move out.
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• Centralia, Missouri
2 Feb 16
well I guess if she wants her phone and you stop paying for it she will get it figured out
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@patgalca (14649)
• Orangeville, Ontario
3 Feb 16
@Jessicalynnt She paid for it one summer when she didn't have the student loans. She will get back to it soon. I think she and her boyfriend are looking at houses so once she moves out she's on her own.
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@just4him (128669)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
2 Feb 16
Those bumps in the road are teaching moments. Teaching us patience and helping us focus our attention in other directions we might not have looked at before. I know how much you want it NOW, and I do hope you get it. I would like to see the very next post be a shout that your hubby got a job and everything is going to be all right. I know it will be all right, things do get resolved in their time, you only need patience and coping skills, which I do believe you have. Know also that I'm here for you, praying for you that everything will all work out as it should.
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• Centralia, Missouri
2 Feb 16
but I don't want patience, lol! I want a job handed to him on a platter, k thanks. LOL. I know, it doesn't work like that.
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@just4him (128669)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
3 Feb 16
@Jessicalynnt No it doesn't, but it would be nice if it did.
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• United States
2 Feb 16
I discovered there is no 'perfect' coping mechanism that can alleviate the worry about things NOT happening the way we want but I do see things through as it comes with the strength I know I do have
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• Centralia, Missouri
2 Feb 16
everything is taking awhile sadly. and I know people often can't find jobs for months, but we can't afford that.
@Drosophila (16697)
• Ireland
2 Feb 16
My coping strategy is keep reminding myself these 2 facts. 1)When you have a bad dream, you wake up and you say, phew that's nothing but a bad dream. It has passed. well, life is also like that (ghost dog). 2) What goes up, must come down. Thus the pendulum swings. things will get better. It's the law of physics. (my physic professor).
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• Centralia, Missouri
2 Feb 16
we just seem to have been on the bad side of the swing for a couple of months now
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@Drosophila (16697)
• Ireland
3 Feb 16
@Jessicalynnt ya so upswing is soon
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@valmnz (12742)
• New Zealand
5 Feb 16
Whenever I'm in a similar situation I get totally lost in doing Sudoku puzzles
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• Centralia, Missouri
5 Feb 16
reading for me!
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@scheng1 (24741)
• Singapore
3 Feb 16
Relax, you are making your family life stressful if you keep this kind of mentality. It is ok if you want a job immediately for yourself, but to force a job on someone else, it is a different story. I think you are better off reading more books about positive thinking, or watch Youtube on positive thinking.
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• Centralia, Missouri
3 Feb 16
well we will lose our home and possibly be homeless if he doesnt find one fast, but he knows that.
@fishtiger58 (30319)
• Momence, Illinois
3 Feb 16
We are retired, glad we don't have to worry about getting a job. It's tough out there. Much good luck to you and your hubby.
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• Centralia, Missouri
3 Feb 16
thanks for the wellwishes! We need em
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• Preston, England
2 Feb 16
I just start working out how I can bend the rest of my life out and carry on as before as much as possible
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• Centralia, Missouri
2 Feb 16
lol, that would be nice wouldn't it.
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@PatZAnthony (13117)
• Charlotte, North Carolina
2 Feb 16
Hope you get what you want! We all seem to have various coping techniques.
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• Centralia, Missouri
2 Feb 16
I want hubby to find a job so we don't lose the house and have no where to live.