Neighbors...and duties

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I just learned my neighbor is no more. She must have been 63. That is no age to die. At least not nowadays. My relationship with her have been turbulent. She was physically violent with her driver and servant. She also felt dad should be subservient to her because she held this post in government a few years ago, and also had this attitude because of the wealth she's accumulated. But I could discern that underlying all that was some insecurity. Insecurity that she not being educated enough is likely to be cheated. Insecurity that she might be looked down upon by neighbors because unlike other families here she lived alone, even though she has a son. Insecurity because she felt without help it would be difficult for her to survive and with help she would become obliged to do things she was not happy enough to do. and many other insecurities..which all culminated in her blood pressure moving randomly and physicians not giving her proper attention. What I wanted to ask is, what are the duties of a neighbor? If a lady who is as lonely as her stays around you with the attitude and behavior as she had, would you feel it is ok to send food to her? Rather shouldn't we? Dad has just left to pay his last respects to her, even though she did trouble him at one time. In the last four months or so, she became increasingly dependent on dad..not much but slightly more for some reassurance about her health.. And today dad told me that she once asked him to call her daughter in law and inform her that she was having high blood pressure. Dad felt the daughter in law was rather cold in her approach. For a couple days I did send food to her. But she felt embarrassed taking it and said I need not. At the end of it all, feeling is - I did not do enough.