Working with Ex
By G
@nottoooldtowrite (2715)
Philippines
February 8, 2016 1:49am CST
In my previous work I left a past that did not end well but has taught me so many lessons in life. The greatest lesson learned was how to love truly. And I did but admittedly, did not fight for it. Now the man is married to the girl he got impregnated twice. Yes, the girl's side worked on them getting married prior to the coming out of the second child. Back then he would still ask for us to hangout even if he is married already. Tsk.
I already said my story on being transferred to another affiliate after my one year in the current job. The target movement is in March. Now we are completing our Team and we need someone from Credit to do that. Ex is the Credit guy we need. Now they are asking me if it is okay for them to invite him in our company.
Looking at the big picture, it will be beneficial for the Company as he has ten years of experience in that field. It will also do him good if he will be given the opportunity as he has no more growth in his current job. Now, it is okay with me. I am a professional and I know how to act as one. It has been 8 years since our past so that should be okay.
What do you think? Honestly, is it okay working with ex?
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19 responses
@nottoooldtowrite (2715)
• Philippines
8 Feb 16
I know. I am professional. We both should be.. just in case it will push through.
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@nottoooldtowrite (2715)
• Philippines
8 Feb 16
Right. That is water under the bridge, no need to worry. Hope we think the same.
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@salonga (27775)
• Philippines
8 Feb 16
@nottoooldtowrite I think you can very well handle it purely on a professional level so no problem.
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@nottoooldtowrite (2715)
• Philippines
8 Feb 16
Eight years has done so much to me. I was a professional from the beginning when things were getting out of hand. No, I did not get into any relationship. I put my family (parents, sisters and nephews) first and then myself.
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@nottoooldtowrite (2715)
• Philippines
8 Feb 16
@salonga oh yes. I did it before when we were in the same company. So in case it will push through in the new one, it should be easy.
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@nottoooldtowrite (2715)
• Philippines
8 Feb 16
True. It has been long already. Besides we were working in the same company when he got that girl pregnant and when everything else happened. He was not professional then but I think after two years he matured.
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@nottoooldtowrite (2715)
• Philippines
8 Feb 16
Well, I think they did not contact him yet but I told them that it should be clear to him that we will be working together if he will accept that. I am not sure about the wife but I guess that is another consideration he has to make shen he needs to decide on that offer.
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@nottoooldtowrite (2715)
• Philippines
9 Feb 16
Well I just have to do as I did before.. ignore or decline.
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@nottoooldtowrite (2715)
• Philippines
8 Feb 16
That is right. After all we are matired individuals already.
@nottoooldtowrite (2715)
• Philippines
8 Feb 16
Lol 
you made me laugh with your response.
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@CookieMonster46 (13447)
• United States
9 Feb 16
No, I wouldn't want to work with a non ex, dating someone in the office is usually not a good idea.
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@CookieMonster46 (13447)
• United States
10 Feb 16
@nottoooldtowrite some people do better than others with an ex, but any office I been in, when a couple becomes an ex couple, the war is on. One girl cried every day, trying to get him back, while he was off with a new office romance. other co workers do not feel comfortable around it. The same woman would get sick go home over the issues with the man in the office, and we would be stuck with her work. This went on until the boss ended up letting her go.
@Drosophila (16573)
• Ireland
9 Feb 16
Preferably none of them. But your situation sounds different, so you should be fine
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@nottoooldtowrite (2715)
• Philippines
9 Feb 16
Yes. Should be fine as we have been there and done that.
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@nottoooldtowrite (2715)
• Philippines
8 Feb 16
True. Thank you. Just got to move on after every fall.
@brokenbee (11090)
• Philippines
9 Feb 16
I think I cannot work well if the ex is in the same office with me, especially if he is the type who will ask every now and then to hang out and I still haven't found someone new. Hmmmmm... I don't know... JMO..
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@brokenbee (11090)
• Philippines
9 Feb 16
@nottoooldtowrite so I think it will be fine again...
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@nottoooldtowrite (2715)
• Philippines
9 Feb 16
Well I have been there before when we were in the same company.
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@Ladypeace (2028)
• Singapore
9 Feb 16
Ex sounds yucky because of his irresponsible antics. That aside, you will be fine working with him because you are professional and know how to handle him good.
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@nottoooldtowrite (2715)
• Philippines
9 Feb 16
True. I hope he matured already.
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@alchemistrx (2547)
• Philippines
8 Feb 16
It's hard working with your ex if there is still feelings felt. But if the feelings has already gone might as well work professionally.
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@nottoooldtowrite (2715)
• Philippines
8 Feb 16
Yes, I am professional. When things went topsy turvy we were also in the same company. I was professional, he was not. Took time for him toadjust and act matured.
@nottoooldtowrite (2715)
• Philippines
8 Feb 16
We were not friends but we worked before even after things went sour.
@yalul070 (1713)
• Manila, Philippines
9 Feb 16
@nottoooldtowrite yeah. but i know it could be hard. but you know the true test of professionalism is if you can get it done while setting aside your emotions.
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@nottoooldtowrite (2715)
• Philippines
9 Feb 16
@yalul070 and I have done that before.
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@nottoooldtowrite (2715)
• Philippines
8 Feb 16
We should be professional if that would push through.
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@nottoooldtowrite (2715)
• Philippines
8 Feb 16
True. But it has been 8 years so I hope he did mature
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@iwillfly (27)
•
8 Feb 16
Completely ok to work, especially if you have moved on and also found another companion to be with. In a larger interest of company also you have made a good decision. That is how professionals should behave. who knows you could be at good terms as in friends. If not viable you can always keep a good distance. That will also show him that you do not care.
Life is much more than fussing over an ex.
Good Luck!
@nottoooldtowrite (2715)
• Philippines
8 Feb 16
I am not in any relationship now butvstill I am okay. And as I have said I am professional and I can take that.
@nottoooldtowrite (2715)
• Philippines
9 Feb 16
@GodsMouthPiece all should really be well. Afterall it has been over 8 years.Thank you.
