Surprise? Or maybe not......

@T_gray (7774)
Salina, Kansas
March 12, 2016 8:59pm CST
So over the course of my 4 or 5 months of being here I have had a handful of people confuse me off being a male, which is fine. I have taken no offense to any of it. I have always hated pointing out to them that I am a female. So I thought I would write a post to everyone and hopefully clear some confusion if there were anyone left out there still thinking I was a male. And to complete the process I thought I would change my name and add a picture for added proof. Hehe. So just know once again that I am and was never offended. If anything, I should have been more clear from day one. Everyone here is awesome and I love being here. I have met some great people and look forward to everyday I get on.
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14 responses
• United States
13 Mar 16
Hmm I never thought you were male..and you have a beautiful photo there my friend. I am glad you are still with us. Nice to see you here once again.
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@T_gray (7774)
• Salina, Kansas
13 Mar 16
I am glad you didn't hehe. thanks, I am glad to be here.
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• United States
13 Mar 16
@T_gray I hope all is going well for you friend
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@T_gray (7774)
• Salina, Kansas
13 Mar 16
@TiarasOceanView Eh, things could always be better. The depression could stop anytime now.
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• United States
13 Mar 16
Nice to see you Tiff. I too have met a lot of wonderful people here. Have been here for a long time.
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@T_gray (7774)
• Salina, Kansas
13 Mar 16
@Marcyaz (35316)
• United States
13 Mar 16
I never thought you were a male and your picture should clear that up for those thinking so for whatever reason they thought so. This is a fun site to meet people.
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@Marcyaz (35316)
• United States
13 Mar 16
@T_gray I would be upset if someone thought I was a male.
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@T_gray (7774)
• Salina, Kansas
13 Mar 16
I am so glad you didn't
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@T_gray (7774)
• Salina, Kansas
14 Mar 16
@Marcyaz I am a very forgiving person. hehe
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@kevin1877uk (36988)
17 Mar 16
I love that photo, I also like the others too
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@kevin1877uk (36988)
17 Mar 16
@T_gray You are welcome
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@T_gray (7774)
• Salina, Kansas
17 Mar 16
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@T_gray (7774)
• Salina, Kansas
17 Mar 16
thank you
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• United States
13 Mar 16
I didn't think you were a male. Your icon is clearly a heart though, hehe He-he! Nice to see a face to your username.
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• United States
13 Mar 16
@T_gray I have been cleaning - trying that minimalist style Cleaning step by step and it's not ever ending hence MIA status on myLot lol.
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@T_gray (7774)
• Salina, Kansas
13 Mar 16
@infatuatedbby Ah, I have also been working the down grading my belongings as well. I work on an area at a time. I have been doing it over time so I don't stress about it. I guess they say you should do it one thing at a time. for example, clothes...do all the clothes in every room of your house. Or books....do all the books in every room of your house. Does that make sense?
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@T_gray (7774)
• Salina, Kansas
13 Mar 16
I am glad you didn't hehe. I was just thinking about you....wondering if you were going to get on tonight. Didn't want you to disappear like you did before....
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• Preston, England
13 Mar 16
seems a terrible shame to have to tell people what gender we are so much of the time
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@T_gray (7774)
• Salina, Kansas
13 Mar 16
It is, but I could have been more clear in the beginning I suppose.
• United States
13 Mar 16
I actually make no assumptions on gender. We are all human.
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@T_gray (7774)
• Salina, Kansas
13 Mar 16
I do the same
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@MsTickle (25180)
• Australia
13 Mar 16
This place has certainly attracted some amazing people. As for your depression, feel free to use us as a sounding board because a lot of us really do care and don't judge.
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@MsTickle (25180)
• Australia
13 Mar 16
@T_gray I find it quite difficult to open up here. However, I live in isolation so I see the importance of overcoming my fears and reaching out.
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@T_gray (7774)
• Salina, Kansas
13 Mar 16
Thank you so much. I have had people say that but I guess I isolate myself so much. I need to stop doing that....
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@T_gray (7774)
• Salina, Kansas
14 Mar 16
@MsTickle I am the same way
@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
14 Mar 16
If you have any doubt about any user's gender, you could straight away ask him/her, instead of keeping it a suspense. For the record I am a male from New Delhi, India and I'm here since 2007. It is nice on your part to upload your picture to clarify any doubt. You are looking beautiful in your picture.
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
15 Mar 16
@T_gray You are welcome.
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@T_gray (7774)
• Salina, Kansas
14 Mar 16
Thank you
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@rebelann (111268)
• El Paso, Texas
14 Mar 16
Glad you've got a good sense of humor .... originally I wanted my handle to be rebel, but I added ann to it just to make that female distinction, still, some people over the years have been confused .... I think it might have to do with language barriers, a lot of people whose first language is not English may not make the distinction twixt male n female. K, honestly I wasn't really sure, Tiff coulda been a typo too.
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@rebelann (111268)
• El Paso, Texas
14 Mar 16
I hope it works @T_gray .... dang, I sure hope nobody thinks I'm a pup or a kitty
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@T_gray (7774)
• Salina, Kansas
14 Mar 16
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@T_gray (7774)
• Salina, Kansas
14 Mar 16
Yeah, It never really bothered me all too much when someone would confuse me. Like I said, I never really made it clear from the beginning. I just dropped hints here and there to try and make it clear hehe. hopefully changing my name will work this time....
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@Vjvals (906)
• Roseville, California
13 Mar 16
Not really because I read your biography from the start
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@T_gray (7774)
• Salina, Kansas
14 Mar 16
Thank you
@JudyEv (326170)
• Rockingham, Australia
13 Mar 16
There are a few people here that don't have gender-specific names or avatars and it can be hard to tell occasionally. That's a lovely photo.
@T_gray (7774)
• Salina, Kansas
13 Mar 16
I agree...and thank you
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@Lucky15 (37346)
• Philippines
13 Mar 16
i know you are a female, reading your discussion says i so :)
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@T_gray (7774)
• Salina, Kansas
13 Mar 16
@JohnRoberts (109857)
• Los Angeles, California
13 Mar 16
You most definitely look like a girl in the photo. No confusion there.
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@T_gray (7774)
• Salina, Kansas
13 Mar 16
hehe