40th Class Reunion Coming Down the Road

United States
March 14, 2016 8:10pm CST
@JudyEv inspired me to write this discussion after reading her post about her class reunion. I was delighted to see that her classmates still gather and enjoy each other's company. Most of my classmates are people that I only knew as underclassmen. I was supposed to graduate in 1975. Foolishly I quit school in my junior year. Thought I knew it all. Didn't take me long to realize that I wasn't a wise move. I returned to school to finish my junior year, and graduate with the class of 1976. There were a few people that I called my friends in my senior year. Sadly we never stayed in touch once we graduated. Many years ago I helped plan one of the reunions. I was the wallflower as were the other committee members. Nobody came to our table to say hello. Of course, I could have got up and socialized, but when I looked about the room I realized that I really knew only one person. She was on the planning committee. Now the 40th is happening this summer. The committee has elaborate plans for this reunion. None are free. The major get together is always way to rich for my purse. I doubt I will attend. Why spend a fortune to sit in a room full of people that you really have nothing in common with other than you graduated on the same day? So, on the evening of the reunion, I will spend time with my husband, perhaps fishing at our favorite fishing spot. Relaxing and enjoying our time together. Cost: Nada.
On Saturday we drove for two hours to attend a reunion of people with whom I attended high school. I also attended primary school with many of them. We have had...
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@sol_cee (17416)
• Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
15 Mar 16
Haven't joined any reunions at all. Always boycott them. Cost: Nada.
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@DianneN (85168)
• United States
15 Mar 16
That's a sad story, but at least you graduated. I have my reunion in September.
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• United States
15 Mar 16
Yes, I did graduate. I am happy for that.
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• United States
27 Mar 16
@ElusiveButterfly you should be happy for that. So many people that quit never go back.
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• United States
27 Mar 16
@CoralLevang when I worked at our local high school as a secretary in the guidance office I had a student come in and request a slip to unenroll. I told him I wouldn't give it to him. He said I had to. I told him that he would have to see someone else because I was not going to be the one to give him one. He left my office and came back the next day, passed by my desk and smiled. He did this every day for quite a while. Over the years he stopped by my office quite a few times. I had changed jobs and was the attendance clerk. I often called him to get his butt out of bed and get to school. He nearly missed graduating by just a few hours. I called his mother at work to alert her of this. She went home and brought him to school. On graduation day he thanked me and said he couldn't have done it without me. When he asked me why, I said, because I care about you. If someone had done the same for me, I would have stayed in school rather than quit when I did. Lucky for me I was able to turn myself around and go back and graduate.
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• Preston, England
16 Mar 16
my university reunion about ten years ago was very badly attended too sadly
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• United States
16 Mar 16
My daughter's 20th reunion is happening this year too. I am doubtful that it will be well attended. In past years they have tried to gather a crowd and so few showed up.
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@TheSojourner (17304)
• United States
27 Mar 16
I graduated in 1972. I went to my first reunion on my 40th which was 2012. The only reason I went was because I thought it was going to be my last year. I had been diagnosed with cancer and was told I had 6 months to live. I decided to attend and it was wonderful, even though I was not very popular in school. It it was wonderful in a way to see everybody, but you know that everybody has their own lives. And you move on. I hope that we have a 45th because that will be next year. There are several of us that have realized some health issues. None of us will live forever. It gives us a chance to get to know some new people in a different light than what we remembered when we were teenagers. It was also a way to make some amends that were needed from back in those days.
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• United States
27 Mar 16
Oh my Coral. My heart goes out to you. Being handed such a dreadful diagnosis. Hope your health has improved. The people I graduated with were more or less strangers, all but a handful. When Iook at pictures from the last reunion, I see people that I see in passing, people that I have connected with on Facebook. I do not see those that I am closest to. I just cannot justify spending so much money to be around a bunch of people that I have nothing in common with. I am happy that you decided to go to your 40th and had a good time. Who knows, I may change my mind.
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• United States
27 Mar 16
@ElusiveButterfly Thanks. You know the reality is this: we are all living with whatever we have been handed. I am grateful that it's been four years (almost) since that. For now, things are stable. That's a good thing. :-) I try to stay focused on what is beyond the diagnosis...or any other challenge we can all face. :-) I agree that most are just strangers...and that's hard to know how to be who we are with them. I would recommend that you go to 75 and 76... :-) Here is what I want you to remember, no matter what you choose to do.... You were somewhat of a stranger to the young man you shared the story of. Yet, you had more influence that you may realize. When you start sharing who you are with the strangers in life, you never know who you will touch, and what your stories will mean to those who never really knew you. Similar things can happen at reunions. :-) I hope you do change your mind.
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• United States
27 Mar 16
@CoralLevang You are a such a sweetie. I am so glad that our paths have crossed. Perhaps I may go to this dreaded reunion. One never knows. Maybe I'll even bring my husband. I know that a few eyebrows will be raised.
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@Jessicalynnt (47880)
• Centralia, Missouri
15 Mar 16
thats my thoughts, there are only 4 that I would even care to see again in my year, the rest of my friends were either older by a year or two, or younger
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• United States
15 Mar 16
I once told my daughter that the friends you had in high school are rarely the friends you'll have later in your life. Those that stood by you throughout the years are the true and best friends you'll ever have.
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• Centralia, Missouri
15 Mar 16
@ElusiveButterfly very true, I am still in contact with 2 of the four, and always wonder what happened to the other 2. The college friends I am still in contact with many, thank you facebook
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• United States
15 Mar 16
@Jessicalynnt I have carried on conversations with a couple of my classmates, but do not talk to them at all off Facebook.
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• United States
16 Mar 16
I agree with ya although a few of my high school friends and I still talk but we saw each other at the 20th, we know what we look like now, we still have means to communicate so why bother spending so much . . .
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• United States
16 Mar 16
Exactly Erica. I also know from working on past reunions that a chunk of the money from sale of tickets to the main event is put away into an account for use on future reunions.
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• United States
16 Mar 16
@ElusiveButterfly yeah the same is true for our alumni using some of the past monies thrown into escrow for future events but still when and if the invitation to a 40th comes, we shall see said me
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• United States
16 Mar 16
@enlightenedpsych2 I suggested a picnic at one of the local parks. Also a pot luck dinner. Found a venue that didn't charge for using their space. Nothing flew. Pfffff
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@JudyEv (134905)
• Bunbury, Australia
15 Mar 16
What a shame that your reunion wasn't more of a success. Some of our people haven't returned after the first one but I think many made an effort to include everybody even if they didn't know them well. If you were only with a group for a year or two, and many years have passed, then it would be easy to forget your classmates.
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• United States
15 Mar 16
I have connected with them on Facebook, but hardly have any interactions with them. The bash at the Country Club is for the few that can afford it. Five years ago it was $80 per couple and you only got appetizers. Um, sorry, but that isn't what I call worthy of my money.
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@JudyEv (134905)
• Bunbury, Australia
15 Mar 16
@ElusiveButterfly I can understand why you wouldn't go for this amount.
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• United States
15 Mar 16
@JudyEv I was told we could go the chicken barbeque that the volunteer firemen host. My husband isn't fond of chicken and they do not offer alternatives. Oh well. Their loss.
@BelleStarr (39696)
• United States
15 Mar 16
I have only gone to one reunion, my 25th. The way I look at it, the people I liked in High School I still see and the rest of them I didn't care about then and don't care about now!! lol
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@BelleStarr (39696)
• United States
16 Mar 16
@ElusiveButterfly lol My thoughts exactly!!
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@Platespinner (17062)
• Winston Salem, North Carolina
15 Mar 16
I haven't gone to any class reunions. I had a couple of close friends that I wouldn't mind seeing again, but rather expect that like me they wouldn't be attending anyhow.
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• United States
15 Mar 16
I would rather get together one-on-one with the few people that I call friends.
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• Winston Salem, North Carolina
15 Mar 16
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@Lucky15 (33698)
• Philippines
16 Mar 16
The reason why i.didn't attend the homecoming this year...either i become a wallflower or a "listener"
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• United States
16 Mar 16
I actually have become quite a voice over the years. Just don't feel the need to be amongst those I don't even know personally.
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• United States
15 Mar 16
Oh but I wish you could go anyway Elusive. I can understand though with the money aspect too. Fishing is funner Isnt it ~ Id rather be fishing ~ good tshirt lolz
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• United States
15 Mar 16
I don't socialize with any of the people I graduated with. One person, whom I was good friends with in high school, I now work with. She and I are no longer friends, just a person we graduated with.
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@Shavkat (65270)
• Philippines
15 Mar 16
It would be a great thing to have reunion and see the people came across our lives. However, I cannot allow for some batch mates to pull me down because of how they are more successful than me. On the other hand, I do think if I had such reunion it would be a blast.
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• United States
15 Mar 16
I would rather socialize with people that I am close to and would have more in common with than a moment in time.
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@Tampa_girl7 (26226)
• United States
16 Mar 16
I graduated from high school in 1980. I have never been to any of the reunions.
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